In this week's episode, both questions focus on the theme of disappointment, and how to work with people and relationships that leave us wanting. We discuss:

1:03 Opening comments

7:01 I just found out my friend got married and I wasn't invited

16:28 Avoidant vs. anxious attachment styles

22:18 Role play: What would you say if you could?

32:14 I want an unconditionally loving relationship and I am always disappointed

43:19 Not all our needs must be met by one person

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From the moment we enter the world, we begin learning. We absorb the rules of our families, communities, and larger societies. Some of these lessons serve us well, fostering connection, growth, and resilience.

But others come from systems designed to control and dominate, systems that teach us to trade our authenticity for approval, our agency for compliance, and our creativity for conformity.

In this episode, we speak with Carol and Jen who are working with ways to voice their needs with an eye to getting those needs met. We discuss:

• 1:02 Opening thoughts
• 3:45 How can I create a more mutual friendship with an old friend?
• 9:55 How to check out my assumption with my friend
• 16:06 I'm scared to speak up about what I want
• 23:20 My suggestion was shot down in a meeting and I collapsed afterwards. How can I show up when I'm shut down?
• 27:20 Step 1: Accepting where I am
• 28:00 Step 2: Ask a question. ANY QUESTION.
• 35:25 How to lead with more "I" and less "You"
• 40:06 Shadow work: I get to take up space
• 47:30 What can I do for myself once I've woken from a freeze response?

Please share with your family and friends!

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This episode is devoted to those of us who feel frustrated when we're interrupted, or when a conversation we're having is diverted in a way that doesn't feel generative and connecting.

Listen in for the three strategies we can use and the three goals we can shoot for in order to create a new conversation.

We discuss:

• 3:10 I was having a heartfelt conversation and got interrupted. What can I do in moments like these?
• 8:09 Strategy #1: Say it badly to someone else, first
• 15:19 Doing our work on the backend allows for more choicefulness in the moment.
• 16:15 Strategy #2: Reflect the person back to them, and ask consent for a different conversation
• 21:45 Strategy #3: Raise awareness about the current dynamic
• 29:16 Goal #1: Shoot for playfulness
• 35:20 Goal #2: Detach from the other person's reaction
• 36:58 Goal #3: Accept yourself at your current level of practice
• 40:01 When I can't access humor, it might be because pain is present
• 41:54 Closing thoughts

Please share with your family and friends!

Use PODCAST50 to get $50 off tuition for my Spring Deep Dive, The Art of Repair Work: From Regret to Resilience. Group starts on March 31st for 8 weeks, so register early to save your space.

For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.


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