
Raising Securely Attached Kids
Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience
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Eli Harwood
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“A comprehensive road map for parents who want to raise securely attached, emotionally healthy children. A parenting must-read.”—Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions
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Learn how to create a lifetime of connection, trust, and open communication with your children through connection-focused parenting.
Though there have been countless studies on how attachment styles affect our romantic relationships, Raising Securely Attached Kids is the first book to reframe the subject for caregivers and children, and brings transformative change to your relationships of all stripes.
Therapist and wildly popular attachment research expert Eli Harwood (@attachmentnerd) illuminates the science that explores our innate human need to bond with other humans, and helps us harness it as the only parenting approach proven to have a lasting impact. Her loyal following—fast approaching the millions—connects to Eli’s accessible approach that helps everyone form secure and close relationships with their kids, which helps them develop resilience, confidence, and form close relationships in the future.
Hopeful and inspiring, this essential evidence-based guide shows parents, educators, and anyone with children in their lives that they are not alone in the questions and concerns they may have about raising confident, capable, and caring kids.
Covering every parenting era from newborns to adults, Raising Securely Attached Kids’ simple, real-life strategies will help you:
· Move past old patterns from your childhood to become the parent or caregiver you yearn to be—no matter what you went through growing up
· Resolve past attachment traumas so you can offer a calm, connected, and secure base
· Create a secure attachment relationship with your kids by choosing connection over control
· Build and reinforce a strong foundation of trust with scripts and practical tools
· Understand that it’s never too late to create a stronger bond with your children
*This program includes a downloadable PDF which contains the table of influence approaches as well as the formula list of a child’s internal state vs. external choices.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
©2024 Eli Harwood (P)2024 Random House AudioYou may also enjoy...
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- Severn Nelson
- 2025-01-18
Shedding light on generational mental health and wellness
Attachment is so critical in raising and being healthy humans. As a science that was not developed when I was patented I was eager to know more and have come away feeling this was the best book I’ve read on the topic yet. Having read Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld, I found this more relatable and down to earth with examples and explanations that made sense and had a better hold on the whole situation of what it is to be a parent and what the world holds for our children.
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- Alyssa Cole
- 2025-02-10
I am so grateful for this book
This book gave me the confidence and tools I need to be the best parent I can be. Before my child was even born I had a deep desire to foster a secure attachment. Eli’s approach to parenting at every age makes so much sense. She offers advice, personal anecdotes, and scripts to make fostering a secure attachment relationship with your child a little easier. Eli Harwood has somehow made bringing up difficult topics with our children much more approachable. Having read this book, I now feel confident in my ability to provide guidance through a strong connection with my child. I am so grateful to have this information and will certainly read this again as my child grows and we encounter new situations to navigate together.
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- Mark Wong
- 2025-01-02
Heal your inner child and then all other relationships
This Beautiful Book single handedly improved my relationship with myself, my adult children, my grandchildren, my husband, my parents as well as my outlook on humanity in general! Thank you Eli!
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