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The Betrayal Bind
How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst
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Narrated by:
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Sarah Welborn
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Written by:
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Michelle Mays LPC CSAT-S
About this listen
What happens when your partner, your primary person, in an instant, becomes a source of danger and pain?
The Betrayal Bind introduces new language, concepts, and imagery to explore the crucial relational dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.
Discovering a partner's sexual betrayal spins your world out of control. In a split second, your sense of safety is shattered, your trust is gone, and everything you thought you could count on is in question.
Betrayed partners, whether dealing with an isolated infidelity or a pattern of sexual compulsivity, need immediate support to navigate the new terrain of their relationship. They need a clear articulation of betrayal trauma, a thorough education about their normal attachment-based reactions, and a proven path to healing.
By focusing on how a partner's attachment system functions in the wake of sexual betrayal, The Betrayal Bind offers a new, game-changing exploration into an age-old problem and connects the dots from research to the lived experience of betrayed partners.
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- Debbie
- 2024-07-26
Helpful advice for the betrayed.
The book itself is excellent. I found the narrator to be lacklustre. Her voice stays the same tone/pitch throughout the book. I’m also not a fan of her voice in general. She always sounds like she’s talking to a child. I’d recommend reading it rather than listening.
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