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In this episode, I'm joined by my private client Natalia López-Thismón. Trigger warning for those of you who have experienced emotional abuse either in a relationship or have experienced religious trauma.

Natalia is a life coach, women's circle, and rites of passage facilitator dedicated to helping Latinas who feel stuck in lives they don’t want regain the radical self-trust to rewrite their stories, by developing the skill of self trust.

Her journey with self-care began during her divorce in 2015 when she discovered the power of caring for herself—a practice she had rarely seen modeled by the women around her due to cultural norms that discourage women from prioritizing their own needs.

As the eldest daughter in a Puerto Rican and Venezuelan family, Natalia is committed to breaking this cycle and creating new narratives for herself and others. She views self-care as a radical act of healing and the first step toward developing self trust.

In this episode, Natalia shares her personal story of navigating a strict upbringing, how Marianismo impacts women's self trust, leaving an abusive marriage and ultimately her church.

And it all started with self care, which allowed Natalia to develop the self trust needed to rewrite her story one decision at a time - a process she now walks her clients through.

But we're not talking bubble baths and massages. Natalia illustrates how self-care is more about taking care of yourself starting from your most basic needs vs the commercialized version we often get sold.

Get in touch with Natalia:

• Download the Self Care Menu + Self Care to Self Trust email series
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• TikTok

Episode takeaways

• Cultural expectations can heavily influence identity.
• Marianismo promotes self-sacrifice at the expense of women's self trust
• How and when religious conditioning can create barriers to self-trust.
• Leaving an abusive relationship was easier once self care rewired Natalia to trust herself
• Self-care leads to increased self-trust.
• Small promises to yourself build self-trust.
• Self-care is a revolutionary act of healing.
• Self-care is not about luxury and buying things

Chapters

• 03:00: Cultural Expectations and Marianismo
• 06:05: The Impact of Religion on Identity
• 11:59: The Turning Point: Leaving an Abusive Marriage
• 20:57: Building Confidence Through Self-Care
• 32:21: The Connection Between Self-Care and Self-Trust
• 41:44: Introducing the Self-Care Menu Tool
• 52:24: Self-Care as a Revolutionary Act

This year has been hard for a lot of businesses. Whether it's financially, emotionally, business model wise, etc., hitting a rough patch in business feels high stakes - because it is. So how do you problem solve when your nervous system is going into fight, flight, or freeze?

Sometimes, our emotions make us believe we don’t already have the answers to our problem. But that's not actually true. Problem solving and decision making are leadership skills that you can get coached on. With 15 sun skills, they are the top 2 EQ skills that come up with my clients.

So today, I'm going through 6 steps to problem solve when things aren't going your way in business.

Here's a quick sneak peak:

1. Identify the circumstance or thing you are struggling with

Remember, you can solve for facts, not thoughts. So be careful how you're framing this!

2.Identify the emotion you have towards it. Let it be okay that it’s there.

3.Ask yourself: what’s the real problem: is there actually a problem to solve or just a feeling to feel?

4.Neutralize the problem

5. Put all of your options on the table, even if you don’t like them.

If you’ve decided there’s a PROBLEM to solve not just a feeling to feel you HAVE to do something different. Or, make peace with the problem being there.

6.Just get into MOTION

Finding your way out of the fog doesn’t happen when you stand still, you have to walk around

Tune into this episode if you're feeling a bit discouraged in your life and business lately. I think you'll feel a renewed sense of possibility and movement after listening!

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Have you ever felt like you're trying to convince people that your offers are "worth it"? Well, the problem is probably not your offers, it's your messaging.

You know the power of the transformation you provide for clients! So together, let's lock down marketing that helps you skip right past price objections and unaligned clients. In today's episode, I want to give you the tools you need to attract totally aligned clients through your messaging.

Imagine you're on stage and you have people sitting in the front row, all eyes on you. But you also have others sitting in the middle talking to each other, going to get popcorn, standing by the wall chatting, and you've even got people who haven't entered the theater at all.

Ask yourself: who are you talking to? Are you going to expend all your energy trying to reach the people at the popcorn stand? Or will you opt to speak to the people that are already listening?

If you decide you're ready to talk to directly to the people in the front row, this episode is for you. Because at the end of the day, getting specific about who you help will make it possible for you to make a bigger impact. And getting intentional about how you speak to them will make it easier to call them into your space.

Here's 5 ways to attract higher level clients and opportunities:

1. Imagine your best clients when you write and when you make decisions in your business.
2. Think of the most sophisticated problems you solve and who has them
3. Watch your tone. Speak to them with respect in your marketing.
4. You HAVE to start do more than centering your own success story in your marketing.
5. More thought leadership and context. Less right vs wrong.

And bonus points for using your thought leadership to gain Third Party Credibility!

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