🧝‍♂️ If you're into Lord of the Rings and want a partner who shares your passion, start by making friends who are also into fantasy! Vir and I found long-term relationships at our local Tolkien Association, as did most of our friends there... except for very specific people who got rejected by everyone 🙄

🧓 In this episode, we reminisce about our experience meeting and dating fellow nerds with similar interests. Because while reading can be a solitary activity, it doesn't have to be a lonely hobby. It's just a matter of finding the right group of people with whom you can connect and build deep and meaningful relationships 📚

And that's what you should focus on ☝️ Yes, you want to find a partner, but your main priority should be to expand your network. This way, you'll be able to find a Player 2 without needing to go to bars, clubs, or approach random people on the street that you know nothing about 🍻

✋ However, if you focus solely on finding someone to date, you won't fit in with this group. While people may be open to dating, it's not a meat market. So hold your horses, have patience, and avoid the common mistakes we describe in this episode 🙅‍♂️

🎧 What're you waiting for to give it a listen? Forth Eorlingas!

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Argentine Tolkien Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/AsociacionTolkienArgentina/

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:34 The Argentine Tolkien Association
• 00:04:58 Meeting New People
• 00:07:58 Building Deep Relationships
• 00:11:13 Common Interests and Dating
• 00:13:24 Not Being a Creep
• 00:18:40 Expanding Your Network
• 00:21:58 The Friend Zone
• 00:25:19 How Long Does It Take?

Contact:
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📺 Staying in watching Naruto and eating pizza might not be everyone's preference for a first date. But that doesn't have to stop you from finding a Player 2!

🎖️ After serving in the military, Phillip moved to a new city full of extroverts. As an introverted nerd dealing with anxiety and starting to build a life from scratch, with no money or even a bed, Phillip was finding it challenging to date. But after some swiping, he found Darcy, a fellow introvert who even suggested staying in for their first date! 🛋️

❌ And, no. They didn't sleep together on that first date (it was Netflix and Pizza; not Netflix and Chill). In fact, he gave her a kiss on the cheek on the 4th date! How was he not friend-zoned? He was clear from the beginning about what she could expect. And she liked him just like that. 🙌

If you think you have to change who you are to find a partner, listen to Phillip's story!

Phillip's links:

https://alnerdstuff.com/

https://www.threads.net/@nerd_stuff_of_al

https://www.instagram.com/nerd_stuff_of_al/

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Timestamps for lazy nerds:

00:00:25 Intro

00:01:43 Trying to Date as an Introverted Nerd

00:03:25 A Nerd on Dating Apps

00:05:55 Dating App Burnout

00:08:45 Being True to Yourself

00:11:14 Dating Expectations

00:15:41 First Date with Naruto and Pizza

00:17:45 How Fast to Move on Dates

00:20:24 Good Communication in Dating

00:28:01 Don't Be Afraid to Be Yourself

00:28:55 Contact Info

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If you want to approach people, start conversations, ask for a number, or invite them on a date, one of the most useful Skills you will need is resilience. In this interview, Dr. Daniel Kaufmann shares why many of us give up before even trying, and how video games can get us closer to achieving our goals in any aspect of our lives.

Part of the Hero's Journey idea is that we as spectators can identify with the hero of a story and gain Skills and motivation to improve our lives. Video games take this concept to another level: we are the ones winning. Without us, the avatar would sit still and go nowhere.

This also implies that both you and your avatar will gain experience and get better as time goes by. Carol Dweck calls this the Growth Mindset. For some of us, this is an in-game lesson that we can take outside the virtual world. But for others, it's not enough to compensate for decades of the Fixed Mindset discourse. Real life just doesn't have the same opportunities and motivations as video games.

But this is only one of the many lessons you can learn from video games. So what will you do? Will you stay in your comfort zone or will you start working toward your dating goals?

Listen now and embark on your Gamer's Journey today!

Guest Bio

Dr. Daniel Kaufmann is a YouTube Partner as Dr. Gameology, where he teaches about the many positive elements of video games that help us overcome professional and personal journeys in real life.

He is an Associate Professor who’s helped develop programs for gaming and geek therapy training in clinical settings, and his publications cover video games, personality theory, online education, and counselor development.

Dr. Kaufmann recently published the book The Gamer’s Journey, to help you turn the themes found in many video games into life lessons that can unlock your own potential.

Socials: @DrGameology

• https://www.youtube.com/@DrGameology
• https://www.instagram.com/drgameology/
• https://www.facebook.com/DrGameology
• https://www.twitch.tv/drgameology

Other Links

• https://drgameology.com/
• https://discord.com/invite/3bY5u5EBcn

Podcast: https://drgameology.com/podcast/

The Gamer's Journey: https://www.amazon.com/Gamers-Journey-Daniel-Kaufmann-PhD-ebook/dp/B0D7NY5Z1R

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:50 Bio
• 00:02:01 How The Gamer's Journey Can Improve Your Life
• 00:08:14 The Fixed and Growth Mindsets
• 00:17:00 Fear of Rejection
• 00:24:05 Conversation Skills
• 00:32:20 What Gives You Motivation
• 00:37:41 Contact Info

Contact:
dm@rolltodate.com or
@rolltodate on social media