Dr. Anthony Walker joins us to share how he helps men navigate the healing process after betrayal. He provides insights from Help Her Heal, a workbook by Carol Jergensen Sheets, and discusses how men can develop emotional attunement, overcome resistance, and strengthen their relationships.

Key Talking Points:

• What led Dr. Anthony Walker to Help Her Heal and how he incorporates its strategies in his coaching.
• The importance of emotional attunement in repairing relational trust and how men can develop this skill.
• Common misconceptions men have about betrayal trauma and how Help Her Heal addresses them.
• How men can work through shame and defensiveness to focus on healing both themselves and their relationships.
• The role of spiritual warfare in marriage and how couples can recognize and combat these challenges.
• Encouragement for men who are resistant to engaging in the healing process and practical steps to begin.

Resources Mentioned:

• Help Her Heal by Carol Jergensen Sheets – Amazon Link
• Learn more about Dr. Anthony Walker at www.coachanthonywalker.com
• Intensive Hope Coaching – www.intensivehope.com/pages/services/coaching.html

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In this episode, we welcome Hope Ray, a Licensed Professional Counselor who coined Betrayal Violence. Hope is a leader in the field of betrayal trauma, offering deep insights into the effects of secrecy, deception, and relational power imbalances. She is also the creator of Complex Partner Trauma magazine, available on Amazon, which provides resources and support for betrayed partners.

Throughout our conversation, we dive into Reality Collapse, the disorientation that betrayed partners experience, and explore how betrayal violence impacts healing and recovery. Hope shares her expertise on recognizing and navigating these complex emotional experiences, helping listeners regain clarity and reclaim their sense of reality.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

🔹 Understanding Reality Collapse – Hope explains what Reality Collapse is, why it occurs, and how often a betrayed partner might experience it.

🔹 Identifying Reality Collapse – We discuss the key signs that indicate someone is experiencing a Reality Collapse and how it can distort their perception of past and present experiences.

🔹 Betrayal Violence and Its Effects – Hope unpacks how betrayal violence exacerbates trauma and why it’s essential to recognize its impact.

🔹 Endangerment in Betrayal Trauma – What does endangerment mean in the context of betrayal trauma? Hope explains how betrayed partners can assess and safeguard their emotional and physical well-being.

🔹 Processing Betrayal and Reality Collapse – Hope shares how Reality Collapse affects a betrayed partner's ability to process their experiences and the symptoms that indicate they may be struggling.

🔹 Steps Toward Healing and Reclaiming Reality – Practical strategies for those who have experienced Reality Collapse, including steps to rebuild trust in themselves and their perceptions.

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👉 Website: hoperay.com

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We had the privilege of sitting down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to discuss the transformative power of the Intimacy Pyramid. With their personal story of betrayal, addiction, and healing as the backdrop, the Raabsmiths shared actionable insights and hope for couples looking to rebuild trust, connection, and relational intimacy.

The Raabsmiths are passionate leaders in the field of marriage and relationship restoration. Combining their expertise with their lived experience, they empower couples to overcome the challenges of betrayal and relational trauma. As creators of the Intimacy Pyramid, they provide a structured and compassionate approach to help couples rediscover trust, deepen connection, and cultivate true intimacy. Learn more about their groundbreaking work at https://intimacypyramid.com/.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• How They Got Started: Matthew and Joanna share their journey into this field, driven by a deep desire to support couples in navigating the complexities of betrayal and healing.
• Joy in the Work: They reveal the most rewarding aspects of working with couples, including witnessing the transformation and renewed hope in relationships.
• Challenges in the Healing Process: The Raabsmiths identify key hurdles couples face, emphasizing the importance of patience, vulnerability, and perseverance.
• The Intimacy Pyramid: This is an amazing tool for guiding couples step-by-step toward thriving intimacy, fostering trust, safety, and mutual understanding.
• Keys to Success for Both Partners: Insights into what the betraying spouse, the betrayed partner, and the couple as a whole can do to move forward successfully.
• Personal Story: Matthew and Joanna’s candid sharing of their own struggles and triumphs offers hope and relatability for listeners.

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👉 Visit Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith’s website

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We’re excited to welcome Dr. Laura Sanger back to The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! Dr. Sanger’s first episode remains the top fan favorite, and we are thrilled to have her return with another timely and profound message—this time focusing on rest, just in time for the holiday season.

Dr. Sanger is a clinical psychologist, author, and the founder of No Longer Enslaved (www.nolongerenslaved.com), where she equips individuals to live free in their God-given identity, authority, and purpose.

In this episode, we explore:

🌟 What is the importance of entering into Sabbath Rest? Dr. Sanger shares how Sabbath rest is more than physical; it’s a spiritual posture of trust and renewal.

🌟 What are the redemptive gifts of Romans 12? We dive into the unique ways God has wired us to bring His light into the world.

🌟 What does it mean to walk in dominion authority? Learn what it looks like to walk confidently in the birthright authority Christ has given us.

This discussion is packed with insight, encouragement, and practical applications for embracing rest, stepping into your gifts, and walking in victory.

Why this episode matters: As we approach Christmas, the message of entering into God’s rest couldn’t be more relevant. Whether navigating life’s busyness, recovering from betrayal, or simply seeking a deeper relationship with God, this episode will inspire and equip you.

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👉 No Longer Enslaved

👉 Watermark Coaching

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On today's episode of The BRT Podcast, we welcome the amazing Stacey Smith. She’s the Chief Clinical Officer and a Clinical Therapist at Daring Ventures. With a personal recovery journey from betrayal and "stinkin' thinkin'," Stacey uses her lived experience and professional expertise to guide betrayed partners and those suffering from addiction toward healing. She is certified in EMDR therapy and specializes in helping people overcome attachment wounds and shame. Stacey is passionate about creating a healing partnership with her clients and believes in the transformative power of therapy.

Key Highlights:

Stacey shares the acronym "Empower" to teach us about Post Betrayal Growth.

E - Embrace Change

M - Movement

P -Positive Mentality/Mindset

O - Own Your Life

W- Welcome Power

E - Elect a Choice

R - Resolve to Choose

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• Stacey Smith
• Watermark Coach
• Healing with the Howies
• Follow us on Instagram: @WatermarkCoaching

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We are thrilled to welcome Elizabeth Abbruzza, the Co-Founder and Clinical Director of the Bellevue Trauma Recovery Center, to the podcast. With a deep focus on relational trauma and betrayal, Elizabeth shares her expertise and details about the impactful Resilience Through Betrayal (RTB) intensives offered at her center.

About Elizabeth Abbruzza: Elizabeth holds a Master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Gonzaga University and specializes in addressing relational trauma, sex addiction, and problematic sexual behaviors. As a primary therapist for the Resilience Through Betrayal intensives, she empowers individuals to navigate healing after betrayal, offering therapeutic expertise and compassionate care.

Key Highlights:

1. Origins of RTB Intensive: Elizabeth explains how the Resilience Through Betrayal program was developed to provide a focused and immersive approach for individuals dealing with betrayal trauma.
2. Daily Structure: Learn what a typical day at RTB intensives entails, including how sessions are structured to balance therapeutic work with emotional well-being.
3. Immediate Client Needs: Discover the importance of creating safety and validation for participants at the beginning of the intensive.
4. Desired Outcomes: Elizabeth outlines the program's goals, which include fostering resilience, self-compassion, and emotional healing.
5. Preventing Overload: Insights are shared on how participants are supported to avoid feeling overwhelmed while engaging in deep therapeutic work.
6. Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT): In the final section, Elizabeth introduces Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT), a promising method that fosters healing by addressing deep emotional wounds. This engaging conversation offers hope and new possibilities for recovery.

Connect with Us:

• Elizabeth Abbruzza: Bellevue Trauma Recovery Center
• Watermark Coach
• Healing with the Howies
• Follow us on Instagram: @WatermarkCoaching

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Introduction: Kris and Jenn sit down with Karen Rellos, founder of Restored Hope Coaching and Redeeming Love Marriage Ministry. Karen, a certified betrayal trauma coach, joins the conversation to shed light on a topic that affects many relationships—Intimacy Deprivation, also known as Intimacy Atrophy (IA). With her extensive background in helping women navigate betrayal trauma, Karen offers valuable insights into the causes, impacts, and healing journey surrounding intimacy deprivation in relationships.

Key Highlights:

1. What is Intimacy Atrophy?
   • Karen explains Intimacy Atrophy as a gradual loss of emotional, physical, or spiritual connection within a relationship. The term highlights the diminishing closeness and vulnerability in relationships, which can deeply impact both partners.
2. Root Causes of Intimacy Deprivation:
   • According to Karen, the root causes of Intimacy Atrophy often lie in unresolved emotional wounds, betrayal trauma, or avoidance of vulnerability. She discusses how individuals who struggle with intimacy deprivation may have past hurts or emotional blockages that prevent them from fully engaging in the relationship.
3. Behaviors and Coping Mechanisms:
   • Karen outlines common behaviors associated with intimacy deprivation, including emotional withdrawal, detachment, or the avoidance of meaningful connection. These coping mechanisms may develop as a way to shield oneself from emotional pain but ultimately contribute to a lack of closeness in the relationship.
4. Impact on the Partner and Relationship:
   • Karen explains how intimacy atrophy can lead to feelings of rejection, loneliness, and frustration in the partner who desires deeper connection, creating further strain and misunderstandings.
5. Healing and Recovery:
   • Karen emphasizes that healing from intimacy deprivation is possible. She describes the recovery process, which involves addressing the root causes, developing emotional awareness, and taking intentional steps toward rebuilding intimacy.
6. A Word of Encouragement:
   • In closing, Karen offers a heartfelt message to listeners, encouraging them to stay committed to the journey of healing and growth. She reminds them that it’s possible to rekindle intimacy and build stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Connect with Us:

• Karen Rellos: Restored Hope Coaching and Redeeming Love Marriage Ministry.
• Watermark Coach
• Healing with the Howies
• Follow us on Instagram: @WatermarkCoaching

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In this episode, we welcome Diane Schnickels, founder of Living Waters of Hope and a dedicated advocate for survivors of domestic abuse. Diane brings her extensive experience and compassionate approach to discuss when sex addiction crosses the line into abuse. She has developed crucial resources like the Oasis Bible Study and the Hope Giver Essentials training program, empowering women to heal and reclaim their lives. Today, Diane shares her insights on recognizing the signs of abuse related to sex addiction and provides valuable guidance on supporting those affected.

Key Highlights:

1. Deceit and Betrayal: Repeated lying and secretive behavior that creates mistrust.
2. Emotional Manipulation: Gaslighting and minimizing actions that distort reality.
3. Neglect and Abandonment: The emotional neglect caused by prioritizing addiction over the relationship.
4. Sexual Coercion or Pressure: The importance of consent and respecting boundaries.
5. Financial Exploitation: Misuse of joint finances for addiction-related expenses.
6. Exposure to STDs: Health risks posed by undisclosed risky sexual behaviors.
7. Impact on Mental Health: Anxiety, depression, and PTSD as consequences of dealing with a partner's sex addiction.

Connect with Us:

• Living Waters of Hope
• Visit our website: Watermark Coach
• Follow us on Instagram: @WatermarkCoaching

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• Produced and edited by Kris Rocha & Jeremy Waldridge

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