Low-Demand Parenting
Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection with Your Uniquely Wired Child
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Lauryn Allman
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Written by:
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Amanda Diekman
About this listen
Short, easily digestible guide for parents on how to reduce family conflict by dropping unnecessary demands from daily life to help neurodivergent families to thrive.
"Low-demand parenting requires radical acceptance. It says to the kid right in front of you, I see you, just as you are. - You are ok here. I love you right here."
Parent to neurodivergent children and autistic adult Amanda Diekman outlines a parenting approach that finally lowers the bar for the whole family, enabling the equilibrium of the home to be restored.
Low-demand parenting allows you to drop the demands and expectations that are making family life impossible and embrace the joyful freedom of living life with low demands. It can be a particularly effective approach for children with high anxiety levels including neurodivergent children. Amanda talks from experience and teaches you how to identify what the big, tiny and invisible demands are for your own child and gives you the step-by-step instructions on how to drop them.
Full of practical resources and scripts that are easy to implement in busy everyday life, this book is your flashlight and your map to parenting your uniquely wired child. It will not tell you where to go, but it will help you find your way so you and your family thrive.
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- Anonymous User
- 2024-02-29
Help for PDA parents
As a parent to a child with autism and a PDA profile I have felt quite helpless. This book put words to my struggles and gave tangible help. There is a way through.
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- Frustrated Homeowner
- 2024-09-19
The advice is clear and simple. The author is authentic.
This book has changed my outlook on parenting all my kids and helped me recognize the gratitude that already exists in me. Thank you very much.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2024-04-19
Refreshing
Fantastic - we need this info for our kids who have an invisible nervous system disability. People just don’t get it.
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- Shaleen Sangha
- 2024-01-06
Great book
Great bookbook on how to adopt a low demand approach. The narrator is cold and there are some editing errors in it.
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- Shelley D.
- 2024-08-29
Useful resource
Helpful book for parents with neurodiverse kids with PDA presentations. The book is a resource that considers the needs of the whole family, including neurodiverse parents.
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