We’ve talked about botox and plastic surgery on this podcast before and Besties know, we’re all for it. Maybe when we were younger we were on Team Aging Naturally, but now that we’re in our 40’s, small cosmetic enhancements make us feel beautiful and confident… Well, for the most part they do. But there are some cosmetic procedures that do more harm than good, especially one specific procedure Danny had done this summer, but we’ll leave that story for you to hear in the full episode.

Aging naturally or with enhancements [1:14]

Should we be getting Sculptra? [5:28]

The ways we ruined our skin in our youth [8:27]

Hairline surgery gone wrong [15:51]

Healing takes longer than you want it to [35:24]

Surgery is rough, no matter how minor [39:00]

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We love having thoughtful and insightful conversations as much as the next people, but sometimes we just wanna shoot the shit. It’s been a hectic summer, so we wanted to sit down for an episode and talk about all the little things we’ve been thinking about lately.

Having ChatGPT be our personal stylist [3:55]

An obsession with Vans [5:59]

Everyone loves retail therapy [9:23]

Getting into F1 [12:52]

An AI color analysis [24:05]

What to wear to a wedding [29:01]

Relationships in the age of AI [37:18]

Putting your foot in your mouth [44:59]

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Our value systems are deeply personal and influence almost everything we do in our lives. We all have core values, whether they’re obvious to us or not. Getting clear on what our values are can help us find direction in work, play, love, and life. It’s often said that you teach people how to treat you, and with a defined set of values, you get to set the tone for your interactions and future choices. Not all things in this life can be important, and when you know what your core values are, you have the freedom to focus on what really matters to you.

(This episode is a replay.)

Why are values important? [1:59]

Your values guide your expectations and your business [5:55]

It’s nice to know what you stand for [8:39]

Some questions to help you understand your own value system [10:22]

You have to define what your values really mean to you [13:13]

What are your anti-values? [15:21]

Running tough decisions through your core values [17:36]

Not everything can be important all the time [21:27]

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We don’t normally talk about pop culture, but we just watched Unknown Number on Netflix and holy. fucking. shit. This episode is full of spoilers so if you haven’t watched yet, do it and report back! There are all sorts of fucked up people in the world and being able to hide behind screens and unknown numbers just makes the worst of us even bolder.

We watched “Unknown Number” [1:39]

Our theories [26:45]

Cyber-stalking without consequences [38:38]

Constant vigilance and fear [45:07]

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Apparently, hating the same things is the mark of a great friendship. It makes sense—misery does love company. There’s something so freeing about getting to be the worst version of yourself in front of your friends and not only to be accepted, but for your base-level feelings to be validated. Life will always be full of some holier-than-thou-Kathys who “hate” gossip and find it “beneath” them, but Kathy is a bitch anyways and we have so much more fun hating her pretentious ass than she could ever imagine. No one is perfect all the time, and when we hate together, our friendships thrive. Seems like a win-win to us.

The utility of gossip [0:59]

Getting your hatred off your chest [3:09]

Misery loves company [5:34]

We hate Costco [7:56]

Bonding over the things you love [9:24]

Sand up the vagina [13:14]

Letting your friends see the worst side of you [19:34]

Some holier-than-thou people [24:44]

We all have moments that aren’t our best [28:47]

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Yeah, you read that title correctly. Danny-J went to the infamous Burning Man festival. We’ve been skeptics for years, but curiosity finally won out, and we wish we could say it was a great experience. Burning Man was fine, but there may or may not have been some unexpected bumps along the way. People always say, “you don’t get the Burn you want, you get the Burn you need,” but that’s left us with more questions than answers.

Burning Man’s Reputation [1:52]

Getting to Burning Man [7:46]

Stuck in jail [16:20]

The sights and sounds [17:41]

Nextdoor to the orgy tent [23:39]

Drugs passed from mouth to mouth [25:51]

Not the Burn you want, the Burn you need [28:44]

Freedom and non-judgement [30:38]

A fine experience [34:50]

Getting a call from jail [36:08]

Hitting rock bottom [39:58]

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We’ve lived enough life by now to know that shame is never helpful. Sometimes when bad things happen to us as a result of our choices, some asshole hits us with the, “well, you did this to yourself.” No shit, Sherlock. Just because our choices led to less than desirable outcomes, doesn’t mean we can’t feel bad about it. Shaming anyone for the things they did or didn’t do won’t rewrite the past, and it certainly doesn’t make them feel better. Shaming someone like that only makes them hate you. And it’s always easy to judge people’s misfortunes until one day, you’ll have some misfortune of your own.

There are no lessons [2:02]

How we’re stretching our brains [4:09]

Mountain biking, in the jungle [8:52]

The tedium of running [11:36]

You did this to yourself [15:48]

Shame doesn’t help anyone [21:44]

Holding space for others and yourself [25:00]

Looking for validation of our choices [26:57]

It’s hard to hate up close [30:37]

Balancing accountability [33:07]

It’s all the luck of the draw [35:48]

People will judge anything [38:13]

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Our Jill is getting married 🥹 If you’ve been a listener from the beginning, you’ll know what a big deal this is and just how proud we are. To celebrate Jill’s Final Fiesta (IYKYK), Danny-J planned a wild bachelorette trip in Cabo. And by wild, we mean incredibly tame and everyone was in bed by 10. No, really. Life may not look how we thought it would in our 20’s and 30’s, but we’re so happy everything ended up the way it did.

Danny joined a calisthenics gym [5:89]

Going to bed early is the best [5:38]

Jill’s bachelorette weekend [6:41]

A chill spa day with friends [10:46]

The pros of a small, intimate group [13:32]

Feeling like a burden for asking people to travel [15:51]

Drinking in our 40’s [19:52]

Planning out the little details [23:16]

A weekend without men [26:41]

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