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Ivan Coyote
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Ivan Coyote
About this listen
Stonewall Book Award Honor Book winner
Ivan Coyote is a celebrated storyteller and the author of 10 previous books, including Gender Failure (with Rae Spoon) and One in Every Crowd, a collection for LGBT youth. Tomboy Survival Guide is a funny and moving memoir told in stories, in which Ivan recounts the pleasures and difficulties of growing up a tomboy in Canada's Yukon, and how they learned to embrace their tomboy past while carving out a space for those of us who don't fit neatly into boxes or identities or labels.
Ivan writes movingly about many firsts: the first time they were mistaken for a boy; the first time they purposely discarded their bikini top so they could join the boys at the local swimming pool; and the first time they were chastised for using the women's washroom. Ivan also explores their years as a young butch, dealing with new infatuations and old baggage, and life as a gender-box-defying adult, in which they offer advice to young people while seeking guidance from others. (And for tomboys in training, there are even directions on building your very own unicorn trap.)
Tomboy Survival Guide warmly recounts Ivan's adventures and mishaps as a diffident yet free-spirited tomboy, and maps their journey through treacherous gender landscapes and a maze of labels that don't quite stick, to a place of self-acceptance and an authentic and personal strength. These heartfelt, funny, and moving stories are about the culture of difference - a "guide" to being true to one's self.
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Care Of
- Letters, Connections, and Cures
- Written by: Ivan Coyote
- Narrated by: Ivan Coyote
- Length: 6 hrs and 15 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall5 out of 5 stars 27
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Performance5 out of 5 stars 25
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Story5 out of 5 stars 25
Writer and performer Ivan Coyote has spent decades on the road, telling stories around the world. For years, Ivan has kept a file of the most special communications received from readers and audience members—letters, Facebook messages, emails, soggy handwritten notes tucked under the windshield wiper of their truck after a gig.
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5 out of 5 stars
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Incredible storytelling
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Written by: Ivan Coyote
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Rebent Sinner
- Written by: Ivan Coyote
- Narrated by: Ivan Coyote
- Length: 3 hrs and 45 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall5 out of 5 stars 3
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Performance5 out of 5 stars 3
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Story5 out of 5 stars 3
In Rebent Sinner, Ivan Coyote takes on the patriarchy and the political, as well as the intimate and the personal in these beguiling and revealing stories of what it means to be trans and non-binary today, at a time in their life when they must carry the burden of heartbreaking history with them, while combatting those who would misgender them or deny their very existence. These stories span thirty years of tackling TERFs, legislators, and bathroom police, sure, but there is joy and pleasure and triumph to be found here, too.
Written by: Ivan Coyote
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Whipping Girl
- A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity
- Written by: Julia Serano
- Narrated by: Julia Serano
- Length: 11 hrs and 36 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall5 out of 5 stars 34
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Performance4.5 out of 5 stars 29
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Story5 out of 5 stars 28
Julia Serano shares her experiences and insights - both pre- and post-transition - to reveal the ways in which fear, suspicion, and dismissiveness toward femininity shape our societal attitudes toward trans women, as well as gender and sexuality as a whole. Serano's well-honed arguments and pioneering advocacy stem from her ability to bridge the gap between the often-disparate biological and social perspectives on gender. In this provocative manifesto, she exposes how deep-rooted the cultural belief is that femininity is frivolous, weak, and passive.
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5 out of 5 stars
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Thank you Serano!
- By Kasane B on 2021-12-01
Written by: Julia Serano
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Gender Queer
- A Memoir
- Written by: Maia Kobabe
- Narrated by: Maia Kobabe, Trini Alvarado, Stephen Graybill, and others
- Length: 1 hr and 58 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall0 out of 5 stars 0
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Performance0 out of 5 stars 0
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Story0 out of 5 stars 0
In 2014, Maia Kobabe, who uses e/em/eir pronouns, thought that a comic of reading statistics would be the last autobiographical comic e would ever write. At the time, it was the only thing e felt comfortable with strangers knowing about em. Now, Gender Queer is here. Maia’s intensely cathartic autobiography charts eir journey of self-identity, which includes the mortification and confusion of adolescent crushes, grappling with how to come out to family and society, bonding with friends over erotic gay fanfiction, and facing the trauma and fundamental violation of pap smears.
Written by: Maia Kobabe
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Beyond the Gender Binary
- Pocket Change Collective
- Written by: Alok Vaid-Menon
- Narrated by: Alok Vaid-Menon
- Length: 1 hr and 7 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall5 out of 5 stars 70
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Performance5 out of 5 stars 64
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Story5 out of 5 stars 63
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I highly recommend!
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Written by: Alok Vaid-Menon
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I'm Afraid of Men
- Written by: Vivek Shraya
- Narrated by: Vivek Shraya
- Length: 1 hr and 26 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 106
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Performance5 out of 5 stars 95
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Story5 out of 5 stars 96
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- AshanteLove
- 2018-04-17
This book is a MUST read!!
Ivan's story is so incredibly descriptive! Their writing makes you feel as if they're talking to you. I've learned so much while reading this book. I've laughed and cried at the same exact time.
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- Joseph
- 2019-12-01
Gratitude
My mother just said “Well they’re amazing! Something about an author who can make you laugh and cry and ache with nostalgia all in the same sentence.”
My mom is 62 and I call her “Ma”. I am a trans man and we’ve had a history, Ma and I. We have plenty of stories that sound similar to the ones in this book, together and individually.
I avoided Ivan’s books for a long time, knowing their storytelling would rub a little too painfully against the raw parts of my shared experiences...bathrooms, f*cking bathrooms.
I’m at a place where I can hear these stories and I am grateful that they have filled me up. I am grateful that I got to share nostalgia, tears, and laughter with my Ma. I got to meet Ivan at a writer’s festival in Ottawa this year (2019) and I’m grateful for that too. They are a very human human. I can’t wait to explore the rest of their work.
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- Terje
- 2022-06-22
Ivan is a talented storyteller
Ivan’s stories always manage to hit me right in the heart.
They have a way of transporting you right along with them to points in their life as well as making you think back on your own life.
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- Candice
- 2019-04-10
I want more books by Ivan on audiable please!!
I relished every word. There is something in this book for everyone and everyone should listen. Boy can they tell a story! Edge of my seat with even the simplest of the stories, true Canadian gem.
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- Kr
- 2020-11-21
Insightful. And lovely
Ivan shares such an insightful, lovely account of their life. A must read for any LGBTQIA+ person
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- Anonymous User
- 2021-05-07
So relatable
Ivan Coyote talks about their childhood & youth as a tomboy. They have an easy going style and they tell some funny & some poignant stories. Loved it!
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- pgirl
- 2020-01-27
my own tomboy self reflected in these words
The feelings, thoughts, circumstances experienced by this author... that reflects some of how I experienced my tomboy youth in a small Canadian town...they gave perfect words/voice to that life. And then to be able to hear how they were strong enough to actualize that person they are, as a mature adult. It was so awesome for me to hear that all expressed by this author. This book gives one strength to do what feels right, to be able to feel comfortable in one's own skin, and life.
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- carley morris
- 2020-07-28
A must listen.
I had already planned on reading this book, but seeing that Ivan had personally recorded an audiobook I knew I had to listen to it instead. They are one of the most brilliant storytellers of our time. Thank you for this beautiful guide.
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- Carolyn Klassen
- 2022-06-02
Fantastic, funny, emotional, queer stories
Ivan Coyote is a national treasure. Their stories never cease to enchant me and break my heart. I've read nearly all of their published works and this is one of the best ones. Highly recommend the audiobook which is read by the author.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2022-01-08
Wow!
The pacing of the narration caught me at first, causing a little anxiety from Ivan's seeming lack of breath, but after I adjusted to it, that pacing became one of my favourite parts of this listening experience. I loved the stories and how they were told. I'll be looking into their other books ASAP!
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