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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life
- The Chump Lady's Survival Guide
- Narrated by: Laura Copland
- Length: 6 hrs and 36 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity.
When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Full of solid advice that champions self-respect, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.
Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.
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- Amanda
- 2024-09-17
Fantastic/Informative/Eye Opening
The content of this book is incredible and truly amazing how much I felt like virtually all the things that were being discussed were things that I was going through or things that my cheater would say to me to try to manipulate me! Very eye opening!
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- mamajga
- 2020-05-29
A much needed book.
Finally a book on infidelity that fits in with modern times. Cheating is a big problem in society and this book will give readers the confidence to deal with it in a very empowering way.
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- Anonymous User
- 2022-12-13
Very helpful
If you are looking for this type of self-help book, I’m sorry. I know you feel broken. This book will offer you advice to help you put the pieces back together.
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- Erin E. Kelly
- 2019-05-05
What you need
If your spouse has cheated on you, this is the book you need. Listening to Laura Copland’s strong voice reading Tracy Schorn’s strong words will give you strength.
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- janice
- 2023-08-18
it helped me!
this is what you need if you need to understand your pain and why you need to leave. unicorn marriage after infidelity is an exhausting facade to maintain.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2019-03-27
"Read" this even if you believe you're a unicorn
narration was great, subject matter is to the point which is exactly what is needed when going through this crap
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- Sarah
- 2023-06-20
Read the Book!
This book helps you whetther you are ready to leave or not. Its about taking your self worth back and learning to value yourself by setting boundaries. Its a clear path forward that guides you out of the fog of destructive relationships and infedelity. Read it!
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- Anonymous User
- 2020-04-18
Cracks like a whip!
This book was a breath of fresh air. Absolutely brilliant. A gem amongst a sea of books on infidelity focused on "rebuilding trust after an affair" or "rebuilding your relationship after infidelity". This book was exactly what I needed; witty, crass, tough love, I laughed, I cried, it had it all. My only regret is that it was the longer! 100000/10
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- Angelica Anderson
- 2023-01-21
A dose of reality with humour
What a refreshing book after a library of self help. I actually laughed out loud a number of times.
There are no put down no feeling worse about the situation. Just the facts and the laughs.
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- Hung Ly
- 2020-08-09
Awesome! Get this if you been cheated on!
Honest and direct! No bs. Things will be clearer after reading or listening to this book
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