Platonic
How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends
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Marisa G. Franco PhD
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Marisa G. Franco PhD
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Is understanding the science of attachment the key to building lasting friendships and finding “your people” in an ever-more-fragmented world?
How do we make and keep friends in an era of distraction, burnout, and chaos, especially in a society that often prizes romantic love at the expense of other relationships? In Platonic, Dr. Marisa G. Franco unpacks the latest, often counterintuitive findings about the bonds between us—for example, why your friends aren’t texting you back (it’s not because they hate you!), and the myth of “friendships happening organically” (making friends, like cultivating any relationship, requires effort!). As Dr. Franco explains, to make and keep friends you must understand your attachment style—secure, anxious, or avoidant: it is the key to unlocking what’s working (and what’s failing) in your friendships.
Making new friends, and deepening longstanding relationships, is possible at any age—in fact, it’s essential. The good news: there are specific, research-based ways to improve the number and quality of your connections using the insights of attachment theory and the latest scientific research on friendship. Platonic provides a clear and actionable blueprint for forging strong, lasting connections with others—and for becoming our happiest, most fulfilled selves in the process.
©2022 Marisa G. Franco (P)2022 Penguin AudioYou may also enjoy...
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What the critics say
"Dr. Marisa G. Franco and Platonic have been invaluable guides on my journey to nurture and deepen my friendships. Her advice is wise, concrete, and effective—and my friendships are better for it.”—Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed, Founder of Together Rising
“Dr. Franco’s book ‘Platonic’ is an ode to modern friendship, complete with a practical guide to making and keeping friends. It reminds us of the importance of platonic love in today’s society—bucking the notion that romantic love trumps everything else in our lives…the depth of research Ms. Franco weaves into the book sheds light onto an aspect of our world that—like an old and trusted pal—it may be too easy to take for granted.”—Wall Street Journal
"A remarkable examination of the epidemic of loneliness and sound advice for alleviating it...A pleasing mix of research, advice, and humor, this book is a useful tonic to a key social ailment."—Kirkus Reviews (starred)
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- pwdmommy3
- 2022-10-20
I don't think I have heard the term meta-analysis
This is the 3rd of 3 books that I have thoroughly enjoyed on audible. I enjoyed the thesis, the great examples followed by the supporting studies.
That the conclusion makes sense may help me buy her arguments. Also, the characteristics for making friends are not different from those of being a decent human being or being a good leader.
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- David Labib
- 2023-07-18
A great listen!
I love how everything in the book is supported with modern studies, everything she says is backed up. I loved the summaries, especially because I listened to the book over an extended period of time. The narration is absolutely engaging and overall attention grabbing.
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-09-01
Everyone should read this !
I loved this book and thought it was so insightful in all the ways that friendship is so important as well as all the things we can pay attention to more so better the relationships we have.
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- Omoseeke Seye-Adenugba
- 2023-05-13
The truth about friendship
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It explains many things about friendship that I had felt but been unable to articulate. I like the takeaways at the end of each chapter and how it provides action steps on how to be a better human.
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-06-09
well written and well read
the authors voice and writing style delivers challenging truths about interpersonal interactions while employing a deep empathy for the human experience. strongly recommend
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-01-04
Important
Reading the made me realize how important friendships are in society. Great helpful information, great narration.
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- Melian
- 2023-11-01
This just felt so true!
I would rate Platonic 7/5 if I could! So badly needed in Canada/the US!
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- Ben Coulson
- 2024-05-09
Relatable
Many points hit home as relatable and explaining issues in my past and how to work them out for the future
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