Episode 12 - The Stage of Our Lies
Show notes from the hosts:
In this episode Taylor and Eric discuss what it means to get honest with ourselves and others in sobriety.
Banter between hosts. Introduce big reveal...on IG account. sobernshameless
Honesty is our topic
Eric: Honesty in Recovery? How does that work. Taylor: We are selfish drunks and don't always know it, until we get sober for alcohol.
Taylor: Is omittance a form of lying? No, we need to know the time and place to say things. Just don't lie to yourself
Eric: as a people pleaser/co-dependent. We tend to follow others and want to make them happy so will say anything.
Taylor: moral compass was off
Eric and Taylor talk about the days in addiction about lying and the relief was felt once they were honest with themselves first.
Taylor: we are always needing to be "On" and this is where the lying came in
Brutal Honesty can be a defense mechanism
We gaslight others, lying becomes the name of the game
We need balance
See honesty in different ways
Eric asks Taylor: How does honesty show up for you in the middle of your recovery.
The "Pause" moment allows him not to engage, instead we learn how to respond.
Taylor responds to what honest looks like during addiction vs. recovery
Eric talks about being open to others' stories in order to grow in honesty
Honest reality told Eric he was the bigger cause of his own problems
Nothing is solved, but honesty is a work in progress
Honesty leads to undoing the facade that we have built.
The biggest lie, Do I have a Problem?
Getting out of our own way, we can be honest about our problems.
Maintaining honesty
None of this is linear. This happens differently for all of us.
Eric:Honesty is a process in recovery
Inability to look inward
With honesty comes fear, shame and anxiety.
Why recovery if we have to experience shame
Eric: Growth happens when blinders are taken off
Taylor: We have to learn to be ok with not being perfect
Work in Progress Eric shares personal story
Honesty allows for values and boundaries to come back
Thanks for keeping us sober
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"Sober & Shameless” is a podcast that flips the script on what it means to live a sober life. Co-Hosts, Taylor Klinger and Eric Andrew, graduates from the University of Self-Inflicted Victimization, along with over 80 years of combined experience in “learning the hard way” and “finding the audacity”, invite people from all walks of recovery to learn about shared experiences through genuinely improvised, hilarious, and authentic conversation. In each episode of Sober & Shameless, the hosts, along with occasional guests, will pick a topic to shed their shame about, explore ideas on how to grow through those challenges, and provide organic, light-hearted, honest, and unprofessional commentary about their experiences with addiction, strength through recovery, and life in sobriety.
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