Please, thank you, after you… Do manners matter? Are they artifice or virtue?

In this rebroadcast from 2019, lower school head Colin Gleason shares how manners can be the building blocks to a richer moral life—the habituation of virtue. He then offers practical advice for families and schools to help even young boys strengthen their "moral muscle" through manners that matter.

1:34 Why start in the lower school

3:12 Manners: artifice or virtue?

5:34 Orienting them towards the needs of others

10:06 Manners that matter

13:31 Social manners for small children

17:57 Intergenerational social experiences

21:30 Coaching in advance

27:23 Our example

Manners: The Art of Happiness by Robert Greving

Manners Make (More Than) the Man, review of A Gentleman in Moscow by Robert Greving

Mustard Seed Communities, donations for Jamaica hurricane relief

The Art of Teaching Boys Conference at The Heights School (January 7-9, 2026 / May 6-8, 2026)

In our school communities, we talk a great deal about moral and intellectual formation. But physical development, too, has an essential place in the whole-person, long-term vision of what our sons and students can become.

Heights Athletic Director Dan Lively reminds us that the goals of athletic training don't begin and end with high school sports. In fact, lifelong functional fitness is in service to every vocation. It ensures that we and our sons are capable of having a positive impact—on the world and in our families—for as many years as we're on this earth.

3:22 A long-term vision for your son's physical development

10:41 The goal: robust longevity

14:34 Health: more than avoiding disease

21:05 Mark Baker on functional fitness

24:14 Fitness increases one's potential for self-gift

25:58 Role of the school

31:51 Role of the family

40:09 Parents can play too

45:39 The thrill of middle school gains

47:32 Embrace your inner gym bro

52:01 The reluctant athlete

GuruAnaerobic, Mark Baker eBooks

Athlete or Academic: What's the Real Priority in Schools? on the Forum Faculty Podcast

Movement as Foundation of Fitness featuring Dan Lively

Character Formation in Elite Athletics featuring college coach Brad Soderberg

Mustard Seed Communities, donations for Jamaica hurricane relief

The Art of Teaching Boys Conference at The Heights School (January 7-9, 2026 / May 6-8, 2026)

One philosopher of our time claims that "today, the experience of beauty is impossible."

Dr. Jason Baxter, director of the Center for Beauty and Culture at Benedictine College, begs to differ. Dr. Baxter joins us on HeightsCast to unpack his latest book, Why Literature Still Matters, which looks at why such a claim might feel true in our digital age. Then, he talks us through why and how we should reclaim our experiences of beauty for the health of our soul.

00:03:34 The experience of beauty
00:08:44 Byung-Chul Han: the possibility of beauty today
00:15:41 Marc Auge: still living in the Enlightenment experiment
00:20:46 The soul is not a machine
00:24:57 Our task as parents, educators
00:35:05 Likes and emojis: the simplification of our interior life
00:49:23 A near-death experience in Sardinia
00:56:24 Beauty and mental health
00:57:40 Franny and Zooey: interiority matters
01:03:41 Recommended reading

Why Literature Still Matters by Jason Baxter

Help! Where do I go from here? Part I: Poetry by Jason Baxter

Beauty Matters, Substack for Jason Baxter

jasonmbaxter.com featuring articles and lectures

Center for Beauty and Culture at Benedictine College

Saving Beauty by Byung-Chul Han

Non-Places: An Introduction to Supermodernity by Marc Auge

The Wanderer above the Sea of Fog by Caspar David Friedrich

A Letter to Our Daughter by Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan

"A Prayer for My Daughter" by W. B. Yeats

"Burnt Norton" from Four Quartets by T. S. Eliot

Franny and Zooey by J. D. Salinger

"A Hill" by Anthony Hecht

"Advice to a Prophet" by Richard Wilbur

The Loss of the Creature by Walker Percy

Middlemarch by George Eliot

Far from the Madding Crowd by Thomas Hardy

Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro

Breathing Narnian Air: Loving Modernity as a Medievalist featuring Dr. Jason Baxter

Receiving Beauty: A Liberal Arts Education featuring Dr. George Harne

Order and Surprise: On Beauty and the Western Tradition featuring Dr. Lionel Yaceczko

Mustard Seed Communities

The Art of Teaching Boys Conference at The Heights School (January 7-9, 2026 / May 6-8, 2026)