5 qualities you can work on to get a smoother parenting experience :

1. control over your emotions:

Understand that Child's emotions is triggering your ego. Not the child. If the child is laughing that's not going to make you angry. The child's tantrum , crying, anger, screaming . That's triggering you. So keep the child and it's emotion separate.

2. See child as separate individual:

Child is yours. Agreed. But the child is still another human being. So don't take it personally when the child throws a tantrum or cries or says I don't want to do my homework. The child is a developing human being. They need to have their own boundaries, they need to learn to say No, they are fully capable of denying to do something,

3. Be aware that you have an inner child in you.

Now why are these big emotions triggering you? Maybe your big emotions were not allowed to be expressed when you were a child. Maybe you were asked to not cry. Maybe you didn't get an apology from anyone like me. So always keep in mind that it's that hurt inner child that can get upset or angry and don't let that child to take your parenting decisions. You'll need to become an adult during that time.

4. Understanding that you're an Imperfect parent.

So much of laundry to do and you're being such a nuisance ! Ugh. Why is my life likw this We're used to such statements by our moms so there's a good chance we would do the same. We need to understand that no matter how much work we do, outside the house or inside they'd still be work left. We can never ever ever ever ever ever be perfect!

5. Being Kind to Yourself We're all a work in progress. I'm not perfect . I shout and yell too when I'm overwhelmed. I don't hit my child that's something I could do only cos a gentle parenting class I attended when my child was really young.. Books helped me too.. So it's not about the child. It's about our growth and evolution as better people Mindfully consciously we can all parent.

So are these 5 points going on in your lives ? Let me know in comments on youtube or my insta feed. Sending a lot of love and healing to all of you. remember we are all a Work in progress!

Swati Jagdish

psychologist