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In this episode of the 'Ask a Sex Therapist' podcast, Heather Shannon discusses why your partner's lack of interest in sex might not be about you. She delves into reasons such as stress, hormonal imbalances, and emotional challenges. Heather emphasizes the importance of empathy, avoiding pressure, and building inner security. She provides actionable advice for both high and low libido partners, helping them foster better understanding and intimacy in their relationships. Tune in to learn how to communicate effectively and create a more fulfilling sex life together.

00:00 Introduction: Understanding Your Partner's Low Libido

00:39 Welcome and Setting the Scene

01:12 The Challenge of Waiting for Your Partner's Libido

02:43 Understanding Pressure and Its Impact on Libido

05:47 Exploring the Lower Libido Partner's Perspective

20:32 Strategies for the Higher Libido Partner

29:17 Conclusion and Encouragement

31:10 Closing Remarks and How to Stay Connected

WORK WITH HEATHER:

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Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Finding Your Fire Libido Course: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/offers/RLM4tXqi/checkout

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In this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, host Heather Shannon welcomes special guest Bev Mitelman, a certified attachment practitioner and founder of Securely Loved, to discuss the intriguing topic of sex and attachment styles. They delve into how different attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant—affect individuals' relationships and sexual experiences. Bev shares insights from her personal journey, explaining how attachment theory has profoundly impacted her own healing. Listeners will learn about the emotional patterns and core wounds associated with each attachment style, and how these influence behaviors in romantic and sexual contexts. The episode also highlights the benefits of moving toward a secure attachment and offers practical advice for those looking to improve their relational and sexual well-being.

00:00 Introduction to Healing in Relationships

00:18 Welcome to Ask a Sex Therapist

00:47 Special Guest: Bev Mitelman

01:04 Bev's Background and Journey

02:41 Understanding Attachment Styles

04:25 Personal Attachment Journey

06:00 Healing and Awareness

14:12 Defining Attachment Styles

15:09 Secure vs. Insecure Attachment

18:02 Anxious Attachment Explained

25:51 Avoidant Attachment Explained

32:30 Understanding the Shame Wound

33:12 Core Wound of Feeling Unsafe

34:13 Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Dynamics

37:56 Fearful Avoidant Attachment Explained

41:25 Attachment Styles and Sexual Behavior

49:38 Impact of Attachment on Orgasms

51:31 Avoidant Attachment and Sex

55:58 Fearful Avoidant Sexual Patterns

01:00:11 Resources and Final Thoughts

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Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Resources Mentioned:

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Listener Q&A: Rekindling Passion, Orgasm Challenges, and Lubricants

Welcome to another listener Q&A episode! Dive into intriguing topics such as reviving passion when therapy hasn't helped, overcoming difficulties with orgasms during penetration vs. foreplay, exploring various types of lubricants, and tips for a wife wanting to initiate sex with her husband. Don't miss out on this comprehensive discussion on sexual intimacy.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:52 Therapy and Rekindling Passion

10:05 Understanding Female Orgasms

18:04 Exploring Different Types of Lubes

26:11 Initiating Sex with a Partner

32:42 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Ep. 109 Vaginal Gymnastics 101: Increase Your Libido and Pleasure with Bel DiLorenzo- https://youtu.be/3ebUCD63GMM?si=2BnuBIrT4YN0tE_s

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Ep. 56: Female Arousal with Susan Bratton-https://youtu.be/3JU8SPEa904?si=UhgeOZ7L0i1mK8t6

Ep. 91 How to Squirt- https://youtu.be/0cKR2ToX910?si=Hv-Lu9I_UZevlQ2S

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Exploring Steamy Romance Novels with Author Christina Braver

Join us for a captivating conversation with Christina Braver, an author known for her steamy, small-town, contemporary romances set in the Pacific Northwest. We dive into the unique elements of her writing, her background in clinical psychology, and how she uses this to craft well-rounded, character-driven stories. Christina shares insights into her heroes, who come with softer sides and independent heroines, all leading to a guaranteed happily ever after. We also discuss the impact of penis size myths in romance novels, the importance of sex positivity, and how her stories provide educational yet enjoyable experiences. Don't miss this enlightening episode that blends romance, sex education, and positive cultural influence!

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:11 Discussing Romance Novels and Realistic Portrayals

02:06 The Myth of Big Penis in Romance Novels

03:22 Sexual Health and Realistic Expectations

09:08 Fantasy vs. Reality in Romance Novels

14:39 The Impact of Romance Novels on Society

16:46 Personal Journey and Career Transition

25:17 Navigating Parental Concerns and Cultural Differences

27:30 Exploring Sexual Fantasies and Childhood Wounds

28:58 Writing Romance: Setting, Characters, and Themes

31:32 Challenging Cultural Norms in Romance Novels

33:40 Sex Positivity and Education Through Romance

35:58 Real-Life Inspirations and Sex Education

41:53 The Role of Consent and Communication in Romance

43:46 Excerpts and Real-Life Applications

47:28 Where to Find More: Books and Resources

48:41 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

Christina Braver’s Info:

Formula One Noel by Christina Braver, is available for free to special readers until 1/31/2025. Use this link and download the full eBook for free https://dl.bookfunnel.com/qay7xkzsgi

Christina’s website: https://christinabraver.com/

Christina’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinabraverromance/

Christina’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinabraverromance

Christina on Medium: https://medium.com/@christinabraver

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Navigating Body Image & Self-Love: Personal Stories and Practical Tips

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of body image, exploring the struggles that many individuals, particularly women, face. Heather shares personal, often humorous stories about body image issues starting from childhood experiences to adulthood. The episode highlights the importance of self-love and provides actionable tips to improve body confidence, such as consuming balanced media, engaging in positive self-talk, and practicing mindfulness. Heather also discusses societal pressures, unwanted attention, and how to maintain a positive relationship with one's body. Tune in to get a dose of encouragement and practical advice on fostering a healthier body image.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

02:11 Embarrassing Childhood Stories

06:23 College Struggles and Binge Eating

08:59 Online Dating and Self-Discovery

11:28 Appreciating Your Body

15:24 Dealing with Unwanted Attention

22:06 Actionable Tips for Better Body Image

29:36 Conclusion and Freebie Announcement

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Empowering Healing: Trauma, Therapy, and Sexual Assault with Laurel Roberts Meese

In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' the host welcomes Laurel Roberts Meese, a licensed therapist with extensive experience in trauma and sexual assault. Laurel discusses the fundamental understandings of sexual assault, emphasizing that it is about power rather than sex. They explore the normal reactions to traumatic experiences, the importance of setting and reinforcing boundaries, and the role of tools such as EMDR and sensate focus in healing. Alongside practical advice for partners of survivors, Laurel highlights the significance of radical self-compassion in the healing process. Listeners are provided with resources and insights to navigate the complex journey of trauma recovery.

00:00 Introduction to the Episode

00:10 Meet Laurel Roberts Meese

01:18 The Importance of Credentials and Fun

03:01 Understanding Sexual Assault

05:39 Defining Sexual Assault

08:56 The Emotional Impact of Assault

14:17 Trauma and the Body

18:23 Supporting a Partner Through Healing

25:42 Addressing Male Sexual Assault

26:51 Victim Mindset and Healing

27:42 Journey from Victim to Survivor

28:20 Empowerment Through Boundaries

36:06 The Importance of Self-Compassion

39:58 Sensate Focus for Intimacy

42:20 Connecting with Laurel Therapy

43:54 Final Thoughts on Healing

Laurel Robert Meese’s INFO:

Laurel’s website: https://www.laureltherapy.net/

Trauma informed Yoga: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtrxXhwgHkw

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Join Heather Shannon for a fun and informative listener Q&A episode! Heather dives into a lively debate on whether squirting is pee, shares the comprehensive process of becoming a certified sex therapist, addresses low sex drive during perimenopause, and offers tips to reignite the spark in your relationship. Plus, special shoutouts to international listeners and important insights on the role of hormones in libido. Don’t forget to submit your anonymous questions and follow the show for more insightful discussions!

00:00 Introduction and Listener Q&A Setup

00:42 Shoutout to International Listeners

01:47 Debunking Myths: Is Squirting Pee?

04:52 Becoming a Certified Sex Therapist

12:54 Addressing Low Sex Drive During Perimenopause

16:09 Reigniting the Spark in Your Relationship

19:52 Conclusion and Farewell

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Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

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Unlock my Pathway to Passion Method https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway

Gottman’s book on marriage https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Transform-Your-Marriage-Strengthening/dp/1400050197

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In this episode, Jonathan Aslay, a leading midlife dating coach, discusses his journey from personal tragedy to becoming an advocate for self-love. After losing his son in 2018, Jonathan embarked on a spiritual and introspective path, leading him to discover the emotional health issues plaguing many singles. He now focuses on helping individuals cultivate self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. Jonathan also delves into the challenges of modern dating, the importance of emotional maturity, and how personal growth practices can transform one's dating experiences and interpersonal relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:20 Jonathan Aslay's Journey to Self-Love

02:36 The Impact of Grief and Spiritual Exploration

08:30 From Grief to Dating Coach

11:58 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges

24:43 Sex and Empowerment

25:05 The Sacredness of Sex

25:37 Risks and Consequences

27:02 Compatibility and Emotional Maturity

27:24 Navigating Multiple Partners

28:25 Coaching and Self-Discovery

29:53 Emotional Awareness and Expression

31:54 The Layers of Human Programming

34:31 The Journey of Self-Love

38:06 Practical Steps for Self-Improvement

43:03 Jonathan's Personal Transformation

46:40 Connecting with Jonathan

JONATHON’S INFO:

Jonathon Aslay’s Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDOXs_34FF93o66Z-S0py1g

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