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The Velvet Rage

Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

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The Velvet Rage

Written by: Alan Downs PhD
Narrated by: Alan Downs PhD
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The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out”, but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger - a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide.

Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author’s own journey, and the stories of many of his friends and clients, Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men. The revised and expanded edition covers issues related to gay marriage, a broader range of examples that extend beyond middle-class gay men in America, and expansion of the original discussion on living authentically as a gay man.

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Been willing to read this book for the longest time. Finally it became my first audiobook.
I’ve already recommended it to most of my friends :)

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Simply put: A. Must. Read. for every gay man and their companions in life.

A Must Read

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The first lgtb book I have ever read as a gay man. I found it very enlightening and can relate to many of the experiences shared.

I enjoyed it

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brilliant and gives beautiful perspective on every aspect of the life of a gay man

every gay man should read this book !

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I would recommend this to anyone who is seeking meaning in their lives as couple.

Important even for non gays

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