Wired for Love
How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship
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Michael Hinton
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Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT
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"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.
Wired for Love is an innovative guide to understanding your partner's brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this audiobook presents 10 guiding principles that can improve any relationship.
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- 2019-05-21
mind-blowing!
I thought my problems were unique! Turns out they're not, and I am soso grateful for these profoundly helpful insights!
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- Anonymous User
- 2021-06-22
So much more than I expected
I love this book! Beyond managing grief, this book teaches self-compassion and resilience when you need it most. It focuses on challenging your outlook on your relationship with yourself and your dating patterns as you re-enter the dating pool once you’re ready.
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- Joan F.
- 2021-09-14
Amazing book
So much valuable information. I cannot wait to implement the practices. Wish I had this information years ago
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- Jason Seniuk
- 2018-01-17
I wish that I read this when I was younger...
This book started off a bit slow, amybe t was because it was my first audiobook? It took a bit of time but I really got in to it and learned a lot! I will be listening to this again for sure!
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- Corey Solomon
- 2018-06-23
Struggling with a relationship good tips here
Could have used my last relationship but now have more tools going forward. A favourite was the science backing info shared about how we are naturally wired and challenges this brings to a relationship.
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- Customer123
- 2021-04-13
Most recommended
I've listened to a number of books in this category and this is my favorite so far.
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- Matthew Grieves
- 2019-06-11
One of the better relationship audio books
Really enjoyed this audio book. Yes, sometimes the little skits/examples were cheesy, but they accurate to real relationships and really helped! I wish there was more in depth talk about attachment styles (i.e., islands, waves or anchors). Great source of information. My partner is a therapist and listened with me once and commented that this book offered great insight.
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- Teaghan Larkin
- 2018-08-11
Accessible and Helpful
As someone looking to be a couples therapist, this was helpful information and accessibly written
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- Brent B.
- 2022-12-11
Great Read
I really like how this book references the specific brain areas that come into play. I will be reading this book again in print.
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- Brian Larsen
- 2019-05-05
unbearably monotone narrator
The subject matter is a bit dry to begin with, but the narrator is unbearable. I'm pretty sure sawing my arm off with a spoon would be easier than engaging and staying awake through more than a chapter at a time.
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