The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
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Katherine Morgan Schafler
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Katherine Morgan Schafler
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Selected for USA Today's Best Books of 2023
Selected as Editor's Pick in Amazon's Best Books of 2023
From psychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler, an invitation to every “recovering perfectionist” to challenge the way they look at perfectionism, and the way they look at themselves.
We’ve been looking at perfectionism all wrong. As psychotherapist and former on-site therapist at Google Katherine Morgan Schafler argues in The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, you don’t have to stop being a perfectionist to be healthy. For women who are sick of being given the generic advice to “find balance,” a new approach has arrived.
Which of the five types of perfectionist are you? Classic, intense, Parisian, messy, or procrastinator? As you identify your unique perfectionist profile, you'll learn how to manage each form of perfectionism to work for you, not against you. Beyond managing it, you'll learn how to embrace and even enjoy your perfectionism. Yes, enjoy!
Full of stories and brimming with humor, empathy, and depth, this book is a love letter to the ambitious, high achieving, full-of-life clients who filled the author’s private practice, and who changed her life. It’s a clarion call for all women to dare to want more without feeling greedy or ungrateful. Ultimately, this book will show you how to make the single greatest trade you’ll ever make in your life, which is to exchange superficial control for real power.
©2023 Katherine Morgan Schafler (P)2023 Penguin AudioYou may also enjoy...
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What the critics say
“From an emerging thought leader, an irresistible invitation to reclaim your natural state of wholeness, your joy and your life."—Deepak Chopra, New York Times bestselling author of Abundance
"A valuable, much-needed perspective that gives you permission to be more in a world that's telling you to be less.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
"An accessible, actionable guide for how to aim high without overthinking or punishing yourself along the way. This book is a must-read for anxious achievers who want to remain ambitious but could operate with a bit more self-compassion."—Liz Fosslien, coauthor and illustrator of the bestselling books Big Feelings and No Hard Feelings
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- Mike Bitter
- 2023-05-01
Powerful read for all women
We'll narrated, practical and inspiring. Easy to engage with and left me wanting to keep listening after each chapter.
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-03-18
Une mines d’or
L’information présenté est rafraichissante et surtout pertinente pour tous, si vous croyez être perfectionniste ou non. J’y ai appris que les intentions sont tout aussi louables que les actions. Qu’il faut se donner du temps pour atteindre ses objectifs, sans culpabiliser. Ce livre permet d’apprendre à mieux se décoder.
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- Mikaela Snooks
- 2023-03-18
SO good
A brilliant read for those who identify as perfectionists and even for those who don’t. I bought a hard copy as well so I could highlight and reference back to it as it was packed full with insights and wisdom. The power of presence, self-compassion as the antidote to feeling stuck, and the reminder of what it is to be human are a few of the things I found impactful. Also the rich specific descriptions and storytelling were so engaging. The author’s voice is calming and engaging!
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- Allison Diabo
- 2023-05-23
Great listen
Very insightful, it kept me interested! I strongly recommend this book for anyone who struggles with the title perfectionist!
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- Julia Klymenko
- 2023-07-19
I don’t often mark books with 5 stars
A book full of reflections and aha moments! As someone who’s always been ashamed of my perfectionism tendencies, I’ve had lots of takeaways and will be restructuring my thinking about myself.
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- SoulMaple907243
- 2023-12-20
This is a guide, a very reliable and worthwhile guide.
To begin with the author is also the narrator which breathes life into this book; listening to it was a breeze, not only because it was narrated with proper sense stress and modulation but also because the content was meaningful and each chapter contributed to the next. Taking time to consider this book was, in effect, therapy in of itself and I could relate with what I was learning. It’s funny because as I’m writing this review, I’m reminded of the tendencies of perfectionists that the author describes, which makes me appreciate it even more. I’m glad I invested my time in it and have benefited from it immensely; I hope the same for you. But just to be clear, this is a guide and not a manual; as you consider its contents, you will draw your own conclusions which will help you succeed in discovering what is truly the best part of yourself - the perfectionist in you.
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- Kassie Rhodenizer
- 2025-01-30
The best and most helpful book I’ve ever read!
Let me start by saying I’m a serial personal growth reader. I’ve been on my own wellness journey for a full decade, and I work in the healing space. This book was a GAME CHANGER for me. I’ve done so much shadow work and wound healing in therapy.. but this book hit me deeper than anything - because it perfectly described my inner dialogue on a day to day basis. I kept saying, “wow, how did you know I think that??” Her solutions are super helpful. I had never before pieced together that my tendency for self-punishment was directly tied to my ability to allow joy and pleasure. I see everything in my life differently thanks to this book, and I am now IN THE MOMENT able to choose if I will continue to punish myself for imperfection or allow myself to be free. AND now I know how to use my perfectionism as the strength and gift that it is! Amazing book.
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