Ever feel like your brain has 27 tabs open—and none of them can close?

That’s the invisible load of parenthood: The endless mental and emotional labor that keeps a family running but often falls on one parent without ever being named.

In this episode, Chelsea and Mike break down:

• What the invisible load actually looks like in early parenthood (hint: it’s more than chores)

• Why it so often falls unequally, even in good partnerships

• The cycle of resentment it creates when it stays hidden

• A simple 3-step framework—See it. Say it. Slay it.—to start redistributing the weight today

Whether you’re pregnant and wondering how to prepare, or already in the thick of diapers and daycare forms, this conversation will help you shift from scorekeeping to true teamwork.

👉 Listen in, grab our free Mental Load Brain Dump Template (your new reset button), and if you’re ready to go deeper, book a Connection Call with us to talk about the kind of relationship you want to build.

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Tired of having the same fight on repeat with your partner?

One of you wants to hash it out right now, the other goes silent, and suddenly you’re not even arguing about the actual issue anymore.

You’re arguing about how you argue.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, Chelsea and Mike break down processing styles in marriage after baby—external vs. internal processors—and why these differences get louder when you’re tired, stressed, and stretched thin as new parents.

You’ll hear how this dynamic showed up in their own relationship, why stress and flooding make small clashes spiral, and the simple tools couples can use to break the demand–withdraw cycle.

Whether you’re an exhausted parent feeling stuck in the same arguments or a couple who wants to grow stronger after baby, this conversation will help you:

• Understand your own processing style (and your partner’s).

• Recognize the nervous system’s role in miscommunication.

• Use 4 practical tools to calm conflict and reconnect as a team.

Because your baby deserves parents who don’t just survive parenthood, but thrive together.

Book an connection call with us: Calendly

Get our go to questions for a 5-min daily check-in: 5 Questions to Stay Connected to Your Partner — Chelsea Skaggs Coaching

👉 Tune in now and start building healthier communication in your marriage after baby.

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Early parenthood has a way of putting every crack in your relationship under a spotlight. In this candid conversation, Chelsea and Mike pull back the curtain on the pain points they faced after having kids and the lessons they wish they’d learned sooner.

From buried baggage that resurfaces under pressure to communication breakdowns and the mental load that nearly pulled them apart, they share the struggles, the breakthroughs, and the hope that comes with learning to work as a team.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why didn’t anyone tell us it would be this hard?” this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with real-life insights and tools to help you save some heartache and start building the kind of connection that lasts through sleepless nights, identity shifts, and big transitions.

Resources

• Learn more about our 6-Week Relationship Coaching Program: postpartumtogether.com/welcome

• Grab your free Postpartum Planning Checklist: postpartumtogether.com/postpartum-planning

• Book a Connection Call with Chelsea: calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/connection-call

PS: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who’s in the trenches of early parenthood. And if you loved it, please take a moment to leave a 5-star review — it helps more couples find the support they need to thrive, not just survive, after baby.