Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing
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Cate Blanchett
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Lauren Hough
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Lauren Hough
About this listen
A New York Times Best Seller
"A memoir in essays about so many things - growing up in an abusive cult, coming of age as a lesbian in the military, forced out by homophobia, living on the margins as a working class woman and what it’s like to grow into the person you are meant to be. Hough’s writing will break your heart." (Roxane Gay, author of Bad Feminist)
Searing and extremely personal essays, shot through with the darkest elements America can manifest, while discovering light and humor in unexpected corners.
As an adult, Lauren Hough has had many identities: an airman in the US Air Force, a cable guy, a bouncer at a gay club. As a child, however, she had none. Growing up as a member of the infamous cult The Children of God, Hough had her own self robbed from her. The cult took her all over the globe - to Germany, Japan, Texas, Chile - but it wasn't until she finally left for good that Lauren understood she could have a life beyond "The Family".
Along the way, she's loaded up her car and started over, trading one life for the next. She's taken pilgrimages to the sights of her youth, been kept in solitary confinement, dated a lot of women, dabbled in drugs, and eventually found herself as what she always wanted to be: a writer. Here, as she sweeps through the underbelly of America - relying on friends, family, and strangers alike - she begins to excavate a new identity even as her past continues to trail her and color her world, relationships, and perceptions of self.
At once razor-sharp, profoundly brave, and often very, very funny, the essays in Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing interrogate our notions of ecstasy, queerness, and what it means to live freely. Each piece is a reckoning: of survival, identity, and how to reclaim one's past when carving out a future.
A Vintage Original
©2021 Lauren Hough (P)2021 Random House AudioWhat the critics say
One of the Best Books of the Year: NPR, The Philadelphia Inquirer
“Lauren Hough's Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing is so brilliant, so humane and pissed off and hysterically funny and thought-provoking, and so beautifully written it's hard to describe except to say that it's a book that is going to mean a lot to a lot of people, and it might cause some fights, and you better read it so you can have the pleasure of reading it and the pleasure of talking about it with everyone. She is the kind of extraordinary writer who could make anything interesting; that these essays are about her own astonishing life, written with a clear eye and a sense of humor so quick and black it hurts, and a kind of ruthlessness for herself and others, means it's like no other book anywhere. I loved every sentence.” (Elizabeth McCracken, author of Bowlaway)
“Lauren Hough is the best new voice I’ve read in years: fiercely honest, funny, brazen, and unrepentant. Best of all, the propulsive storytelling of Leaving Isn’t the Hardest Thing is anchored by an unexpected tenderness and vulnerability that will get you by the throat every damn time. Like a petulant cross between David Sedaris and Mary Karr, Hough is the genuine article. Leaving might not be the hardest thing, but leaving this vibrant, heart-wrenching memoir behind is damn near impossible.” (Heather Havrilesky, Ask Polly columnist and author of What If This Were Enough?)
"Lauren Hough’s extraordinary essay collection Leaving Isn’t the Hardest Thing is as powerful as it is poignant. So many moments in this exceptionally crafted essays brought me to tears and before long I would find myself laughing as Hough wielded her razor sharp wit. This is a memoir in essays about so many things — growing up in an abusive cult, coming of age as a lesbian in the military, forced out by homophobia, living on the margins as a working class woman and what it’s like to grow into the person you are meant to be. Hough’s writing will break your heart.... This is one of those rare books that will instantly become part of the literary canon and the world of letters will be better for it." (Roxane Gay, author of Difficult Women)
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- Martha Jansenberger
- 2021-04-18
Eviscerating and generative
I was introduced to Lauren’s writing a few years ago, through the cable guy essay. I’ve thought about that essay so many times since then, and will always be grateful for the way it shifted my understanding of power in casual interactions.
I have never preordered anything in my entire life until I learned about this book. I have been waiting for it’s release for months, and it absolutely exceeded my expectations.
I have a lot to say about this work, but I’ll try and keep it brief- her narratives squeezed all the air out of my lungs more times than I can count. Her description of how she engaged with her partners was both eviscerating and profoundly insightful- all my years of therapy has not accomplished the work that this book did.
Thank you for writing this Lauren, your voice is so powerful and important.
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- BR
- 2021-04-23
Someone give this woman a medal just for surviving
I am betting this book will stick with me forever. This book is the author's confessional. A reminder that we are all fragile, fallible creatures who can find beauty and humour, even when steeped in a life of trauma.
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- Lorraine Bennett
- 2023-01-15
I felt so validated
I too am a cult baby, just a different cult. They all operate with a similar format so it was easy to see her story as my story. She tells the story like I was sitting right beside her, the feeling she evoked was spot on and profound. If you didn't grow up in a cult, well this is what it is like, to weird to believe it is true. It is raw, and real, not sugar coated, just the way I like things to be. Tell me how it is not how you think it should be. I actually started writing about my past, for the cathartic release. This book just made me feel stuff I had long forgotten, but I need to feel it. Perfect timing for me in my journey. My life is taking a huge change with a huge unknown, I needed to hear this right now. Validation. Thank you.
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- April White
- 2023-05-30
Didn’t know what I was getting into
I picked this book to read a bit randomly - searching for writing by queer authors. I’m so glad I picked it. Frickin great writing and so powerful. Being stuck or kept in a closet is expanded beyond the queer narrative.
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