The Dance of Connection
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Harriet Lerner
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Harriet Lerner
About this listen
In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when:
- We need an apology, and the person who has harmed us won't apologize or be accountable
- We don't know how to take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate
- We feel worn down by the other person's criticism, negativity, or irresponsible behavior
- We have been rejected or cut off, and the other person won't show up for the conversation
- We are struggling with staying or leaving, and we don't know our "bottom line"
- We are convinced that we've tried everything, and nothing changes
Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new "voice lessons" that show us how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly.
Whether we're dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches us how to navigate our most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.
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- Anonymous User
- 2019-10-18
one I will be going back to again ...
loved everything harriet is talking about
I listened to it 2x already and this will be one in will keep going back to for my "behavior maintenance program"
narrator is speaking really slow and it somewhat annoyed my first time I listened to the book however second time I appreciated slower pace for really hearing the message.
well written and extremely helpful .
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- kaleigh burnet
- 2017-10-20
informative
It really helped me understand how I can improve my communication in my personal life and my relationship with my family. I really believe it's a book everyone should read. I did not like the narrating though.
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