Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent
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Narrated by:
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Senn Annis
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Written by:
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Margalis Fjelstad
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Jean McBride
About this listen
Being partnered with a narcissist or borderline personality can be hard enough, but learning how to shield children from the fallout is paramount. Here, the authors tell listeners how to manage parenting when a narcissistic or borderline partner is part of the equation.
Life in a narcissistic family system is at best challenging, and too often filled with chaos, isolation, emotional outbursts, and rigid controlling behaviors. It is too often devoid of peace and emotional safety. In the worst outcomes, children in these families grow up with low self-worth, issues with trust and belonging, and a lack of self-compassion. They are at significant risk of carrying the cycle forward and having poor adult relationships. This book offers a way to intervene and disrupt the cycle of negative outcomes for children.
Authored two family therapists who bring a combined total of 60 years of clinical practice with individuals and families, the book pulls no punches, giving clear-headed advice, easy-to-follow actions to help children, and an abundance of teaching examples. Instead of the doom and gloom scenarios often presented about life with a narcissist or borderline, this book provides a much more positive outlook, and most importantly, it offers hope and a path to an entirely different outcome for the family members.
Supported by current research in neuroscience and mindfulness, and parenting information, the book focuses on teaching resilience and self-compassion to raise emotionally healthy children, even in a narcissistic family system. It starts by helping parents get a clear understanding of what they face with a narcissistic or borderline partner. There is no room here for denial, but there are also many options to explore. It explains how and why the narcissistic family system functions so poorly for raising healthy children, and pinpoints the deficits while providing information on how to intervene more effectively for the benefit of the children.
Using their years of experience, the authors present ideas for staying together as well as knowing when to leave the relationship and how best to do that. Emphasis throughout the book is on supporting and strengthening the listener with encouragement, concrete ideas, skills, and compassionate understanding.
©2020 Margalis Fjelstad and Jean McBride (P)2020 Rowman & LittlefieldYou may also enjoy...
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- Atosa
- 2023-06-01
a great big THANK YOU!!
This book was helpful beyond words. I love this author. I've also read other related books by her on the BPD subject. I found validation, help and healing in every word.
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- Jillian
- 2022-09-17
Liberating
If you've sought this book out you are likely....having a time. Let me assure you this book will make things feel less scary and much more manageable. It's honest, and practical and despite some hard truths, is very comforting. You essentially receive the professional, compassionate and non-judgement advise and support you would expect of a therapist in book format.
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- Yara
- 2023-06-09
Love this book! Listened many times over.
Some of us are stuck in a relationship with a borderline or narcissistic partner-parent. We r still have to survive! This book really helps with that.
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- 2021-11-02
a guideline for condoning abusive behaviours
This whole book is just about how to avoid and manage an abusive partner's behaviours. Should be called a guide to walking on eggshells. I only gave it one star cause I couldn't give it zero.
if your partner acts like this, get out as fast as you can.
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