This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer who wonders what they can do to have a better experience giving oral sex, and they discuss a letter from a woman looking for advice on how to explain her specific dating needs. Mentioned in this episode: Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at (347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices