“You can be anything to a woman, but you can’t be boring.”

The hard truth? Attraction dies when a man trades his edge for comfort, his decisiveness for “whatever you want, babe,” and his self-respect for a never-ending to-do list. Women don’t fall for a guy because he’s nice; they fall for a guy who makes their heart race, who leads with confidence, and who—let’s be honest—knows how to keep things interesting. Lose that, and you’re not in a relationship—you’re in a slow-moving hostage situation.

Our guest breaks down why so many men go from exciting to invisible in their own relationships. He shares war stories, laugh-out-loud failures, and the hard-earned lessons that turned it all around. The secret sauce? Stop asking permission, start leading, and remember: attraction isn’t a faucet you turn on when you’re in the mood—it’s a dynamic you maintain every single day.

Paul Bauer is a men’s coach, author, and podcast host who learned the rules of attraction the hard way—by breaking every single one of them. After years of trial, error, and some truly questionable dating decisions, he dedicated himself to understanding what makes relationships work. Now, he helps men reclaim their confidence, maintain their edge, and, most importantly, avoid becoming the human equivalent of background noise in their own love lives.

Learn more & connect:

Come on, Man podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ComeOnManPodcast

Books:

1. The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi
   https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/1492777862
2. No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
   https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339
3. The Player’s Handbook by Rollo Tomassi
   https://www.amazon.com/Players-Handbook-Rational-Male/dp/1801440402
4. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
   https://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Landmark-Bestseller/dp/1585424331
5. Atomic Attraction by Christopher Canwell
   https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Attraction-Psychology-Mastery-Dating/dp/1953616012
6. Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 by Athol Kay
   https://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-Life-Primer-2011/dp/1460981731
7. The Essential Skills of a Masculine Presence Psychology Paradigm
   https://a.co/d/4D1djp0

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“Men kind of get complacent. They think they’ve reached this, you know, sort of finish line. Like they don’t have to try anymore. And things just go into complacency and they stop being the type of attractive guys that inspire that reaction from their wives.”

A thriving relationship is built on more than just commitment—it requires polarity, confidence, and a refusal to slip into complacency. Too many men think the work ends at marriage, but that’s where leadership truly begins. Attraction fades when men stop leading, stop being assertive, and start playing it safe. The key is simple: become the kind of man your wife wants to chase. That means prioritizing self-improvement, standing firm in your boundaries, and bringing an energy that keeps the fire alive.

Paul Bauer has spent years helping men reclaim the respect, admiration, and desire they once had in their marriages. He emphasizes that a loss of intimacy isn’t a scheduling issue—it’s a reflection of lost attraction. When men step up as leaders in their relationships, everything changes. Women respond to confidence, direction, and a sense of adventure. The moment a man reclaims his role, the dynamic shifts from obligation to enthusiasm.

Paul Bauer is a men’s coach and author of Get Her to F** You Again: A Red Pill Guide to Fix a Dead Bedroom.* After experiencing his own struggles in marriage and relationships, Paul dedicated himself to understanding the psychology of attraction and leadership. His mission is to help men restore passion in their relationships and become the kind of men who naturally inspire desire. Find him at call.fixedeadbedrooms.com.

Learn more & connect:

1. Paul Bauer’s Coaching Calendar: https://call.fixedeadbedrooms.com
2. Paul’s latest book: The Essential Skills of a Masculine Presence | Psychology – Paradigm: Mastering Paradigms: Reprogram Your Mind for a Dominant Masculine Presence and Unleash Your Full Potential

https://a.co/d/cEeSAuO

1. Paul previous book: Get Her to F** You Again: A Red Pill Guide to Fix a Dead Bedroom

https://a.co/d/hcbE1aI

1. RP Thor’s Book: A Dominant Masculine Presence: Learning How To Cultivate Your Authentic Self As A Man And Display Supreme Confidence And Control Over How You Are Perceived

https://a.co/d/1MlT07V

You’re invited to come to a Sovereign Circle meeting to experience it for yourself. To learn more, go to https://www.sovereignman.ca/. While you’re there, check out the Battle Ready program and check out the store for Sovereign Man t-shirts, hats, and books.

“Gentle parenting is this new age thing where parents try to be friends with their children as opposed to being parents. And some of them have this mix of a little bit of trying to be the parent and the friend, which is a little bit confusing to children because they don’t know who’s who at different times.”

For decades, parenting has drifted toward a softer, more “gentle” approach, where discipline is frowned upon, and kids are treated more like emotional equals than growing humans who need guidance. While the intent may be noble, the reality is that structure, discipline, and even a little rough-and-tumble play are essential for developing strong, capable adults. The problem isn’t just that kids lack discipline; it’s that they lack clarity. When fathers fail to step into their role as leaders and instead play the role of “buddy,” they leave their children without the critical framework needed to navigate the real world. Parenting is about preparing, not pampering.

Steve Richmond pulls no punches when discussing the long-term consequences of today’s parenting trends. He challenges the modern obsession with self-esteem over self-worth and participation trophies over earned victories. He highlights the importance of setting clear boundaries, letting boys test their limits, and ensuring that fathers actually parent instead of playing support act to their children’s whims. He makes the case that without strong father figures enforcing discipline and structure, we’re raising a generation that will struggle with confidence, responsibility, and resilience.

Steve Richmond is a seasoned expert in fatherhood, personal development, and masculinity. With years of experience coaching men and helping families find balance, he believes in reclaiming the lost art of fatherhood. His work focuses on helping men step back into their roles as leaders in their households, instilling discipline, responsibility, and a healthy respect for life’s hard-earned lessons.

Books Mentioned:

1. “The Boy Crisis” by Dr. Warren Farrell

• https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Crisis-Boys-Struggling-About/dp/1942952716

2. “The Road Less Travelled” by M. Scott Peck

• https://www.amazon.com/Road-Less-Traveled-Timeless-Traditional/dp/0743243153

Learn more and connect:

https://www.steverichmond.ca/

You’re invited to come to a Sovereign Circle meeting to experience it for yourself. To learn more, go to https://www.sovereignman.ca/. While you’re there, check out the Battle Ready program and check out the store for Sovereign Man t-shirts, hats, and books.