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Have you ever considered the impacts of estrangement in your life? Sure, you feel disappointed, resentful, angry even. You miss the person with whom you are estranged.

Feeling deeply wounded, you struggle to find your footing some days. Seeking to follow God, you try to forgive only to be reminded of the wrongs and once again you deal with those negative emotions.

Today, I want to go a little deeper to share the impacts of estrangement and offer some tips to help you address those hurtful areas. You can find peace but sometimes it involves revisiting places you would rather avoid. Stay tuned and let’s walk through this together – one sister to another.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/47.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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Surrender and cooperation are two words that helped me discover the peace I was seeking as I experienced estrangement in a relationship.

Admittedly, these are not two words we readily think about. Surrender conjures up the thought of giving up control. Cooperation may not be as fearful depending on what we are being asked to cooperate with.

Whatever you are struggling with today, I want to encourage you and help you discover peace. If you are estranged today from someone you care about, no doubt you struggle with guilt, shame, anger, resentment, right?

I’ve been there and the passage from scripture I’ll share with you today is a game changer. Stay tuned and let’s dive in.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/46.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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Healing your emotions is critical when you are estranged. And its hard work that will take time and commitment.

Take a moment to think about the emotions you’ve experienced in the last few days when you think about the person with whom you are estranged.

Do you feel disappointed? Sadness? Anger? Resentment? Bitterness? Do you feel the need to defend yourself? Do you wonder why it happened? Do you have imaginary conversations in your head with the other person?

My friend, all of that is commonplace when you are estranged from a loved one. Let’s unpack some of these emotions today and learn how to begin to heal you. Because it is essential before you can have a healthy relationship with that person.

Ready? Let’s go!

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/45.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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If you’re struggling with forgiveness, you aren’t alone. The truth is most everyone does. Oh, you may give lip service like I did and say you forgive, but the emotions linger. The pain comes and goes.

You replay the hurt over and over so much the record is warped and scratched. Yet you really want to forgive – or you don’t. But you know that you want to get unstuck and move on.

How? That’s the question that I struggled with and many women tell me they do too. Let’s dive into today’s episode and figure it out together.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/44.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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Learning to be vulnerable is daunting in the best of circumstances. But when you have estranged relationships, it can be downright paralyzing.

Vulnerability is akin to giving someone access to your innermost thoughts and emotions. And for good reasons, it isn’t wise to give everyone that privilege. Wisdom and discernment are critical.

Timing is also a key component. You must be ready emotionally when you are ready to open yourself to someone because you don’t know how they might respond to you. Vulnerability is for you. When you’ve fully prepared to step out of your comfort zone with your heart and soul, it can be incredibly freeing.

And it can also open new wounds if you aren’t. So, today we’ll look at learning to be vulnerable with respect to estrangement. And I’ll share some of my own strategies – what worked as well as what didn’t. Ready? Let’s go.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/43.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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Blended families and estrangement often go hand in hand. But are they more prone to estranged relationships? Research says not necessarily. However, they do face more unique challenges and that can morph into estrangement.

Are you part of a blended family that is facing difficulties and even amid estrangement already?

Today we’ll dive into some of the challenges you face, how to successfully navigate them and what to do when it all goes sideways.

Let’s imagine we are sitting together with a cup of tea or coffee and dive in.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/42.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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Limiting core beliefs affects your mindset and your overall health. And these core beliefs in estrangement can keep you stuck and unable to get into a healthy place.

Think in terms of whether I can’t, I will never, or I should. When you are in an estranged relationship it’s easy to let your mind go to extremes. If you were talking with a friend, you might notice and assure and reframe their issues.

But it’s harder to do when you are the one feeling guilt, shame, or isolation. The negative self-talk reinforces the lies you believe. Today, we will explore some limiting core beliefs, and I’ll help you restructure and challenge them. Let’s get rolling!

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/41.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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Who you are becoming is vital in discovering peace in estranged relationships. And estrangement can lock you in a mental prison so that at times you don’t even know who you are anymore.

Triggers create a response that you later regret and you are mired in guilt. At times it feels as though you take one step forward and two steps back.

You wonder if you will ever get over the pain of separating from your child, sibling, or another family member. And all this keeps you from knowing or doing what God has called you to do

I have good news for you, my friend. Estrangement is where God can do his finest work in you. You’ll want to stay tuned today so let’s dive in.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/40.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact