The Anxious Hearts Guide
Rising Above Anxious Attachment
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Rikki Cloos
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Rikki Cloos
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It’s been three days with no call or text back...you can’t eat, sleep, or work. You’re going to die alone in your bed, gripping your phone, waiting for a response; or at least that’s what your brain keeps telling you.
There’s a common flaw that people who chase partners all have in common. Are you an anxious attacher? If you’re still holding your phone hoping they’ll reply then drop it now and pick up this book.
Stop the self-fulfilling prophecy of worrying that your relationships will all end in disaster. Take a deep dive into healing your anxious attachment, learn how to boost your self-esteem and independence, and build a foundation for healthy love. The Anxious Hearts Guide is a collection of years of psychology research, book recommendations, and strategies to help supercharge your relational health and stop pushing potential partners away. It is an approachable, accessible, and enlightening window into why anxious attachers do the frustrating things that we do for love and how to rise above it.
©2021 Rikki Cloos (P)2023 Octopi Publishing PartnersYou may also enjoy...
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- Jas
- 2024-01-05
A book with good insight and questions, you should ask yourself in your life.
Some parts didnt relate to me, but others made me think about my behaviors in my relationships. A good thought provocating book on how to better yourself for not only romantic relationships but how you interact with others.
you have to be ready to analyze yourself to get the books message, and see what is applocable for you.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2023-10-09
Don't do it.
The book shames you by telling you you're needy and clingy and that the other people in our lives have to "deal with you". That in order to finally have a healthy relationship, because it's all your fault that you don't, you have to go to therapy and learn to love yourself first. Then get in shape and join a sports team, because we all obviously notice someone in shape. And if we don't respect our bodies, how can we expect anyone else to.
I stopped listening at that point. Reader, you deserve to be loved + respected because you are human. Yes, trauma made things messy and you have an insecure attachment. Likely no one taught you how to love yourself! We heal IN relationships, you do not have to love yourself first. You are not needy, everyone has needs. Talking with a safe person can help you distinguish which needs are true for you, and which ones come from trying to control your anxiety/your partner. And please, don't read this book.
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