This episode unpacks a concept called mirroring. This has been studied by psychologists for years and can be used to create connection between people.

BUT...when narcissists implement this craft, it's dangerous and incredibly manipulative. Narcissists lack a true identity, so they study you: your mannerisms, what you like to eat, your likes and dislikes, where you like to go, your interests, your hobbies, your dreams, ambitions. This is so they can create a desirable image for their target.

They tend to do this in the idealization phase when they are love bombing you, showering you with attention. This is to create a false sense of intimacy and closeness with their targets. Maybe it's even making you feel like they're your "soul mate." If it feels too good to be true...it might be.

None of the narcissist's behavior is authentic and why it's so dangerous. They are looking to gain control of the target and fuel their ego. It can create a toxic cycle in the relationship if it goes on long enough and creates confusion for the target when the narcissist begins the devaluation phase.

Mirroring tends to happen most in the idealization phase and this is part of the narcissistic mask. They will string you along with this vision until they have you hooked and for as long as they can until the mask starts to slip.

Healthy relationships tend to have some things in common and some differences.

Listen through to the end to hear how you can increase your NarcDAR™️: How to Recognize, Respond & Repel narcissists. This will help you become more aware and how to best navigate if you believe you might be dealing with a narcissist or if you have or are experiencing mirroring.

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This episode unpacks 7 things that narcissists HATE. Within each one, you may see the correlation between each one of these and the criteria in the DSM-5 criteria on narcissism.

Each one is outlined with examples, what you might expect in their reactions & see in their behaviors, and things that you might be able to try to test these out. **Only attempt if you feel safe!

Narcissists HATE:

1. Accountability/responsibility
2. Not being in the spotlight
3. Your independence from them
4. A lack of access
5. Being told no: People that have boundaries
6. Being challenged or questioned
7. Being seen for who they really are.

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Amy Edwards is the queen of going for it at any age and living your best life! She shares her ideas and experience around the topic of codependency and her journey of the relationships she kept finding herself in.

She helps us tackle healthy vs unhealthy relationships and letting go of control. Amy vulnerably shares her own experiences to help others live their best lives. She uncovers how she used self-reflection and prioritizing herself so she can be her best self. Affirmations and mirror practice are helpful tools she uses and encourages others to embrace in their own lives to foster self-love. This episode tackles people pleasing, limiting beliefs, living in truth, breaking patterns, and figuring out what you want out of your life!

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Amy's WEBSITE

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Michael Singer's book: The Untethered Soul

Byron Katie book: Loving What Is

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Have you ever experienced an encounter with someone that you didn't want to see and you didn't know what to say or how to respond? (Or wish you'd had better responses in your back pocket?!) This is for you!

Perhaps you've removed that narcissist or toxic person from your life for good reason and you've done everything you can to avoid an encounter, but you've found yourself in the same place at the same time.

Or how about that person that says insulting, passive-agressive or offensive things or asks inappropriate questions -- or the person that just won't stop talking about politics?

This HOW TO GUIDE is FREE and gives you tons of options of how to respond in uncomfortable situations. You'll get tips on things to say, manage your body language and options to exit these scenarios. DOWNLOAD it now, refer back to it often, and practice to keep it fresh.

Maybe you've had a situation where you left thinking, "UGH, I wish I would have said something different." or "I wish I would have known something better to say." or "I sure wish I had a HOW TO GUIDE on this!"

This FREE DOWNLOADABLE is for you!

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Drinking With Gin is celebrating it's 100th episode! We have special guest, Dana Orr, in studio for this celebration. Dana is an RN, aesthetic trainer and business owner of www.theclinicmn.com.

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You will get some inside scoop in this episode about Dana's behind the scenes support of the podcast. 🎧

In this episode, you will get the top 6 lessons learned in the last 100 episodes. They include being authentic, the common themes of the most popular episodes, getting started and more!

And the top 5 episodes!

5. Episode #1

4. Validation for Children & Co-parents of Narcissists

3. Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

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Kyle Robinson is our inspiring guest this week! He shares his journey of growing up with an abusive step-father, a troubled childhood littered with hanging out with the wrong crowd and making bad decisions. At 17, he entered drug rehab and then got a DUI in college. Throughout many setbacks, he started to see glimmers of his potential. Ultimately, he overcame all of this adversity and persevered to become a licensed attorney and an ultra marathoner.

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Ray Doktor, Psy. D. works as a life coach and relationship coach.

For the last 27 years, he’s successfully helped over 6k clients breakthrough limited beliefs and challenges to have better relationships, improved family life, and more success!

Dr. Ray shares his own vulnerable journey of growth on his own path - from near death experiences, getting a DUI, and filing for bankruptcy at just 26 years old! He also shares some unique tools to help you on your healing and growing journey.

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*TW*: This episode briefly discusses physical violence. If you're not in a place to hear this, please skip or come back and listen when you're ready.

Vinny Amendola shares his journey to living authentically. This stemmed from embarking on a writing journey, which resulted in truly understanding and processing his childhood trauma. Vinny vulnerably explores coming out as a gay man, how journaling has helped him become even more of who he really is. Vinny shares personal stories that we all can relate to!

Ginny shares the ROR process that can help you shift your reactions to responses and become more self aware.

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Resources:

BOOK: Writing Down the Bones

ARTICLE: 5 Surprising Benefits of Journaling

PODCAST: Check out the Multispective podcast!

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