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  • The Guilt Shift A 5-Minute Reset When You Feel Like a Bad Daughter for Setting Boundaries

    The Guilt Shift A 5-Minute Reset When You Feel Like a Bad Daughter for Setting Boundaries
    Oct 16 2025
    🎙️ The Guilt Shift: A 5-Minute Reset When You Feel Like a “Bad Daughter” for Setting Boundaries Feeling that heavy guilt after setting a boundary with your parent? In The Guilt Shift: A 5-Minute Reset When You Feel Like a “Bad Daughter” for Setting Boundaries, Christy Jade guides you through a soothing, soul-grounded reset to help you release guilt and come back to peace. Because protecting your energy isn’t disrespect — it’s divine self-care. 👑 Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to rebuild your peace, power, and self-trust after narcissistic abuse? Explore Christy’s most transformative programs below: 🌸 Empowered Boundaries Course Learn how to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral. Includes 10 video modules, a meditation bundle, and lifetime access. → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ 💖 1:1 Coaching + Somatic Healing Reclaim your peace, power, and clarity in a private, guided journey with Christy. This is where REAL customized transformation is made! → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💌 Resources for Your Healing Journey ✨ Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 ✨ Join the FREE Facebook Community for daily support + sisterhood → https://www.facebook.com/groups/christyjade ✨ Snag your Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts for boundary convos that actually work → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/ 💬 Episode Highlights Why guilt spikes when you set boundaries with aging or ill parents The truth about “honoring your parents” — and how it changes after narcissistic abuse A 5-minute mind-body reset to calm guilt in real time How to reframe “I’m a bad daughter” into “I’m a peaceful protector” Christy’s quick affirmation to release guilt and reclaim peace 🩷 Let’s Connect Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/fiercechristyjade/ Email → 00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath Queen. This one's for you. All right. On Tuesday we talked about if you have toxic, narcissistic parents, basically how to deal with that, how to get rid of the guilt a little bit. And today we're going to dive into a five minute reset when you do feel like a bad daughter for setting boundaries, okay? First of all, you're not a bad daughter. I said it in the last episode. You are a healing daughter, right? You're healing, you're breaking the cycle, so you are on the right path. I give you permission to say, I am a good daughter and I am a cycle breaker. Okay? So today I'm going to guide you through a quick mind, body reset to dissolve guilt in real time because we're not perfect. (01:03) This stuff can take time. You start setting boundaries. It's not going to be perfect all the time. Look, I've been setting boundaries for a while now. In the beginning it was a little harder than it is now for sure. So this is a way, if that guilt creeps up to kind of walk away from a draining interaction with peace instead of that panic, visceral, right? Okay, so first you want to acknowledge the guilt, okay? When a feeling comes up, you always want to let it be there. We don't want to push feelings away. So you're going to let that guilt bubble up and you can say out loud, this guilt isn't truth. This is training. It's training and name where you feel it in your body. Do you feel it in your throat? Often that can be it. You're not being able to voice what you want. (01:59) So the throat chakra can be a little clogged up the chest. That can be when you have a lot of sadness, aching for more with this relationship, you wish things weren't as they were. Is it in the stomach? Right? We get a lot of stomach disturbances with nerves and anxiety. So name where you feel it in your body, and then we're going to do a little somatic reset. You're going to place one of your hands on that spot. So for me, I would say it's usually in my throat. If I do have that creep up, I'm going to hold my throat. You hold whatever spot and you're going to take three deep breaths in through the nose, out through the mouth, ending with a sigh. Okay? So in out the mouth, I know it's a little weird, but we get weird in here, in through the nose, out through the mouth. (03:08) One more in through the nose, hold it and release. It can get even louder. You start getting comfortable with it. Watch out. You're going to get real crazy. All right, we're going to do one more. Now this time I want you to inhale through the nose, inhaling peace, and we're going to exhale releasing the guilt. So inhale, peace and exhale. Imagine just blowing that guilt out to the universe, letting it disintegrate. Queens don't have guilt, okay, gross. It tastes disgusting, doesn't it? Guilt is awful. Okay, then we can reframe the thought. We're going to replace. I'm...
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    13 min
  • When Narcissistic Parents Get Older : How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Like a Bad Daughter

    When Narcissistic Parents Get Older : How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Like a Bad Daughter
    Oct 14 2025
    Do you feel guilty setting boundaries with your aging or ill narcissistic parent? In this empowering episode, Christy Jade helps you break free from guilt and obligation so you can protect your peace without feeling like the “bad daughter.” Learn what’s truly loving (and what’s just self-sacrifice in disguise), how to balance compassion with self-respect, and why your worth isn’t measured by how much pain you tolerate. 👑 Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to rebuild your peace, power, and self-trust after narcissistic abuse? Explore Christy’s most transformative programs below: 🌸 Empowered Boundaries Course Learn how to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral. Includes 10 video modules, a meditation bundle, and lifetime access. → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ 💖 1:1 Coaching + Somatic Healing Reclaim your peace, power, and clarity in a private, guided journey with Christy. This is where REAL customized transformation is made! → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💌 Resources for Your Healing Journey ✨ Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 ✨ Join the FREE Facebook Community for daily support + sisterhood → https://www.facebook.com/groups/christyjade ✨ Snag your Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts for boundary convos that actually work → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/ 💬 Episode Highlights Why guilt spikes when a toxic parent gets older or sick The truth about “honoring your parents” — and what that really looks like in abuse recovery How to stop confusing compassion with obligation Nervous system tools to stay grounded when guilt-tripping starts Christy’s personal reflection on balancing empathy with self-care 🩷 Let’s Connect Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/fiercechristyjade/ Email me! fiercemamac@gmail.com TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Ever feel like you owe your narcissistic parent kindness or access? Just because they're getting older, somehow their age cancels out all the damage they've done or are continuing to do. Today, we're going to break that guilt spell because your peace doesn't have an expiration date. Okay, queen, stay close. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had a come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck, and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. (01:04) So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there. And let's cue your royal glow up. Hello, beautiful souls. It's Christy Jade. Today's topic is one I hear over and over again. My mom or dad is older. Now, maybe I should just tolerate it, but here's the truth. Time does not erase toxicity. Getting older doesn't mean they've earned access to your peace. Taking your peace and loving someone from a safe distance is still love. So if you're feeling torn between compassion and that self-preservation, grab your tea. Get your journal because by the end of this episode, you're going to know how to set some boundaries without feeling like the bad daughter. So first of all, society romanticizes, forgive and forget, especially with aging parents. (02:17) And look, I'm all about respecting your parents, right? Honoring your mother and father. You can still do this while having boundaries, but the guilt is often the weapon narcissistic parents use to keep control, right? They know they can dangle this. I'm your parent, I'm getting older. The guilt trip of, oh, we only have this much time. And there's truth to that. And if they can treat you well, they can have more access to you. Phrases like You'll miss me when I'm gone, or after all I've done for you. Are emotional manipulation wrapped in sentimentality, right? So remember this. Look, no one's perfect, right? If you just have a parent that they're aging and maybe they're a little crankier as they get older, that's one thing. But I'm sure you're here because you have tolerated abuse, narcissistic abuse, toxicity, something that's really not healthy for you, and you are not responsible for someone else's peace at the expense of your own, no matter who that person is. (03:31) And there's a difference between taking care of your parents or treating your parents well as they age. There's a difference between that and letting your aging parents who are toxic treat ...
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    14 min
  • How to Break the Brain Loop That Keeps You Obsessed With Understanding Them

    How to Break the Brain Loop That Keeps You Obsessed With Understanding Them
    Oct 9 2025
    Still replaying every convo, text, or mind game—trying to make sense of the narcissist? In this 5-minute reset, Christy Jade shows you how to break the brain loop that keeps you obsessed with understanding them and finally reclaim your peace. Learn how trauma trains your mind to overanalyze—and the simple somatic shift that ends the cycle for good. 💖 Work With Christy ✨ Ready for real-time transformation? Step into your power with Christy 1:1. Her 3-Month Transformational Coaching + Somatic Healing package helps you regulate your nervous system, rebuild self-trust, and feel safe in your own skin again. 👉 https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 🎁 Fun Queen Resources 💌 Join the Free Private Facebook Community — connect with other Queens rebuilding after narcissistic abuse. 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecoverypodcast 👑 Grab Your Free Boundaries Pocket Guide — learn how to say nope without guilt. 👉 https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 💬 Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts — ready-made boundary phrases that protect your peace. 👉 https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-scripts/ Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath Queen. This one's for you. All right, take a deep breath today, queen. Happy Thursday. This thrive in five is for the woman who cannot stop replaying all the conversations, the manipulations, every, why did he do that? Why is he doing that? Whether it's your past or current situation that you are having to deal with a narcissist. Maybe you're, maybe it's a family member, maybe it's your boss, but understanding the narcissist will not bring you peace, and we think it will, right? We try to understand to relieve something in us, but your brain keeps dragging you back, even though deep down you probably know, you'll never fully understand and comprehend a narcissist because they don't make sense in the same way we do. (01:18) They don't think the same way we do. They're not healthy people. So let's shift that today. So here's the thing, your brain is not broken. It's doing what it was actually trained to do, to analyze danger, to stay safe by being in the situations. So when you lived in a narcissistic environment, you became a detective. You were constantly decoding, tone, expression, hidden meanings. Are you shaking your head yet? Because your survival basically depended on it. So now that you're free, your brain doesn't realize it can stop working overtime. That's the loop. The body's addiction to this vigilance disguised as logic. It's not logic, it's vigilance. It's over vigilance, right? So let's get to today's practice. It's a calming quick one, and we are going to calm that beautiful brain of yours that deserves every piece. So wherever you are, gently place one hand on your heart and one on your belly. You're going to inhale through your nose for 4, 3, 2, 1. Hold for one, two, and exhale, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Now you can repeat after me. I am safe. (03:17) I don't need to understand them to be free. How's that feel? So as you exhale, imagine the thoughts spinning in your head, melting down into your body and out through your feet. So we're going to inhale, 1, 2, 3, hold it. And as you exhale, imagine those thoughts that just whine and whine melting down your body and out your feet. Let your body carry what your mind can't. So if you want to repeat that a couple times, you can always pause this. Do it as many times as you need to, and each time, remind yourself, I choose peace over answers. (04:24) You get to choose, and it might seem hard, but every time you do this, you get closer. Every time you do anything somatic, you really get closer to it so you don't heal by finding new information about them. That's what we think. You heal by giving your nervous system proof that the danger is over. I'm going to say that again. You heal by giving your nervous system proof that this danger is over. And I know everyone's situation is different, but most of you are on the other side getting out of the situation. You've left your co-parenting or you're not living with the person every day like you once were. That could be a parent, a sibling, an ex, right? So this is really for you that knowing you are out of imminent danger and you need your nervous system to come on board with that. So every time you redirect from analyzing them to soothing yourself, you're rewiring your brain for peace. And that is the power they never want you to have, right? (05:56) Ugh. It would just kill them to know you're at peace. They want you all up in the chaos with them. They want the control of your peace. They want to hold your peace and never let you have it. And we're not here for that. Are we Queens? No. So if you're ready to learn the deeper somatic tools, this is just the tiny tip, right?...
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    10 min
  • Still Trying to Understand the Narcissist? Here’s Why It’s Stealing Your Peace

    Still Trying to Understand the Narcissist? Here’s Why It’s Stealing Your Peace
    Oct 7 2025

    If you’re still trying to understand the narcissist, this episode is your wake-up call. Christy Jade breaks down why searching for answers keeps you stuck in their cycle—and what to do instead to finally reclaim your peace, power, and clarity.

    👑 Work with Christy:

    If you’re ready to stop walking on eggshells and start healing for real, my 3-Month Transformational Coaching & Somatic Healing Program will help you rebuild self-trust, regulate your nervous system, and rise into your power again. 👉 Learn more or apply here: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/

    💞 Resources for Your Healing:

    💌 Boundaries Pocket Guide — Learn to say “no” without guilt & protect your peace. https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250

    🎧 Join the Facebook Community — Connect with women healing after narcissistic abuse. https://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecoverycommunity

    📜 Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts — Know exactly what to say to keep your boundaries strong. VIP PRICING FOR LISTENERS!

    https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/
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    12 min
  • Try This If You’ve Been Praying but Still Feel Unsafe

    Try This If You’ve Been Praying but Still Feel Unsafe
    Oct 2 2025

    You’ve prayed. You’ve trusted. But your body still doesn’t feel safe.

    In this 5-minute pause, Christy guides you through a gentle moment to reconnect with God’s peace — not just think about it.

    👉 Ready to rebuild your peace for good? Inside my 3-Month Transformation Journey, we’ll rewire your nervous system, restore your faith in yourself, and help you finally feel calm and confident again. https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/

    💎 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

    ✅ Why your body can still feel unsafe even when your faith is strong ✅ A gentle way to feel God’s peace again (not just think about it) ✅ How to begin healing your nervous system after trauma

    💖 FREE TOOLS & COMMUNITY

    ✨ Boundaries Pocket Guide — say no without guilt! https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250

    👑 Join the Facebook Community — connect with women healing after narcissistic abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecovery
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    7 min
  • Does the Bible Say You Should Stay With an Abuser? The Truth About Leaving Toxic Relationships (and What God Really Wants for You)

    Does the Bible Say You Should Stay With an Abuser? The Truth About Leaving Toxic Relationships (and What God Really Wants for You)
    Sep 30 2025

    Have you ever been told “God hates divorce,” “pray harder,” or “be patient” — even when your spirit knew something was wrong?

    In this powerful, truth-filled episode, Christy unpacks what the Bible actually says about abusers and leaving toxic relationships, exposing the spiritual manipulation that keeps women stuck in pain. You’ll discover God’s heart for the oppressed, why He never calls you to stay in harm, and how to step into peace — not guilt.

    This is your reminder that God’s truth brings freedom, not fear.

    💎 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

    ✅ What Scripture actually teaches about abuse, oppression, and justice ✅ Why forgiveness doesn’t mean staying in harm’s way ✅ How God’s character and Word support your peace and safety ✅ The biblical truth that sets you free from guilt and confusion

    💖 LINKS & RESOURCES 🎁 FREEBIES

    ✨ Boundaries Pocket Guide — protect your peace with simple, powerful scripts https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250

    👑 Join the Facebook Community — connect with women healing after narcissistic abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecovery

    💫 COURSES & COACHING

    🎓 Empowered Boundaries Course — master confident, guilt-free boundaries https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/

    🌿 Reclaiming You 1:1 Session (90 min) — personalized clarity, nervous system reset, and next-step plan https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/

    👑 Monthly Peace Coaching — ongoing somatic + spiritual support to rebuild self-trust https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/
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    16 min
  • One Daily Shift to Stop a Narcissist From Draining Your Energy

    One Daily Shift to Stop a Narcissist From Draining Your Energy
    Sep 25 2025
    One Daily Shift to Stop a Narcissist From Draining Your Energy (Thrive in 5) On Tuesday, we unpacked why narcissists want you exhausted and how to take your power back. In today’s quick Thrive in 5, I’m giving you one super simple shift you can use daily to protect your energy and stop them from draining you. This takes less than five minutes but makes a huge difference in keeping your peace. 👑 Mic Drop: Every pause, every reset is proof that you’re reclaiming your power one moment at a time. ✨ LINKS & GOODIES ✨ 💖 Freebie: Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 👑 1:1 Coaching: Reclaiming You Sessions → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ 📌 Listener Faves: The Grey Rock Method: How to Deal with a Narcissist if You Cannot Go No Contact → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grey-rock-method-how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist/id1662241353?i=1000648879776 Co-Parenting With a Narcissist? Why ‘Staying Civil’ Might Be Destroying Your Peace → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/co-parenting-with-a-narcissist-why-staying-civil-might/id1662241353?i=1000671183508 👑 Stay Connected: Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/christyjade Private Facebook Community → https://www.facebook.com/groups/1373765840008654/ TRANSCRIPTS Speaker 1 (00:01): Hello. Hello. So this is going to be a super quick episode with no real intro music because I was out tonight celebrating one of my friend's birthdays. Yay. Yay for birthdays. Alright, so Tuesday we talked about why narcissists want you exhausted and how to take your power back. Today I'm going to give you one super simple daily shift that can help you stop them from draining your energy and it takes less than five minutes. So it's perfect, perfect for tonight. Okay, so like I said, we dove in. How narcissists keep you running on empty, right? When you're depleted, you are easier to control, easier to manipulate, and less likely to fight back. But here's the good news, you don't have to play their game today. I want to give you one quick, powerful shift you can start using right away to keep that energy intact. (01:05) It is called a transition ritual. Here's how it works. Every time you feel yourself being pulled into their chaos could be a nasty text, an exhausting call, or even just remembering something they said. You pause, you step away and give yourself a reset ritual. So that could look like putting your phone in the drawer for five minutes, walking outside and maybe walking around if you have a cul-de-sac or just around the neighborhood and doing some intentional breathing, like that halo breathing I love. Or even just putting your hand on your heart and saying, my peace belongs to me, not them. So it sounds small, but it's actually big. Why? Because every time you interrupt this cycle, you're teaching your nervous system. I am safe, I am in charge, and I don't have to give my energy away. So here's the mic drop. Okay? Every pause, every reset is proof that you are reclaiming your power one moment at a time, right? So it seems like a small thing and maybe you won't remember every single time. So don't beat yourself up if you forget and you have a spin out, whatever. We're on a journey, okay? We're on a little healing, healing journey now. Alright? So try it this week. Choose your ritual. (03:00) I would suggest using one for now until you're in the real habit of it, and then you can switch them out, rotate them, but pick the one or maybe try 'em all out. See which works best for you. You can do your own version of one of these too, and notice how much more energy and clarity you hold onto. And if you haven't listened yet, go back to Tuesday's full episode where I unpack why the narcissists thrive on your exhaustion and how you can actually step into your power. So I know I have a little lack of energy tonight. I am very tired. It is very late, but I still wanted to get you just a quick episode. At least I know a lot of you love these. Thrive in fives and that's about it as you know the drill. If you want to work one-on-one and have super transformative somatic healing journeys, that is epic work. (04:08) Go look in my show notes. I will link the ways you can work in the one-on-one there. There's also My Empowered Boundaries course, which is it's just Chef's Kiss, okay? If you want to learn how to set boundaries, how to maintain boundaries, all the conversations, how to not feel guilty, the energy around them, all of that good stuff, it is a 10 module course and it is my baby. So go check out my baby or one-on-one work and I've got a couple freebies always listed in there. So definitely go check out the show notes and don't forget to hit follow on my podcast on the main page to make sure you do not miss an episode. Alright, love you. See you later. Queens.
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    5 min
  • Why Narcissists Want You Exhausted (and How to Take Your Power Back Before It’s Too Late)

    Why Narcissists Want You Exhausted (and How to Take Your Power Back Before It’s Too Late)
    Sep 23 2025

    Ever feel like dealing with a narcissist leaves you totally drained — like you’ve just run an emotional marathon? That’s not random.

    In this episode, I reveal why narcissists actually want you exhausted and how to finally reclaim your energy, peace, and power before it’s too late.

    💡 Here’s what you’ll learn today:

    • Why exhaustion is the narcissist’s #1 control tactic

    • How chaos cycles, sleep sabotage, and guilt-tripping keep you stuck

    • The simple 3-step process to take your power back and protect your peace

    If you’re healing after narcissistic abuse and tired of feeling depleted, this episode will give you the tools to stop the cycle and rise back into your power.

    👑 Ready for more support? 👉 Grab my free Boundaries Pocket Guide: https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250

    👉 Explore the Empowered Boundaries Course: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/

    👉 Book a 1:1 Reclaiming You Session: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/
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    11 min