Untrue
Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free
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Wednesday Martin
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Wednesday Martin
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From the number-one New York Times best-selling author of Primates of Park Avenue, a bold, timely reconsideration of female infidelity that will upend everything you thought you knew about women and sex.
What do straight, married female revelers at an all-women's sex club in LA have in common with nomadic pastoralists in Namibia who bear children by men not their husbands? Like women worldwide, they crave sexual variety, novelty, and excitement.
In ancient Greek tragedies, Netflix series, tabloids, and pop songs, we've long portrayed such cheating women as dangerous and damaged. We love to hate women who are untrue. But who are they really? And why, in this age of female empowerment, do we continue to judge them so harshly?
In Untrue, feminist author and cultural critic Wednesday Martin takes us on a bold, fascinating journey to reveal the unexpected evolutionary legacy and social realities that drive female faithlessness, while laying bare our motivations to contain women who step out.
Blending accessible social science and interviews with sex researchers, anthropologists, and real women from all walks of life, Untrue challenges our deepest assumptions about ourselves, monogamy, and the women we think we know. From recent data suggesting women may struggle more than men with sexual exclusivity to the revolutionary idea that females of many species evolved to be "promiscuous" to Martin's trenchant assertion that female sexual autonomy is the ultimate metric of gender equality, Untrue will change the way you think about women and sex forever.
©2018 Wednesday Martin (P)2018 Hachette AudioYou may also enjoy...
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What the critics say
"Scientifically literate and sexually cliterate...an exuberant unfettering of female sexuality that challenges us to 'think outside her box.' Viva la Vulva!" (Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of She Comes First)
"Wednesday Martin understands female sexuality - from the #MeToo movement and polyamory to women's prehistoric and cultural heritage. She goes far beyond our current psychological understanding of women's infidelity to tell the real story of women's ubiquitous, tenacious, and primordial sexual strategies. And her writing is not only informative, timely, and refreshing but wonderfully engaging. Brava, Wednesday." (Helen Fisher, author of The First Sex and Why We Love)
If you have ever felt different, other, or just weird when it comes to love, sex, or intimacy, read Untrue. In it, Wednesday Martin bulldozes the sexual stereotypes that have silenced and constrained us for centuries, bringing the voices of women who love in a range of ways to the surface. Dazzling." (Rachel Simmons, cofounder of Girls Leadership and author of Enough as She Is and Odd Girl Out)
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- 2019-05-22
absolutely amazing, insightful and eye opening!
this book changed my mind and the way I look at female sexuality in so many different ways
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- jordan
- 2019-03-31
Different view on women.
I liked the book.. The principals are very interesting. A couple chapters that seemed to drone on about the same points. But as a male I would say this book taught me many things and definatly makes me reconsider the way I percive women.
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- Jenny
- 2019-12-10
Learning not to self shame for wanting sex
This was a great read...listen! It can definitely be very controversial for some people as she explores areas that society deems as wrong. It makes me think of laws and how they're created based on the majority of right and wrong in society's eyes. It makes you question yourself but also understand better why you might be conforming to what the world sees as acceptable. When it gets into the monkeys and history I dozed off a bit, but that's just me. It was still very fascinating learning about how much has shifted until now. Huge take away is HONESTY with yourself and your partner(s), that's where the multiple partners is seen negatively because if you're not open and honest with your partner it is cheating.
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- Aleks
- 2020-11-13
All women should read it and men could also learn some things
Really fascinating read! Hard to believe some of these still prevalent stereotypes about female sexuality. I even learned new things about bonobos which I thought I knew well from others books.
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- Puddlefox
- 2023-05-26
Excellent
I heard about the author from a podcast so decided to try the book. All I can say is, agree or disagree about female infidelity, this book is chock-full of some amazing research and historical analysis that really shifted the way I view female sexuality across the world and across time.
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- Levi D
- 2018-12-15
perfect follow up book for "Sex at dawn".
Glad I've got science and journalism to follow up.my true feelings. 30 years on this planet and I've always felt something was wrong with me. But now I know its science.
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