181 If you sometimes find yourself overwhelmed, triggered, emotionally overloaded, or reactive in conversation (or conflicts) with your spouse, this is a must listen episode.

In it, I want to introduce you to a key thing to do (a tool I don’t want ANY HSP to live without), broken down into 4 simple steps, so you can get back to navigating that charged moment or conflict with grace, sensitivity, effectiveness, and in a way you feel good about.

Because if you are a sensitive woman who wants to show up at your best and have the best relationship you can with your significant other, this is one tool (or simple skill) you must have in your toolbox…. and actually use!

It can make or break a relationship, it is so powerful. And it will serve you in any situation that tends to spike your stress levels to a point that causes you to feel overwhelmed or like it’s just “too much”.

Dive in to understand why and when to use this tool, and the 4 simple steps to actually do it, so you, your relationship, and your spouse can reap the rewards of more ease, connection, and more loving, respectful, and solution oriented communication – and ultimately a stronger overall relationship.

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180 Most, if not all, couples argue. Even when their relationship is very healthy. So if you and your spouse find yourself mired in the occasional --or even more regular -- conflict, it doesn't mean it’s detrimental to your marriage, and it doesn't have to be painful…

In fact, conflict can actually be an important part of growing a more deeply intimate, connected and supportive marriage.

How do you make sure conflict goes the most smoothly it can, does the least damage– and the most good in your marriage? As an HSP I know you want to know!

The answer is simply: develop some simple skills and put some basic ground rules for conflict in place.

In this episode, you will learn my 9 most highly suggested basic ground rules for navigating conflict better, and hear my advice on how to begin implementing them, and actually start the process right away!

This episode is a great one to listen to with your spouse, if they are willing!

Grab a pen and some paper, dive in, and be ready to change the course of your conflicts forever for the better, so you can solve issues, really understand each other better, and become a closer, stronger couple over time.

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179 Things are changing around here going forward. What will it mean for you? How can the podcast (now a vast library!) be even MORE helpful going forward?

Listen to this short episode to hear what to expect and how the changes will affect you – and how you can make the most of the podcast and my support to make your marriage great going forward.

I will give you a few very specific and practical suggestions for how you can make the most of my help via the podcast and beyond (hint: give me your topic suggestions, get access to the podcast map, and other super simple actions to take right away).

You’ll also hear how I've been working behind the scenes to make my help more accessible for more people with other offerings beyond deep-dive coaching, and how this goes hand in hand with this podcast to make it even MORE useful to you.

Please listen in, so you can get the most out of this podcast and all the ways I can help you make your relationship one you feel great in as an HSP.

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178 If you're unhappy enough in your marriage to be questioning if you should stay or go, you probably feel uncertain, confused, afraid. You're too scared and unsure if it's the right thing to do to actually leave, but you also know you don't want to go on living like this with your spouse.

What if your spouse CAN improve? What if you CAN connect in the deeper ways you want? What if you CAN’T? What if he can't? It can be paralyzing. And spirit killing!

It’s time for some clarity about what's best for you moving forward!

In this episode, I will help you get that. Although there isn't a black and white answer I can hand you today, I do have some clear advice to share. And even an outline for an illuminating and super clarifying conversation that you can have with your spouse to help you know whether it is time, or not, to leave—or whether this relationship actually has room to improve into a fulfilling one you really WANT to stay in.

I will also share more in depth the 5 ingredients you need to put into this clarifying conversation, and what needs to happen first, during and after.

I could have easily called this episode “How To Motivate Your Spouse Stretch And Grow Into The Partner You Really Want”, instead. Because what I share in this episode, if you implement it, is the most powerful way I have ever seen to invite and motivate your spouse to do a whole lot more to make your marriage one you both feel great in…

And if he is unable even then to be the loving supportive partner you want in life, you will know for sure that staying is not what's best for you, and be free to move on with integrity, confidence, and peace. Listen in.

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177 There are three major things I learned from my first marriage ending in divorce that have allowed me to create an amazing fulfilling marriage with my second husband. And they have to do with understanding my sensitivity so much better.

As I've worked with hundreds of other highly sensitive women, I've noticed the struggles I had in my first marriage echo so many of the struggles these other HSP women have in theirs.

So it makes sense what worked for me will also help you have a much more fulfilling marriage!

AND the unhappiness, lack of fulfillment, and pain we tend to feel in our relationships as sensitive women is often sourced in a few challenges that are an innate part of high sensitivity.

Even though this trait is amazing, and a true gift for you and the lucky people who get to have you in their lives, high sensitivity can come with a shadow side, especially when it comes to specific aspects of intimate relationships.

Listen in to this episode for a reminder of how your sensitivity can be such a strength when it comes to intimate partnerships (it never hurts to hear a reminder, right?!), and also hear how the same qualities ( which have to do with our conscientiousness and high standards) can sometimes end up undermining the strength of the relationship–until you implement the 3 tips I share.

Not only do I share quite a bit about my first marriage to help illustrate my advice, so it's fun to listen to, but the 3 tips I share are simple. Just listening to this episode can bring you some real "ahas" and lead to some great change in your marriage or committed relationship. Happy New Year!

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176 When things are feeling less connected, loving and supportive in your relationship than you want them to as a highly sensitive person, there is an excellent chance a lot of it is coming from chronic dysregulation and emotional overload. In other words, stress.

As Hsps, it is hard to NOT feel overstimulated or stressed in our modern lives. I’ve recently shared a fair amount about how this leads to nervous system and emotional dysregulation. Which is, honestly, terrible for relationship health!

But it is a lot more than the outer world that creates this dysregulation and stress. In this episode I dive into the huge thing that tends to create this internal overstimulation– in other words, how we dysregulate ourselves from the inside out!

It's important to SEE this, and how you do it. In this episode I will give you a great starting place.

I also share how to stop this internal dysregulation so you can feel peaceful, and be able to give and receive the deepest love, and have the best marriage.

I honestly think, without understanding what I share in this episode, it will be 1000 times harder to be alive and to be married as a sensitive person (it sure was for me!). So tune in to this essential episode.

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Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching (learn more here), and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Doors Close for the foreseeable future on January 15th, 2025! Fill out this form to get started.

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175 Ever felt that stinging (or punch-in-the-gut) feeling when your partner says or does something hurtful? Or maybe it’s something he doesn't do that leads to you feeling like he just doesn’t care. Like you don’t matter. Like you aren’t loved.

Normal for everyone, for highly sensitive women and deep-feeling women, this is extra oh-so-common.

It may very well be true that your partner could be more skillful in his interactions with you. At the same time, so much of the hurt you feel in these moments comes from taking things personally. (Even if you may not think you do so, listen in to find out for real, because it is a human brain thing, and most people do it to some degree.)

And you can put an end to that NOW.

And you want to. Because taking things personally doesn't just hurt–it costs us big time in our intimate relationships, leading to all sorts of AVOIDABLE pain. . . and diminishment of affection and connection.

I, too, used to take all sorts of things personally, and it hurt me and my marriage. I spent years learning how to put an end to that unnecessary pain, and replace it with the closeness, ease and love I want between my husband and I. I want that for you to.

As you learn to not take things so personally, it will free you up to have way more of the support, connection and loving intimacy you want with your partner.

Listen in to this updated and re-release essential episode, where I dive into 3 big keys to stop taking things so personally so you can feel less hurt and more love everyday of your life.

And don't miss the announcement about the short course you can take to make your habit of taking things personally a thing of the past for you.

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174 This is a slightly revised episode, updated and re-released because of its importance! Here’s to not tolerating mistreatment, and how to begin the process of influencing your partner to treat you best!

As modern women, we’ve been encouraged to not let ourselves be “doormats” in our relationship with our significant other.

And we want to be strong, to not tolerate criticism or unkind treatment, and to stand up for the respect we deserve.

All of which is so important to have a healthy loving marriage, especially as a sensitive person.

But sometimes we do this in a way that actually makes us feel even more walked all over, more like a doormat--and in more pain than ever.

So how do we stop being a doormat for REAL? Listen in to find out how.

Hint: it has to do with understanding what we can control and what we cannot ...and then learning how to control what we ourselves have dominion over--which is our own selves….and becoming Un-walk-over-able!

Even if your partner is sometimes unkind, uncool, and disrespectful, you can put an end to feeling like a doormat-- without FIGHTING, and with dignity, self-containment, confidence, and rooted in love for all involved.

In this episode I break down the specifics of what this entails and get you started on the path to feeling strong, empowered, respected, and being treated with the kindness, care, and love you deserve.

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