Beating yourself up might feel productive, but it's actually keeping you stuck in the same painful patterns. The real work of healing from trauma isn't about fixing all your problems or thinking positive thoughts. It's about developing self-love as a skill—a feeling you can generate in your body that becomes the fuel for different actions.

In this episode, I'm sharing why the skill of self-love isn't fluff. Through a specific process of recognizing when you're in a trauma response and bringing love to that moment, you can start to grow around your pain rather than trying to make it disappear.

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Life moves in seasons, just like the world around us. Summer turns to fall, winter melts into spring, and nature shows us how to flow with change. Yet in our own lives, we often fight those shifts—pushing ourselves to stay in “summer mode,” always productive, always busy, always trying to feel amazing.

In this episode, I’m sharing how to honor where you are right now and use each season to your advantage. You’ll discover why rest can be just as productive as action, how to nurture new growth, and when to harvest the wisdom your current season is offering. Most importantly, you’ll walk away knowing that no season lasts forever—and each one is preparing you for what’s next.

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Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, life just keeps letting you down? Like you’re stuck in a cycle of disappointment that seems impossible to break? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. But chronic disappointment doesn’t have to be the way you live forever.

In this episode, I’m showing you how to shift out of this cycle and finally experience the joy and fulfillment you’ve been waiting for. Learn how to move beyond disappointment, stop playing small, and start reclaiming the joy and satisfaction that’s waiting for you.

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As a culture, we don’t know how to grieve. We’re expected to keep it together, stay strong, and move on, even though grief is one of the most universal human experiences. The truth is, when no one models how to grieve, it’s easy to feel lost, broken, or like you’re “doing it wrong.”

In this episode, I’m opening up about my own experiences with grief - the loss of my mom, my mother-in-law, and even beloved pets - and what I’ve learned along the way. When we allow ourselves to feel grief fully, it becomes not just bearable, but healing. Discover how to stop resisting the waves of sadness, why missing someone is not a problem to solve, and how grief can actually introduce you to deeper parts of yourself.

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Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.

In this episode, I’m talking about why advocacy feels so hard and why our nervous systems often default to people-pleasing instead of speaking up. I’ll also share three practical communication strategies that help you ask for what you need without collapsing into shame or guilt. These tools will help you protect your energy, clarify your relationships, and model consent while staying in integrity with yourself. Advocacy isn’t about being difficult. It’s about finally belonging to yourself first.

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Emotional safety is more than just a buzzword. It’s the foundation for healing and thriving in every area of your life. But for many women, creating emotional safety can feel like an abstract idea. And honestly, it wasn’t until I really started to dig into it as a coach that I understood what it truly meant.

In this episode, I break down why emotional safety isn’t about being calm or waiting for others to “make” you feel safe, but rather starts when you go first. That means acknowledging your emotions and taking the steps to regulate your own nervous system, even when everything around you feels out of control.

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If you’ve ever felt emotionally overwhelmed, mislabeled, or unsupported by traditional systems, this space is for you. I’m Amanda Hess, a trauma-informed life coach, and I’m here to help you reclaim your true identity beyond clinical labels and build radical self-trust.

In each episode, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and stories that will help you create emotional safety within yourself, set boundaries that honor your unique experience, and stop trying to fix yourself. If you’re ready to break free from shame, overwhelm, and the pressure to perform, hit follow now and join me on this journey to love yourself no matter what.

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Do you always think that you're the problem? Are you constantly trying to be more perfect? Are you angry at others and don't quite know why? In this episode, I'm exploring how internalized shame shows up in our everyday thoughts and behaviors, often disguised as perfectionism, resentment, or self-criticism.

You'll discover practical ways to recognize shame when it arises, understand why it can't be white-knuckled away, and learn how to grow your capacity to feel difficult emotions through nervous system regulation. And I'll guide you through the process of shining a light on shame, releasing its grip, and ultimately reclaiming your inner authority so you can stop hiding pieces of yourself and start living from a place of truth rather than fear.

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