This Is How Your Marriage Ends
A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships
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Rob Shapiro
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Matthew Fray
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A thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives.
Good people can be bad at relationships.
One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to “journal his feelings,” Matthew Fray started a blog. He needed to figure out how his ex-wife went from the eighteen-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole and left him. As he pieced together the story of his marriage and its end, Matthew began to realize a hard truth: even though he was a decent guy, he was a bad husband.
As he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he’d learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened. Matthew started to gain a following. In January 2016 a post he wrote—“She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink”—went viral and was read over four million times.
Filtered through the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, This Is How Your Marriage Ends exposes the root problem of so many relationships that go wrong. We simply haven’t been taught any of the necessary skills, Matthew explains. In fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that causes us to alienate our partners and foment mistrust.
With the humorous, entertaining, and counterintuitive approach of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and the practical insights of The 5 Love Languages, This is How Your Marriage Ends helps readers identify relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives, and offers solutions to break free from the cycles of dysfunction and destruction. It is must-read for every partner no matter what stage–beginning, middle, or even end—of your relationship.
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- Olesha
- 2024-10-29
This book is one of the most exceptional books on prevention of relationship deterioration
I loved everything about this book … it really brings voice to how many things that go unsaid and un done can damage relationships. This book speaks to how detrimental it is to love without intention. And how much you can change by being present and vulnerable.
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- Amelia Davis
- 2022-08-21
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Anyone wanting or is in a relationship should read!
lots of great information all the way through!
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- Kathleen
- 2023-06-12
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This was an excellent book that allowed me to reflect on what happens between us. Its down to earth. Some sections made me cry. I didn’t feel alone in my mess, others also make the same mistakes as me. Also gave me hope it might not be too late for us. Missing from the book is how to deal with infidelity (even if just emotional infidelity), and people who lie.
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-06-03
Incredibly helpful
I've been struggling with a separation for 3 weeks and it's been torture an emotional rollercoaster and finally after my wife and I had a bad fight in front of my son I got on audible for this book.
it's helped me to cope so much I don't think I can save the marriage but I have felt a noticable reduction in my stress and anxiety by knowing and I'm able to focus on getting Better as an individual and rebuilding my life knowing that I can use what this book has taught me to avoid the same mistakes
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- Sarah
- 2022-11-16
Amazing read!!!!
This book is amazing and stays amazing throughout the entire book! It is so helpful and explains feelings that I was unable to explain so thankful for this book!
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- Lucie
- 2024-09-20
This should be a mandatory reading for anyone attempting a relationship.
One of the most honest books about how to navigate the relationship or marriage landscape. This book would have prevented the break up of my 20 year relationship. If you still have a relationship, both partners should read this.
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