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Forgiveness is the key that can unlock that weight, allowing us to step into the light of healing. It starts with acknowledging our pain, giving ourselves permission to feel, to grieve, and to confront the emotions that arise. It’s about understanding that our pain is valid, and it deserves to be heard.But how do we forgive those who have committed acts we deem unforgivable? The truth is, it begins with empathy. It requires us to try to see the world through the eyes of the person who wronged us. What led them to that moment? What battles are they fighting? This does not excuse t heir actionsI will tell you a story there was a family, the mother was a narcissist and she was so hard with their daughters the daughters are adults now. The manipulation and control that she develop over the years became a very painful relationship between them until this day I don’t think she will admit that she is a narcissist I bring this example because I know the daughters and the youngest told me that the main memory that she has about the mom is that she was always so worried about the appearance and about how other people saw her.Until this day the mom has a big sense of grandiosity which the youngest daughter found out with the years that this was not normal at all.(I think that whenever we grow up with some kind of dynamic or patters is so hard to really see the impact that can have in our lives)and she realize that by being close to the mom she was allowing the mom to hurt her because the mom always toke everything so personal and she always made the daughters believe that they needed to respect just because she was their mother.It is important to bring awareness to ur lives and break patterns this phycological game that the mom always plays it can be dangerous because also the mom was so strict all their childhood and they felt that was whatever they did it was never good enough for her.With the years they thought this was going to change but sadly it didn’t present time the mom still plays the same victim game that the daughters need to treat her like if she was a queen. She still wants to give opinions on how they should live their lives how they should raise their kids.I want to share this story because enough is enough and we need to break cycles break patterns and sometimes it can be so hard to cut a relationship specially with the family but sometimes it is something that needs to be done for the emotional physical and mental health of the people that are involved.This is where a very hard example how do you forgive the unforgivable specially whenever you know that the other person will never admit her or his mistakes and keep acting the same way?And I know a lot of stories like this one that whenever we grow up and holidays come it is so stressful just to think about going back to see our parents siblings etc because most of the times some relatives stay with the image of how you were 10 years algo 20 years ago they don’t move on and realize that people grow people evolve and we need to treat them accordingly we need to give space to people to grow.So I invite you to create a new philosophy new traditions that Aline with your believes and whenever you go back and see relatives don’t follow this pattern and it is totally ok to decide to step out of the circle that makes you uncomfortable don’t let anyone make you fell bad because you toke this decision give yourself the chance yo allow other people that really value your time energy and presence I know sometimes we really want things to work between certain relationships specially with the people that we grew up but this is the perfect example to be better learn the lesson and don’t follow old patterns.Attachments to ideas can be so unhealthy

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