The Baby Decision
How to Make the Most Important Choice of Your Life
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Narrated by:
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Kathleen Godwin
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Written by:
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Merle Bombardieri MSW LICSW
About this listen
“A warmly empathic, wide-ranging manual.” (Kirkus Reviews)
"This valuable unbiased book skillfully shows readers how to stop fretting over the choice and take time to make the right one." (BlueInk starred review and notable book)
Featured in The Washington Post and The New York Times.
Baby or child-free? Which will it be? Is this decision keeping you up at night? Do you feel terrified you will regret your decision? Are you paralyzed by this high-stakes choice?
Now, you can get off the fence and get on with your life. Imagine your relief when you discover the right choice and break free from obsession. Picture yourself enjoying the pleasures of parenthood or the freedom and spontaneity of living child-free.
The Baby Decision is a powerful, unbiased guidebook by a professional coach/psychotherapist who has specialized in the topic for 40 years. With wisdom, depth, and humor, Merle will help you take this overwhelming decision and break it down into a digestible sequence of five steps.
During this discovery process, you will:
- Dissolve fear and doubt, using 30 visualization exercises and thought experiments to uncover your answer
- Have deep talks with your partner, even if you disagree
- Resist pressures from family and friends and fully consider the rewards of the child-free choice
- Learn the latest on one-child families, single, LGBTQI+, and older parents' fertility and adoption
- Steal a few benefits from the opposite choice
Merle Bombardieri, MSW, LICSW, is a psychotherapist, coach, and workshop leader. Although she enjoyed raising her daughters, she has been a child-free advocate since 1978. She has contributed to Our Bodies Ourselves, The Boston Globe Magazine, Glamour, Self, and Brides and has appeared on national news, talk show, and documentaries.
Please see her author page for more information and visit her blog for free advice and resources.
Discover your personal answer to the baby question. Click “play” on the Audible sample to preview the book.
©2016 Merle A. Bombardieri (P)2019 Merle A. BombardieriYou may also enjoy...
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- Paige Silva
- 2022-10-22
Worth the Listen!
This book is an impartial outline to help people decide whether or not children are for them. This book went through scenarios and questions that many people ask themselves. It helped me a lot and made me realize many things that you ask yourself is a normal thought that many others have
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- Anne-Marie F.
- 2024-01-25
Interesting point of view
This book was very helpful in providing different perspectives and tools to make the baby decision. Would recommend if you hesitate about having a child or not.
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- CDL
- 2025-01-22
Mostly for couples
Even though the author says this is for everyone and they include all types of scenarios it’s mostly for couples and people who have a partner and a family system…. Didn’t find it helpful at all
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