Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of burnout, constantly giving and never taking time for yourself? In this episode, I dive into the concept of *wanting*—why so many of us, especially women, lose touch with our own desires and how to reclaim them.

We’ve been taught that being the “good girl” means putting everyone else first, but at what cost? I explore the impact of this mindset, the necessity of rest, and how learning to prioritize yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential.

I also share insights from my own life, from skating as an adult to teaching spin class, and what they reveal about growth, failure, and nervous system regulation. Plus, I give you a sneak peek into next week’s episode, where we’ll talk even more about breaking free from outdated expectations.

✨ **Follow me on Instagram (@theamandahess) and TikTok for more insights.** Ready for deeper support? Book a free discovery call at [amandahess.ca](http://amandahess.ca).

🔹 **(00:00) – Welcome & Life Updates**

I’m getting ready for a trip to Puerto Rico for a business mastermind and reflecting on how exciting (and exhausting) travel can be.

🔹 **(02:15) – Why So Many of Us Stop Wanting**

As we move through life, we often stop prioritizing what *we* want. Instead, we live in a performative way, following the expectations placed upon us.

🔹 **(05:30) – The Epidemic of Burnout & Over-Giving**

Women are taught to give endlessly—our time, energy, and love. But where does that leave *us*? If you’re feeling exhausted, it’s time to take a step back and reassess.

🔹 **(08:10) – The Role of Nervous System Regulation in Change**

Figuring out what you want requires stepping outside of your comfort zone, which can be unsettling. That’s why nervous system regulation is *key* to making lasting shifts.

🔹 **(11:20) – A Client’s Story: The Travel Trailer vs. The Boat**

A powerful real-life example of how we unconsciously say no to ourselves in order to accommodate others—and how that can slowly erode our sense of self.

🔹 **(14:35) – Why You Need Intentional Time for Yourself**

You can’t figure out what you want by cramming self-care into the cracks of your day. Intentional time is essential to reconnecting with yourself.

🔹 **(17:10) – The Finish Line Myth: You’re Already Enough**

We often think we’ll be “enough” once we achieve certain milestones. But what if the real goal is realizing *you’re already enough* just as you are?

🔹 **(19:45) – Sneak Peek: My Conversation with Maggie Reyes**

Next week, I’ll be sharing a conversation with my former marriage coach, Maggie Reyes. She shares a game-changing mindset shift: treating yourself as if you were one of your kids—prioritizing *your* needs just as much as you prioritize theirs.

🔹 **(21:00) – Final Thoughts & Next Steps**

What would it take for you to prioritize yourself today? If you’re feeling stuck, coaching might be the next step. DM me on Instagram (@theamandahess) or book a free discovery call at [amandahess.ca](http://amandahess.ca).

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In this episode, I’m breaking down the key differences between coaching and therapy—a topic that often confuses people. While both provide emotional support, they serve very different purposes. Coaching is action-oriented, focused on shifting your mindset, regulating emotions, and taking steps toward real change, whereas therapy tends to focus more on deep emotional processing and past traumas.

If you’ve ever wondered whether coaching is right for you or how it differs from therapy, this episode will give you the clarity you need!

🔹 Want to experience coaching firsthand? Join my upcoming masterclass for just $10 at joinamanda.ca.

[00:00] - Introduction

• Why I felt called to record this episode.
• The common misunderstanding between coaching and therapy.

[02:15] - Why People Seek Coaching & How It Compares to Therapy

• Many women come to coaching feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or emotionally dysregulated.
• Coaching is not cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), though they have some overlaps.

[05:30] - What Coaching Looks Like in Practice

• The first step in coaching is creating emotional safety.
• I help clients regulate their nervous system so they can start thinking more clearly.
• Simple tools like breathwork, movement, sensory engagement, and scheduling self-care.

[09:45] - The Shift from Emotional Regulation to Thought Work

• Coaching helps you change how you think—not just what you think.
• We begin questioning deeply ingrained beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
• The difference between coaching and therapy: coaching is solution-focused and actionable.

[14:00] - How Social Conditioning Holds Women Back

• Many of us have been taught to prioritize others’ needs over our own.
• People-pleasing, overworking, and feeling like life is a performance rather than something you truly live.
• How coaching helps you break free from these patterns and create a life that feels aligned.

[18:30] - Why Questioning Your Thoughts Is the Key to Transformation

• Most of us believe our thoughts are absolute truths, but they’re just perspectives.
• When we start questioning what we think is “right” or “necessary,” we unlock real change.
• Coaching teaches you to reshape your mindset so you can take control of your life.

[22:00] - Closing Thoughts & Next Steps

• The power of coaching in shifting your mindset and daily experience.
• Want to dive deeper? Join my upcoming masterclass for just $10 at joinamanda.ca.
• Connect with me on Instagram & TikTok (@TheAmandaHess) or book a free consult at amandahess.ca/bookacall.

In this episode, I dive into the topic of self-worth, something I surprisingly haven’t covered in depth before—despite this being my 245th episode! I reflect on my podcast journey and how over 130,000 listeners have tuned in, which is incredible.

We often feel like we’re not enough, whether in relationships, careers, or personal growth. But the truth is, self-worth is intrinsic—it’s something we are born with, not something we have to earn. The challenge is not about proving our worth but learning how to navigate fear, self-doubt, and emotions so they don’t hold us back.

I share how shifting our perspective on self-worth can transform our confidence and overall experience of life. Instead of trying to “feel good enough,” we should focus on processing emotions, balancing our inner world, and taking action despite fear.

If this resonates with you, I’m hosting a confidence masterclass on February 11th to go even deeper into these ideas. You can register at joinamanda.ca. Let’s build the life we truly want—without questioning our worth.

Tune in and let’s talk self-worth!

• Amanda reflects on reaching 245 podcast episodes and how over 130,000 people have listened.
• She realizes she’s never done a full episode on self-worth before, which surprises her.
• Welcomes both new and returning listeners.

• Many women struggle with feeling “not good enough.”
• Self-worth influences confidence, happiness, and fulfillment in life.
• A common belief: “I don’t feel like I have self-worth” → This thinking keeps us stuck.

• Self-worth is intrinsic—it’s not something we earn, prove, or lose.
• Example: A newborn baby has full worth despite doing nothing—why wouldn’t that be true for adults?
• Key takeaway: We don’t have to search for or create self-worth—it’s already there.

• Many people chase self-worth through:
  • Productivity & success
  • Relationships & approval
  • Physical appearance & achievements
• But when is it ever enough? The cycle never ends because we’re looking in the wrong place.

• People often say, “I’m not starting because I don’t feel good enough.”
• The real issue is fear of failure, rejection, or uncertainty.
• Example: Dating fears → It’s not about self-worth but about learning to navigate emotions like fear and uncertainty.

• You don’t need more self-worth—you need to get comfortable with discomfort.
• Confidence comes from:
  • Feeling fear and taking action anyway.
  • Learning to regulate emotions.
  • Trusting yourself to handle challenges.
• The key is not avoiding fear but learning to process it.

• Feeling “not enough” leads to feeling powerless.
• Instead of trying to feel worthy, ask: “What do I actually want, and how do I get there?”
• Learning to navigate emotions like fear, frustration, and overwhelm leads to real confidence.

• You already have self-worth—you don’t need to prove it.
• The real work is learning how to navigate emotions and take action despite fear.
• If this resonates, join the Confidence Masterclass on February 11th to dive deeper.
  • Register at: joinamanda.ca
  • Time: 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST
  • Cost: $9.95 USD
• Final message: You are already enough—now, let’s focus on creating the life you want.