Focusis on introverted HSPs

I feel like this is likely a really good book for many male HSPs, and there are big focuses in here that are really important, and that aren't present in other HSP books (especially around how high sensitivity affects perceptions of masculinity). However there were a couple big misses for me.

It very much seemed to focus on challenges that introverted male HSPs (which is indeed the majority of HSPs) are more likely to experience. However I'm one of the rarer extroverted HSPs and in my personal experience we don't have quite the same set of challenges as portrayed by this book or at quite the same degree as introverted HSPs do, but this book REALLY focused on those things. We do still have some of these challenges, and it's good to hear about them, and extroverted HSPs will still find them useful, but managing them I think comes more naturally for extroverted HSPs, and so having so much time spent on them felt like it just went on and on at times. (I've also spent a lot of time on personal growth so I may have just learned many of these things already I suppose).

At the same time the book didn't really touch much at all on the challenges that EXTROVERTED male HSPs face. We have our own set of challenges that play out quite differently for us than for introverted HSPs, and none of that was really touched on. I feel like that was a big miss in this book.

The other big miss was that it didn't touch much on romantic relationships for men. This came up multiple times in the interviews with HSP men in the book (ie many of the men interviewed, when asked about their relationships with women, said they had lots of female friendships but had challenges with sparking romantic relationships, or just didn't have many romantic relationships). Despite it coming up so many times, the author never actually talked about it as a topic in the book. I would have really liked him to explore that a little bit.

So for the right person (most likely an introverted male HSP, or an HSP that is newer on this journey or not quite as secure with who they are yet) this book will be really great. However for extroverted HSPs it may be less useful, and there may be better resources out there, or at least I'd recommend supplementing this book with those additional resources. it's not that this book is bad, what is does talk about is done really well, it's just that he missed some really key things for male HSPs.

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