Today’s episode brings us the first of three parts of an exciting interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. We unpack why BPD, after 30+ years of research, is still so stigmatized by psychiatrists, clinicians, and mental health providers. You don’t want to miss her breakdown of how BPD differences are not recognized as advantages in today’s world.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Here is the episode breakdown:

Guest:

• Valerie Porr

• Website: https://www.tara4bpd.org//

• LINK FOR VALERIE'S AWARD-WINNING BOOK: "Overcoming Borderline Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 3:45 How She Unpacked Patterns in How PwBPD Respond to Their Loved Ones?

• 7:35 Is it BPD Manipulation or Survival?

• 11:21 Why Everyone Should Take A Closer Look at BPD Hypervigilance?

• 15:30 Why BPD Differences Are Not Recognized as Advantages in Today's World?

• 19:29 Are You Having A BPD Reaction or A Human Reaction?

• 23:39 How to Connect with Valerie

• 27:20 Closing

(End of Interview)

• 28:40 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra

• 29:40 Outro

Episode Resources:

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o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching

• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org

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