The Book of Boundaries
Set the Limits That Will Set You Free
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Melissa Urban
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Melissa Urban
About this listen
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER FROM THE CO-FOUNDER OF THE WHOLE30 • End resentment, burnout, and anxiety—and reclaim your time, energy, health, and relationships.
“Melissa Urban shows the way forward with clarity, vulnerability, and humor.”—Gretchen Rubin, author of Life in Five Senses
Melissa Urban has helped millions of people transform their relationship with food. Now, in this powerful and practical guide, she shows how boundaries—clear limits you set to protect your energy, time, and health—are the key to feelings of security, confidence, and freedom in every area of your life.
In her famously direct and compassionate style, Urban offers:
• 130+ scripts with language you can use to set boundaries with bosses and co-workers, romantic partners, parents and in-laws, co-parents, friends, family, neighbors, strangers—and yourself
• Actionable advice to help you communicate your needs with clarity and compassion
• Tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt, pushback, pressure, and oversteps
• Techniques to create healthy habits around food, drink, technology, and more
User-friendly and approachable, The Book of Boundaries will give you the tools you need to stop justifying, minimizing, and apologizing, leading you to more rewarding relationships and a life that feels bigger, healthier, and freer.
ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: Mindful
©2022 Melissa Urban (P)2022 Random House AudioYou may also enjoy...
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What the critics say
* A NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER *
One of:
Amazon’s “Best business and leadership books of 2022”
SheDoesTheCity’s “10 Comforting Items For Your Winter Healing Cocoon”
“I always tell my therapy patients that boundaries create trust, comfort, and safety in a relationship, but many people struggle with how to effectively communicate what they need. In The Book of Boundaries, Melissa Urban helps you identify your boundary needs, offers actionable scripts on what to say, and shares proven tips based on a decade of experience helping people live more freely by holding their limits with confidence."—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone
“The Book of Boundaries is funny, direct, and smart, bringing you actionable tools and science-backed strategies for setting boundaries using language that feels kind, natural, and empowering. Melissa’s straightforward scripts and practical tips makes it easy to identify your limits and communicate them with confidence, so you can start putting yourself first and create a life that feels bigger, freer, and more authentically YOU.”—Mel Robbins, New York Times bestselling author of The 5 Second Rule
“Helpful as hell and lovingly direct, Melissa Urban is the boundaries big sister we all so desperately need. Through her insightful advice and easy-to-follow scripts, Urban teaches you how to stand up for yourself without walling yourself off from the people you love.”—Tara Schuster, author of Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies
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- 2022-11-17
Melissa is the teacher you need
This is a great book that I will reread many times. I’ve stolen you line “clear is kind” and plan to quote this book for the foreseeable future. Thank you Melissa (we’re friends, right?) I needed this book
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- sivan
- 2024-07-15
Very good narration
I enjoyed this audiobook very much. It's clear and eye opening. And the narration is perfect.
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- Tina McCormick
- 2022-10-24
Truly is the book of boundaries
I really enjoyed this book. Listened to the full thing in one day and will absolutely listen again and maybe even again. Not only does Melissa Urban explain what a boundary is and what it isn't she gives clear cut examples of how to make and enforce a boundary. Which is the hardest part to understanding healthy boundaries!
I recommend this book to anyone struggling with boundary making and enforcing.
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- Anonymous User
- 2022-12-13
Loved this book!
I’m so glad I listened to this. My girlfriend recommended this book to me for many reasons and now I feel more equipped to handle myself in any situation. I will listen to this book again.
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- Michelle
- 2024-04-13
This changed my life
Truly what we all need and delivered in a consumable way for everyone. Highly recommend!
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- Priscilla bergeron
- 2023-02-24
Lots of scripts and concrete examples
I enjoyed this book. Will probably regret not buying it in a paper book form for easier futur reference. Love all the scripts and examples. So reliable.
Made me feel better, more normal, with my need for boundaries.
If you are interested, here’s another great book on the topic: Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself
by Nedra Glover Tawwab.
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- AliKat
- 2022-12-10
Essential
This is reading for life. I can’t imagine who wouldn’t benefit from this book. Get ready to bookmark everything.
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