The Emotionally Destructive Marriage
How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope
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Leslie Vernick
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Leslie Vernick
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Something Has to Change….
You can't put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit.
For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to:
- identify damaging behaviors
- gain the skills to respond wisely
- promote healthy change
- stay safe
- understand when, why, and even how to leave
- recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you
Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future.
©2014 Leslie Vernick (P)2014 eChristianYou may also enjoy...
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- Dominique
- 2023-02-16
This book helped me to healthily redirect my emotions
I was able to break free from abusive relationships that I did not know stemmed from my childhood traumas. I was able to redirect my focus and lean on God! This book helped me figure out who I was while I was going through a tough time with my angry husband. I related to some of the experiences in this book! I now feel free!
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- Heather
- 2022-01-26
Authentic marriage recovery
An authentic, thorough, practical, realistic and Biblical guide to understanding destructive marriage n how to thoroughly recover from it...
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- Kat Van D
- 2020-10-06
MUST READ for everyone...
This book definitely defines emotionally destructive relationships, but more than that, Leslie Vernick gives explanations why one would be in a destructive relationship and what one can do to have a healthy relationship.
This book should be read by everyone - to learn about healthy relationships and how to make them better and stronger; to be validated and to learn how to start healing from abuse.
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