On this episode of the World Game-Changers podcast, Paul talks to T M Hoy about the things he didn’t know that he now knows and thinks the world should know. KEY TAKEAWAYS Looking back on my life it’s been a history of mostly bad mistakes. The thing I’d like to talk about is that I wish I’d paid attention to just how right my mother was when she would criticise and guide me away from the easy way.Growing up, it was a fault of mine, I looked for the way out, the get-rich scheme, the way to jump the queue and get ahead without all the hard work. My mother constantly repeated – and she was right – that all of that was pissing away effort, time and money and that instead, the easy way is not the easy way and that it doesn’t work by and large, and that if you put the effort into doing something positive and work on it, in the end, it will be much quicker. Ultimately that paid off and I have changed my life quite a bit realising my mother’s wisdom.Choose something important to you, that you really like, want and need to do and pour your effort into that and master the toolsets that you need to acquire to achieve that. That’s where you need to focus your energy and your time, not on the easy way or route that people are promising results instantly, that’s bullshit.We’re fed the idea that wealth is the key to success and achievement. From one perspective, it can be. There are some people who highly value the opinion of others; they’re stuck in that materialistic paradigm. I learned that the world’s opinion matters very little in your personal life. The materialistic game that so many of us are taught to play is a rigged game that does not lead to happiness. BEST MOMENTS If you take the easy way what you’re doing is pouring your energy down a rat hole, it’s not gonna work because it’s sold by someone who’s benefitting in some way it’s not designed to help you.’‘Even though it’s not attractive, pretty, glittery or shiny that so many of us reach for, that stoic, rough, granite-like worldview is based solidly on reality and hard experience. It’s real wisdom.’‘Patience and persistence always win, that’s the key to success.’‘Material things and the opinion of the world about what happiness and success look like are lies.’ VALUABLE RESOURCES Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK) Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA) Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK) Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA) Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon) World Game-Changers Group ABOUT THE GUEST T M Hoy is a happiness expert, but he came by it at great cost and through unthinkable hardship. When Marc says: “What is happiness? Where does it come from, and how do you get it?” you should know it’s a question he’s had the time to consider... a lot of time to consider. In 1995 Marc returned from an overnight business trip to his home in Thailand to find a panicked house guest and a dead person on the floor between them. His choices: go immediately to the police and turn his friend in for the murder he’d committed or help his friend cover up the murder and pray it was never discovered. Marc made the wrong decision and spent 5 years in Thailand’s most notorious prison with death and decay surrounding him, his well-being in constant peril, and happiness an elusive emotion of the past – one he’d surely never experienced again. But he did. From the depths of despair, bit by bit, he created his happiness – lasting happiness – and it saw him through the most difficult, painful period of his entire life. And now he’s ready to share the things he learned. LASTING HAPPINESS is a field guide for the rest of us as we go through life trying to find our happiness. ABOUT THE HOST Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy & fulfilling life. From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink & constantly embroiled in a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate & destructive violence. Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches & mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational: Developing World Game-Changers… He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice & ultimately, make a real difference. This has been built on a long & distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring. He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities & good causes around the world; positively impacting & inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide. Through this World Game-Changers podcast & books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well ...
