What are boundaries and why are they so important, especially to survivors of sexual abuse? Why does your communication style matter when setting boundaries? How do you respond to others disbelief when you come forward? Learn how to assess how you set boundaries now and what needs to change in order to set healthy boundaries. Learn the tools you need to know how to set boundaries to those who do not have your best interest.
When you don’t know how to set boundaries you can be too trusting or share too much to people who are not supportive of your needs. On the other hand, holding your past inside for years or decades can impact you physically and mentally.
Not knowing how to assert you needs can make you feel like you are not in control of your life. Not knowing how to set boundaries can make you feel voiceless.
Setting boundaries represents how you feel inside. When you set boundaries, you are demonstrating to yourself and to the world that you accept yourself, you value yourself, and believe that you deserve to be treated with respect.
In this episode, which is part II of the 2-part series on Boundaries, I define what boundaries are, help you assess your boundary style currently and give real-life examples of how to set boundaries to people in your life. I also have a bonus section in this episode where you can click the link to download called Assessing Your Boundaries form and the HEAL Setting Boundaries form.
Today, you’ll will hear about:
- Boundaries are the physical, emotional, and mental limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or violated by others.
- Setting healthy personal boundaries … comes as you are getting stronger in the process of healing and from understanding your self-worth.
- A friend is not a professional … and can make you feel misunderstood or … they may not know how to comfort you. Not because they don’t want to but because they are not familiar with how to address the information shared with them.
- When you have been sexually abused, you can find yourself surrounded by boundary violating people.
- Now Creating boundaries can cause a sense of guilt because you may feel that you are hurting someone’s feelings.
- Boundaries define who you are as an individual. They outline your likes and dislikes and expose your weaknesses.
- Setting and maintaining boundaries can be challenging, especially in the face of disbelief and invalidation.
Listen in, get ready to take some notes, and get ready for your next breakthrough learning how to set boundaries!
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