Today, Jill and Danny dive into everything from TikTok earworms and the chaos of keeping up with new platforms to Danny’s new “50 First Dates With Myself” challenge that has completely reignited her creativity and joy on social media. Danny shares how the idea was born, her experience returning to TikTok after years away, and how her first official date set the tone for a year of intentional, elevated solo experiences. Planning meaningful dates matters in both single life and long-term relationships, and when you raise your standards with yourself, they naturally raise for what you expect from others. That’s why carving out novelty, play, and effort is essential for feeling alive—in love, in life, and in how you show up for yourself.

Getting back on TikTok [2:17]

What people think of Danny’s 50 first dates [4:19]

The first few dates [8:30]

Raising the standard for yourself [12:27]

Life is too short not to celebrate [14:05]

Breaking out of routine [17:21]

Exploring a creative side [19:33]

Something to get excited about [22:43]

Making content doesn’t have to be complicated [26:07]

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Last week we talked about Jill’s big news, so this week we wanted to share Danny’s: she’s dating again! Except there’s one big catch—Danny is dating herself. No more waiting around for a man to go try new foods or do fun things, she’s going to take herself. And it’s not just doing activities alone, she’s dating herself with intentionality and presence. Connecting with others is always great, but connecting with yourself is everything.

Going on 50 First dates [1:02]

Why wait for a man to do the things you want to do? [2:23]

The rules [4:33]

Presence and intentionality [7:38]

Sticking it out, even if you want to leave [10:07]

Looking good for yourself [13:28]

What does and doesn’t count as a date [16:05]

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Our girl Jill is married! For our OG Besties, you know what a wild ride it’s been—we started this podcast before Jill even met her now husband. We all couldn’t be happier for her, or more proud of her for having the courage to trust in love again. Of course, Jill’s wedding was beautiful and perfect, and we thought since our Besties have seen Jill through it all, you deserved to know how the day went, too.

The difference between a girlfriend and a wife [5:07]

An intimate wedding [8:11]

The best dance night of our lives [12:50]

Jill’s biggest regret and a secret wager [18:42]

The best wedding ever [24:08]

The vows and the first look [27:16]

Having the courage to trust love one more time [31:02]

Growing old with someone [40:38]

Changing Jill’s last name [46:54]

Setting up Danny with a new man [48:48]

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There are some studies coming out that show young people—especially boys—are turning more and more towards AI for relationships instead of their peers. Yikes. Me are already lonely, and we think it has a lot to do with porn, technology, and social conditioning. If they’re outsourcing companionship to AI bots, it seems like it can only go down from here. We need real human interaction to build real human social skills, right? All we can say is good luck to the parents out there.

The problems with turning to AI for companionship [3:35]

Our brains are changing, in a bad way [7:21]

Men have fewer emotionally fulfilling relationships [9:30]

Why don’t men have friends? [14:12]

We need human connection to build human social skills [16:02]

Just be a nice person [20:12]

Does change start with school? [25:07]

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It’s somehow the era of the Trad Wife—at least on Threads and Twitter—and it seems like all the former Boss Babes are hanging up their blazers and turning them in for aprons. But does it really have to be just one or the other? We want to live soft lives, too, but we love working and getting shit done! Everyone has different goals for their lives, so while some women may be opting for a more “traditional role,” lets leave some room for all the others who want something else.

Do strong women want to be “led”? [6:01]

We got shit to do [9:19]

Not everyone feels the same way [13:09]

Time has hardened us more than we’d like [16:08]

It’s hard to leave the past in the past [20:49]

There are always strings attached [22:34]

A rebellion against hustle culture [27:03]

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We’re back in our Shenanigans Era! Okay maybe not, because we’ve really been home-bodies in recent years… but one thing we really miss from 2016-2018 is sharing our day-to-day lives with our followers. Having a strong personal brand is more important now than ever and part of building a personal brand is sharing what you’re up to! So even though we don’t get up to too much shenanigans anymore, we’re going to start sharing the same way we did all those years ago. Wanna join?

The best way to stand out is to be you [2:35]

Getting out of the habit of sharing [6:24]

What to share and what to keep private [9:52]

The content we love watching [12:09]

Thinking about safety [15:06]

Are filters making us uglier? [18:47]

A personal branding challenge [20:06]

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As we get older, we want to look and feel good for ourselves, but we kind of want to look good for our partners too! Men can be annoying as hell for sure, but men as a whole are not the same thing as the individual men in our lives, and that includes our partners. It’s not a crime to want to look hot for your significant other! Life is long and there are ways our appearances will change that we have no control over and of course we hope to be loved through all of those changes. Buuuuut that doesn’t mean we’ve given up on trying to be hot in the ways we can control.

The chronically late personality type [2:51]

The right time to get to the airport [9:11]

Looking good for yourself AND your partner [11:36]

Controlling the things you can control [15:41]

The energetics of feeling hot [19:22]

Compatible lifestyles [22:07]

Sometimes we make it about looks when it isn’t [24:26]

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We’ve talked about botox and plastic surgery on this podcast before and Besties know, we’re all for it. Maybe when we were younger we were on Team Aging Naturally, but now that we’re in our 40’s, small cosmetic enhancements make us feel beautiful and confident… Well, for the most part they do. But there are some cosmetic procedures that do more harm than good, especially one specific procedure Danny had done this summer, but we’ll leave that story for you to hear in the full episode.

Aging naturally or with enhancements [1:14]

Should we be getting Sculptra? [5:28]

The ways we ruined our skin in our youth [8:27]

Hairline surgery gone wrong [15:51]

Healing takes longer than you want it to [35:24]

Surgery is rough, no matter how minor [39:00]

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