Oh my oh my. What an episode. If I would have told my 15-year old self that I would be sitting down talking with someone you can search on p*rnhub, he would have either felt like he was in heaven, or he was definitely on his way to hell. 

And that’s the conundrum on this episode. Is pleasure inherently good or bad? Why is it so difficult to talk about?
Laura Desiree, who was a long-time anchor at Naked News, is a burlesque dancer, sex-positivity advocate, and just all around a curious cat. This is one of my favorite conversations I’ve had to date since moving to New York City. Laura and I just get candid and have real conversation about something we all are either engaged in, thinking about, or at the very least are the product of (and yet! It’s still a shameful thing to discuss in many circles). 

Through episodes like this one, I hope to spark more conversations around things we are taught to keep silent, because having the freedom to discuss them can have a major impact on all of our lives.

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- Calvin Wayman

Laura’s Red Umbrella Talk: 

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZMA-fZofRcXfFdIq4EfN9fK9WF73TOcv

To catch Calvin's full story of growing up in a cult, go here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1B1s5SL3PKGVg1YSRXoEW4?si=e294bea8deee41f0

TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 Intro and Teaser

00:01:16 Calvin met Laura where?!

00:03:45 What Calvin felt going to a s*x club

00:04:28 The taboo nature of s*x

00:06:36 What monogamists can learn from people in the s*x lifestyle

00:08:35 How silence around s*xual needs breeds resentment

00:09:31 Calvin's unpopular take in relationships

00:11:15 The importance of taking care of your s*xual needs

00:13:04 One of Calvin's favorite things from s*x-positive spaces

00:15:56 How did Laura become Laura?

00:18:01 Laura breaking her "twinship" identity

00:23:49 How Laura began making her own life

00:25:21 Finding authenticity through the journey of s*xual-discovery

00:26:39 Orgasms

00:28:30 The art of “letting go” & Calvin notices a paradox

00:30:52 Bettie Page

00:32:40 Communicating your needs to another human

00:33:54 A sexy hack Laura learned at the "New York School of Burlesque"

00:36:00 What got Laura into s*x work?

00:38:51 The benefits of doing what scares you (like getting naked in front of strangers)

00:42:07 How Laura got into Naked News

00:42:40 Siri (or the Illuminati) joins the conversation

00:44:21 "Dirty talk"

00:46:04 When is it "taking it too far?"

00:50:51 The stigma with s*xual freedom and s*x work

00:55:45 Self-pleasure as a “sin”

00:58:37 Realizing that s*x is okay

00:59:41 Ending on the deep end: What Laura is most proud of from her teenaged-self

01:02:08 Laura reflects gives “unorthodox answer” to what she’s most proud of from her 20’s

01:03:56 Laura's first one-night stand

01:06:44 Calvin’s first one-night stand

01:09:17 Laura's favorite thing about life

01:11:53 Calvin says something that 99% of people wouldn't

01:13:32 Laura gives everyone a s*xual dare

01:16:47 Follow Laura's socials!

01:17:28 Final thoughts - please subscribe!