Very informative

I love this book, so many helpful advices and its nice to see what you can avoid stepping into ur 20’s and not waste time.

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Definitely defining

I loved the approach of different life areas essential for every twenty something to consider! It can be eye-opening or reassuring depending on how you are using your defining decade.

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Really impressed

I had kept this book for awhile, fearing what I would hear. That I hadn’t done enough or did something wrong, but it was a helpful and realistic guide to how to be intentional and make your life work for you , at any time !

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A MUST READ for 20 somethings

At 24, living through a global pandemic, I can honestly say this book and changed the way I am thinking about my 20’s, and I couldn’t be happier! Thank you Meg Jay, for making my psychology degree makes sense! And helping me get out of my 20 something slump!

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Must read!

I am in my late 20s and I cannot recommend this book enough. It was easy to listen to and the examples were great.

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Define The Decade

This book is quite sobering. It demands, though not at all too forcefully (although much like glancing at the time yanks you to your feet when you realize you are about to be late or miss an important appointment) that one stops and assess the trajectory of their life. This book was recommended to me by a friend and I wish I completed it sooner. Just maybe I would have awoken to myself and to how defining my decisions were for my future instead of aimlessly meandering through my twenties. Thank you, Meg. And to twenty-somethings, your twenties matter and so do the years beyond, so be intentional; you are creating today the life you will lead tomorrow.

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Highly recommended

I've been recommending this book to every twenty something I know. I wish I had found this gem sooner.

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an entertaining wake up call

A well written wake up call narrated through real life experience the author had with clients. This book did an excellent job of voicing the struggles 20 somethings face but also forced the reader to take ownership of the part they play in these struggles.

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A important and enjoyable read

An excellent book that every 20-something should read, even if you are leaving your twenties.

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Essential. Powerful. Uplifting.

"I feel like I'm in the middle of the ocean, like I could swim in any direction, but I can't see land so I don't know which way to go."

I felt this to my bones, it's a quote from a 20-something client of the author that's shared within the book.

At the time of writing this review, I'm 25, turning 26 shortly.

I loved this book. I felt like the author perfectly pinpointed so many of the fears and thoughts and "stuck between a rock and a vast expanse of water" feeling I've been overwhelmed with many times in recent years.

Being simultaneously caught up in the sense that I should use my 20s to "live my life" but then pulled in every direction on what exactly that means. Does it mean backpacking through South-East Asia for three years, or starting and cementing a career, what about picking a city or region to live in, continuing education, finding love and a life partner, or playing the field, what about kids? There's so many conflicting narratives for 20-something's now-a-days, specifically the privileged 20-somethings who are overwhelmed by, yet lucky enough to feel as if there are lots of options available, yet unclear on which direction land exists, or better yet, aware of where land could exist, but which land is the best one to swim to? What land will make me the happiest? What land will make me feel secure? What land will challenge me, grow me? Can I create something worthwhile for myself? Can I build a life I'm proud of? How? With who? Where? Doing what? When?

This isn't a book to tell 20-somethings to forget about having fun and to just step robotically into a job. It's about intentionality, it's about pulling the wool from the eyes of 20-somethings who think they can write off a decade+ of their life and have there be no consequences. Everything we do simultaneously opens and closes doors.

I want all my friends to read this. It hit me less like a wake up call and more like a consistent, encouraging wind at my back, telling me that it's okay to make choices--we have to. It opened my eyes to the intricacies of what's going on in my own head, how society and biology shapes aspects of it. It got me thinking seriously about what I want my 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond to look like. It got me considering careers and family and habits I'm creating and cementing now. It got me acknowledging that it's all well and good to live in the now, but that I also have an entire life ahead of me that requires forethought because I won't be a 20-something forever.

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