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What if the thing holding you back isn’t your past…it’s the story you keep telling yourself about it?

In this Mindset Monday, I’m coming for limiting beliefs. The quiet “rules” you picked up in survival mode and never updated. The lie that you’re not smart enough, not disciplined, not the “type” who gets sober, not the “type” who succeeds, not the “type” who gets a healthy relationship or a fresh start.

I break down how these beliefs form (childhood chaos, early failure, being labeled), why they made sense back then, and why they’re costing you everything now. Then we run a simple exercise we use in Reclaiming You: find the belief, name the cost, question it, and test it - because new evidence doesn’t come from thinking, journaling, or “getting ready.” It comes from action.

If you’ve ever looked at people with their life together and thought, “That’s not for someone like me,” this episode is your wake-up call. You’re not made of different stuff. You’re just still buying the narrative that you accepted wholesale without scrutiny once upon a time.

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So many of us are incredibly hard on ourselves. We struggle to see the good in who we are, to trust our perceptions, or to believe we are capable of more. When you’ve been blamed, betrayed, or emotionally worn down in your most intimate relationship, it makes sense. Those experiences shape the stories we tell ourselves.

In this episode, I walk through a practical, step-by-step way to identify limiting beliefs, understand the cost of believing them, question whether they are actually true, and begin to soften and rewrite the story. We also talk about why believing good things about ourselves can feel uncomfortable or even unsafe, and why confidence and self-awareness are not opposites.

This isn’t about positive thinking or pretending everything is fine. It’s about honesty, awareness, and learning to relate to yourself with less fear and more fairness.

If you’ve ever thought “I’m not enough,” “I can’t trust myself,” or “This is just who I am,” this episode is for you.

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Boundaries are the most requested topic we get, and most advice out there leaves people asking the same question:
"Okay, but how do I actually do this?"

This is Part 1 of a three-part Boundaries series, and we start where boundaries actually begin. With your values.

Before you can decide what behavior you will tolerate, what is non negotiable, or what needs to change, you have to know what you stand for. Boundaries exist to defend what matters most to you. When values get bent, questioned, or slowly erased, anxiety shows up, self trust erodes, and people lose themselves trying to make relationships work.

In this episode, Matt and Paige break down why so many people, especially those in addiction impacted relationships, lose touch with their values over time. They walk through what values really are, how they get sacrificed in unhealthy dynamics, and how to begin identifying and rebuilding them from scratch.

You will hear real examples, practical exercises, and a clear framework for defining your core values so your boundaries stop being reactive and start becoming grounded, empowering decisions.

This is step one.
Know what you value so you know what to protect.

Next week, we move into behaviors, discomfort, and non-negotiables.

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In this Mindset Monday, I’m calling out the most common, most immature move men make after they finally start doing the bare minimum: demanding their spouse regulate perfectly while they’re still paying off a decade of damage. You don’t get to rack up the emotional debt and then complain about the interest rate. You don’t get to wreck the foundation and then cry about dust.

We’ll talk about why spouses can’t “just flip the switch” (stress, hypervigilance, betrayal trauma, nervous system conditioning), what actual leadership looks like in repair, and when it does become fair to have mutual accountability conversations (hint: not 30 days in). Tough for the guys. Validating for spouses. Necessary for anyone who actually wants their marriage back.

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The recovery world loves to talk about healing, but who is it really built for?

This episode was originally released in May 2025, and we are bringing it back because the conversation is just as relevant now as it was then. In it, Matt and Paige take a hard look at what treatment centers, therapists, and traditional recovery programs often miss when it comes to spouses, partners, and families.

Why are partners so quickly labeled codependent?
Why is their anger treated like a problem instead of a response to real harm?
Why are they expected to forgive before they have even been allowed to grieve?

Matt and Paige share their own story while breaking down how betrayal trauma affects the brain, what real accountability looks like, and how recovery culture often prioritizes the addicted person at the expense of the people who were hurt.

This episode covers:

How trauma shows up in the body and brain
Why forgiveness without accountability becomes gaslighting
The myth of “you just need to understand addiction”
Why codependency is not a diagnosis and not always accurate
What couples actually need to rebuild trust and safety
The missing voice in most treatment programs: the spouse or partner

If you’ve ever been told you were “part of the problem” simply for being hurt, this episode is for you.

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Today is a big one. Paige and I are celebrating 25 years together, and I’m recording this Mindset Monday in that headspace, reflective, grateful, and honestly a little stunned that we’ve lived so many lifetimes inside one relationship.

We met at 14. I always knew we’d make it. I just didn’t realize how non-linear the path would be, or how much of the turbulence would come from my addiction, my selfishness, and my immaturity. So in this episode, I look back at how we got here, what nearly broke us, and what actually rebuilt us.

Then I use that perspective to answer the questions I get from men who are in the darkest part of it right now, the guys who feel like they’re about to lose everything. We talk about the moment you stop digging, the fear of getting sober and feeling “boring,” cravings at night, learning patience when the relationship isn’t healing on your timeline, and how to carry guilt without letting it crush you.

If you’re trying to earn back trust, rebuild your life, or become the man you keep saying you want to be, this one’s for you.

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige explores why so many of us feel like we are constantly running out of time, even when nothing is actually on fire. From the nervous system’s need to stay in survival mode to the fear of making the wrong choice in relationships and life, Paige talks about what’s really behind that sense of urgency so many of us carry.

If you’ve ever felt behind in life, stuck waiting for someone else to change, or afraid that you’ve already wasted too much time to start over, this episode is for you. Paige reminds us that slowing down is not failure, it’s listening, and that we still have time to choose a life that feels honest, grounded, and truly our own.

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A listener posted a question in our free TWFO Facebook community that I’ve heard a hundred times in recovery spaces: “You have to separate the person from the addiction. That wasn’t them.” And I get why people love that line. It reduces shame, makes forgiveness feel possible, and gives families hope.

But for a lot of spouses and partners, something about it doesn’t sit right… because they’ve seen the “good version” and the “destructive version” show up in the same human body, sometimes in the same day. So in this episode, I unpack the pros and cons of “separating the person from the addiction,” and why I think the truth is more nuanced, more uncomfortable, and more useful.

We talk about influence vs choice, why guilt still exists if “it wasn’t you,” how this narrative can accidentally silence the pain of the people who were harmed, and why sobriety alone is not the finish line. I’m not here to attack anyone’s path or shame anybody who’s used this framework to move forward. I’m here to hold compassion and truth at the same time, and offer a model of recovery that’s built on agency, humility, and real repair.

If you’re in recovery, this is a gut-check. If you’re a spouse or partner, this will validate why that phrase can feel like a mindf**k, and what a healthier, more honest version of healing can look like.

If you'd like to read the essay from the episode, you can find it here on our website.

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