Men Who Hate Women
From Incels to Pickup Artists, the Truth About Extreme Misogyny and How It Affects Us All
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Laura Bates
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Laura Bates
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Includes an exclusive interview between the author and Ben Hurst, head of facilitation and training at The Good Lad Initiative and presenter of the TedxLondonWomen talk 'Boys won’t be boys. Boys will be what we teach them to be'.
An explosive book examining the rise of secretive, extremist communities who despise women. In this ground-breaking investigation, Laura traces the roots of misogyny across a complex spiders web of groups extending from men's rights activists and pick-up artists to Men Going Their Own Way, trolls and the Incel movement, in the name of which some men have committed terrorist acts.
Drawing parallels with other extremist movements around the world, Bates seeks to understand what attracts men to the movement, how it grooms and radicalises boys, how it operates and what can be done to stop it.
Most urgently of all, she traces the pathways this extreme ideology has taken from the darkest corners of the internet to emerge covertly in our mainstream media, our playgrounds and our parliament.
Going undercover on and offline, Laura provides the first, comprehensive look at this hitherto under-the-radar phenomenon, including fascinating interviews with former members of these communities, the academics studying this movement and the men fighting back.
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- Tiffany
- 2024-02-26
A Must Read
I always love a book narrated by the author. The pace is good and the performance is clear and intriguing. The book itself left me with a permanent scowl the entire time I was listening to it and it's a book every single person should listen to. It's difficult at times, infuriating, heartbreaking, disgusting, and yet, I still think it's a must listen.
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- Sheila
- 2024-08-27
A very important topic
Ms. Bates, thank you for researching and writing on this important topic. It has long been observed by myself that some men hate me simply for existing as a woman. And it's clear to me that throughout history there have been many men who hate women or assume that women are inferior. However, I hope your work and the work of others paves the way to disentangle these belief systems and wake society up and reach innocent boys before they become indoctrinated by hatred. I have been fortunate to have the support of great men like my father, my brother, and my husband. But navigating the world outside of my safe spaces is not always pleasant. I truly hope that one day every woman can walk down any street in the world without fear of harassment, rape, or murder.
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- Chelsea Patterson
- 2021-11-10
Excellent In EVERY Way!!
Men Who Hate Women by Laura Bates
Is a masterpiece.
The book is a deep dive into the manosphere and it’s impacts on the society at large.
The manosphere is the group term for websites, blogs, online forms etc that promote a hyper (toxic) masculinity, anti-feminist agenda and misogynistic views, similar to “locker room talk” but everywhere. Bates tells us in the introduction they are making a conscious effort to directly quote those in the manosphere and follows the indoctrination and then act committed by men who were part of these groups and societies inability to deal, report, police or curb such violent acts for … umm… let’s say reasons. There are many but let’s be honest it’s because misogyny in society at large and because the manosphere’s ideology has entered into society ie (why didn’t she just close her legs, why was she drunk, well if they just had sex regularly this wouldn’t have happened, what about the false rape, our poor men can’t even pay a women a complement, or Mike Pence “I’m not alone with a woman unless my wife is there”)
Many of the individuals stories you may have heard in passing, the Isla Vista Murdes, Toronto’s van attach, a certain republican Politician but not the whole story, not what led to it or what transpired post attack, or the hero worship that follows. I’m never hearing the word Gentleman again. The quotes and direct lines she plucked from these spaces, book, YouTube speeches, hate mail, and comment sections are not for the faint of heart. You, well hopefully you will, get physically sick that someone has painstakingly told her how he would visit her to rape her, detach her from her sexual organs then rape them too. Only to add to the letter her actual address. The justification for this rape is because she spoke on the media about gamer-gate, or rape statistic and a man, this man, and many like him DID NOT LIKE THIS!
I am well versed in feminist theory and sexual health books, I have even read a fair few books dedicated to misogyny. But this is different. It focuses nothing on women, nothing on female activist, nothing on woman’s movement or any queer female lead intersectional theory or even the backlash. Instead it focuses on the men their voices, their sphere, their reality.
The book explores the hate that rises from these groups focus, the lexicon, the ideology, the heroes, the system or ladder that makes opinions formed and made in the crucible of a extreme small community makes its way to Boris Johnson or Trumps’ desk, into legislation. How the veneer of respectability and coded languages leads one or the public to find no fault with it, but also still have the dog whistle language to let those misogynist know the system is working for them.
If you ever wanted to learn what beta males are (the obsession of alpha and beta) the allure of racism and misogyny, some mens ability to in the same sentence call themselves a perfect gentleman as they threaten to rape a woman. Then this book is perfect for you.
Whilst reading this book, I ended up speaking with a man who (unprovoked) told me, “I think all men equally love and hate their girlfriends” then went on to explain why that is. Why society has taken away his rights, and how woman are all whores that refuse to give him sex… whilst on a date with a woman. (Roll eyes)
This book is perfect to learn these dog whistles to understand what’s behind the wolf whistles.
There are parts of hope, with an understanding that we treat crime against woman differently than any other type of Terrorism, the role isolation plays in forming and indoctrinating these people, the uncovering that with misogyny comes other forms of hate including racial, religious and all steam from self hate. But in no way is it uplifting. You may need to take breaths, stop and start, scream into a forest “are you fucking kidding me”, if you are a woman and enjoy men in a romantic way it may ruin relationships future or past when you realize “oh my god that asshole used that exact language! Did he read it from that website?”
It a difficult read, but very worthy reading. And probably should be read by parents of teenage boys, woman, and educators. Not to mention the brave men that hate men who hate women.
Truly there needs to be an English word of finding something laughable and terrifying at the same time… because this is the reality of Men Who Hate Women.
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