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  • 20: New Beginnings and Estrangement
    Jan 4 2025

    Happy New Year! We all love new beginnings, right? Out with the old and in with the new is a familiar motto for ringing in a new year. And not much as changed. You’re still estranged from someone you care about. A child, grandchild, sibling, or someone else.

    You’re hoping that this may be the year it all turns around. The relationship is healed and restored. No more heartache. Same song but different verse.

    Well, I want to encourage you to shift your mindset and open to the possibility of new beginnings whether that happens. The truth is that relationships may never be restored. It feels like a sore that never heals. Let’s explore some encouragement and hope to make this a truly blessed and hopeful year for you.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/20.

    Becky Kolb helps people with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn to live with the relationship as it is, overcome a shredded self-esteem and develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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    11 min
  • 19:Rise Above Estrangement and Adversity
    Dec 29 2024

    It’s a new year. Are you ready to rise above estrangement and adversity and chart a new path for yourself? I’m not talking about establishing new years resolutions. I am talking about revolutionary changes.

    Change can set your heart free from anxiety and worry about anything and everything. There has never been a better time than now. You’ve just come out of the holidays and may have experienced sadness over loss of relationships.

    I reached that point in my life and discovered the #1 relationship that could transform all others, and I’ll talk about that and offer some strategies for you in today’s episode.

    Are you ready to close the door to the things that cause you grief, sadness, shame, and worry? Are you ready to rise on the winds of adversity? Let’s roll!

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/19.

    Becky Kolb helps people with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn to live with the relationship as it is, overcome a shredded self-esteem and develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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    13 min
  • 18: A Gift for the Estranged
    Dec 15 2024

    I have a gift for the estranged in today’s episode. After all, it’s the gift giving season, right? Estrangement creates sadness and accentuates that we feel unloved and unwanted. I am hopeful that you’ve read my story of estranged relationships. It’s on my website.

    Would it surprise you to know that not all my relationships have been restored? Like you, I struggle at this time of year when families gather. We see and hear about families gathering with laughter, hugs, and happiness. And we think we’re the only ones suffering with estrangement.

    First, that’s a lie. 70 million people live with estrangement. Secondly, social media is not your friend. People only post what they want others to see. No one posts about their crazy aunt and her disturbing antics.

    Or the father who failed to show for his kids. Or the drunk relative who always makes a scene. So, grab your favorite beverage, sit back, and unwrap the gift I want to give you today.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/18.

    Becky Kolb helps people with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn to live with the relationship as it is, overcome a shredded self-esteem and develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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    13 min
  • 17: Refined by Fire
    Dec 6 2024

    Have you ever felt as though you were being refined by fire? Or in a cauldron where the pressure intensifies?

    I have and let me tell you, it isn’t fun. I would’ve rather had pulled teeth!

    Today I am speaking to the Christian woman who feels like she can’t catch a break. Confusion and chaos reign. You wonder why you can’t get clarity, and you feel stuck and unable to decide. Or when you do make a decision, you vacillate and flip-flop.

    Does that ring true for you, my Friend? Oh, I feel your frustration when you pray and so desperately want to move forward but you’re neutral and unable to move.

    Stay tuned and I’ll share a story of how gold is refined by fire. I think you’ll quickly see the application to our lives and discover a fresh new perspective.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/17.

    Becky Kolb helps people with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn to live with the relationship as it is, overcome a shredded self-esteem and develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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    18 min
  • 16: Post-Divorce Kids' Estrangement
    Nov 30 2024

    Post-divorce kids’ estrangement is widely prevalent and may continue for many years. A recent conversation with a dad was heart breaking as he lamented the loss of relationship with his kids. Like many, the divorce wasn’t amicable, and the kids chose to side with the mom.

    My purpose today is two-fold.

    · Advocate for the kids no matter the custody arrangements.

    · Encourage the estranged parent to maintain hope.

    Divorce is difficult enough without blabbing to the kids about all the faults of one another. And yet this estrangement is often encouraged by one parent and their family.

    If you’re facing estranged relationships with your kids amid or post-divorce, listen in for encouragement and strategies to maintain a presence.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/16.

    Becky Kolb helps people with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn to live with the relationship as it is, overcome a shredded self-esteem and develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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    11 min
  • 15: Moving Past the Shame of Estrangement
    Nov 24 2024

    The shame of estrangement lives in all of us. You may not be estranged from anyone right now, but a strong likelihood exists that you may in the future. Does that surprise you?

    When you consider that over 70 million people in the U.S. alone are estranged from at least one person, it’s no wonder that it’s far reaching. Estrangement doesn’t play favorites as it affects all levels of society.

    A parent, child, sibling, close friend or relative, co-worker and every other relationship is at risk. And it’s often called the silent epidemic because of the shame they feel. I’ve known that shame and the emotional pain that ensues.

    Shame can linger deep in your soul and affect all other relationships both personally and professionally. You’ll want to listen today to find out how to move past the shame of estrangement and experience healthy relationships.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/15.

    Becky Kolb helps people with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn to live with the relationship as it is, overcome a shredded self-esteem and develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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    15 min
  • 14: Where is God in Estrangement
    Nov 16 2024

    As one who is estranged from someone you love, do you wonder where God is in the relationship? Does he see your pain? Does he hear your prayers? Do you wonder why he doesn’t seem to care or lend any support to your broken heart?

    I asked all those questions many times. I wondered if he even cared or if I should even bother him with my hurting heart since surely, he had bigger fish to fry than this.

    And in that search and years of brokenness, I discovered that he was there all along, even when I didn’t feel or sense it. Today, I want to offer you hope and encouragement. He is there for you. He understands your pain because he experienced it too.

    Do you wonder where God is in your estrangement? Let’s discover some truths and a new perspective in today’s episode.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/14.

    Becky Kolb helps people with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn to live with the relationship as it is, overcome a shredded self-esteem and develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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    11 min
  • 13: 8 Tips to Minimize Divorce and Estrangement
    Nov 9 2024

    If you’ve been through a marriage breakup then you know that divorce and estrangement go hand in hand. Divorce is hard and complicated. Relationships suffer. People think divorce affects the two married partners and kids, but its tentacles reach much further.

    That’s what I discovered in my divorce 30 years ago. No two divorces are the same. Breakups occur for a variety of reasons. What remains constant however is the effect on kids.

    There is a scripture in the Bible where God says, “I hate divorce.” And I know why. It teaches people to hate, and it destroys relationships.

    What I want to offer you today is tips on minimizing the negative impact on your kids. And how to minimize divorce and estrangement with those you love and care about.

    You may look back at your divorce and wish you had overseen it differently. I sure do. Don’t beat yourself up. There’s hope.

    Let’s talk more about this issue.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/13.

    Becky Kolb helps people with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn to live with the relationship as it is, overcome a shredded self-esteem and develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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    18 min