In this episode, we explore Part 3 of the *Stop Bullying Yourself* series: reflection and learning from your past to own your future. This chapter is about recognizing how we often stay stuck in a victim mentality, blaming our past, circumstances, or others for our struggles. But it also offers a way out—how we can choose to take personal responsibility and reclaim our power by learning from those experiences.

We discuss the importance of shifting from a blame mindset to one that extracts value from the tough times. Using the “Value Gain Exercise,” we look at how traumatic or difficult situations can offer powerful lessons, helping us grow and make better choices moving forward. By reflecting on personal experiences—like failed relationships or professional setbacks—we can begin to see patterns and start making decisions that align more with our values and self-worth.

Through this discussion, we focus on how our past doesn't define us but can empower us to create a more fulfilling future. This episode encourages listeners to move away from self-sabotage and embrace the lessons from their past as stepping stones to a better, more self-aware life.

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