The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

Auteur(s): Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
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  • Welcome to The Anxious to Secure PODCAST! 🎙️ If you’re anxiously attached and ready to feel EMPOWERED without constantly chasing your emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner, then this podcast is for YOU! 🤍 I’m Jula, a certified life coach who spent 30 years unknowingly letting my Anxious Attachment Style and Relationship Anxiety control my love life. But guess what? In JUST 6 months , I transformed into a more secure version of myself 🫳🏻🎤 aaaaaand I’m here to share how you can do the same. Ready to step into your SECURE YOU ERA? ✨🤍
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  • 31: 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST

    31: 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST
    Mar 13 2025

    🔓 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST | Stop the obsession & reclaim your power 🔓

    Discover how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST through these proven 4 steps. If you're constantly obsessing over someone, checking their social media, and feeling anxious when they don't respond, this episode is for YOU.

    I'm sharing guaranteed ways to emotionally detach that have transformed my life and my clients' relationships. These guaranteed ways to emotionally detach will help you break free from attachment without losing your ability to love. When you learn how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST, you'll finally escape the endless cycle of anxiety, overthinking, and emotional dependency.

    In this deeply personal episode, I share my 30-year journey from anxious attachment to emotional freedom, with relationship advice for women and relationship advice for men seeking to heal. These 4 powerful steps will help you stop obsessing over him/her and start reclaiming your own life.

    The truth? When you DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST, you actually become more attractive! I'll show you exactly how to emotionally detach without shutting down your heart.

    🔑 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

    • 8 hidden reasons why you can't let go of someone you love
    • How to DETACH yourself from someone you love while still being open to love
    • 4 guaranteed ways to emotionally detach and rebuild your self-trust
    • The secret to stop obsessing over someone who doesn't value you
    • How to transform anxious attachment into secure confidence
    • Why detachment is actually the key to re-attracting an avoidant

    📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐

    Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing

    https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint

    🎁 FREE RESOURCES: ⭑ Attachment Library: 25+ resources

    https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

    ⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz

    https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

    ⭑ Relationship Anxiety Flowchart

    https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow

    📢 ON SALE 📢 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO.

    (👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)

    https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101

    🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less

    https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

    🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)

    https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

    🖤 Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good? 🖤

    Book A free call to check if we are a good match:

    https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching

    CHAPTERS:

    00:00 Intro: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST 02:23 Quick Intro of who I am 04:52 The 4 Steps to Emotional Detachment 04:58 STEP 01: UNDERSTANDING WHY YOU'RE ATTACHED (7 Reasons) 05:03 Reason #1: You put them on a PEDESTAL 05:45 Reason #2: You have NEGATIVE BIAS in REVERSE 07:20 Reason #3: You've never learned to fulfill your OWN needs 12:28 Reason #4: You believe safety comes from OUTSIDE, not WITHIN 14:19 Reason #5: You lack SELF-TRUST 14:51 Reason #6: You're caught in REPETITION 16:25 Reason #7: You're obsessed with CONTROL 19:34 Reason #8: You've created a FALSE REALITY 21:26 STEP 2: CHALLENGE YOUR BELIEFS 24:23 STEP 03: MEET YOUR OWN NEEDS 24:56 01. Give yourself what you need FIRST 27:08 02. Create MORE sources to meet your needs 29:03 STEP 04: ALIGNED ACTIONS 29:52 How detach FAST 33:55 Remember this...

    Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

    DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
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    35 min
  • 30: I was the 🚩RED flag in my relationship: 10 raw Lessons I Learned as an ANXIOUS Partner

    30: I was the 🚩RED flag in my relationship: 10 raw Lessons I Learned as an ANXIOUS Partner
    Mar 10 2025
    📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐 Get on the waitlist (link below) for exclusive early-bird pricing! https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint 🔍 Are you struggling with relationship red flags and don't know why your relationships keep “failing” or feel unfulfilling? In this deeply personal episode, I pull back the curtains on something most people don't want to admit - sometimes WE are the red flag in our anxious-avoidant relationships. As an anxious partner for 30 years, I understand the painful cycle of anxiety, overthinking, and relationship insecurity that comes with an anxious attachment style in relationships. Do you experience these anxious attachment patterns? You're constantly fishing for compliments, analyzing every mood shift as a sign something's wrong, turning silence into evidence of abandonment, and never quite believing your partner's reassurance. If this sounds familiar, you might be an anxious partner in an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic! This episode is specifically for YOU! 💕 I share how I transformed from an anxious partner plagued by relationship red flags into someone with a secure attachment style. Through understanding the anxious-avoidant trap and healing my core wounds, I've helped hundreds of clients break free from these painful relationship patterns too. Discover what happens in the anxious partner's mind during the "chase" (a trauma response!), learn why anxious attachment style in relationships creates such intense emotions, and understand the anxious-avoidant relationship dance that keeps you stuck. I break down how to recognize anxious attachment behaviors, heal relationship red flags you might be creating, and transform your relationships from chaotic to calm and secure. GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐 👉 Get on the waitlist (link below) for exclusive early-bird pricing! 7 Powerful Journaling Prompts to STOP Being the Red FLAG in Your Relationship📝✨ What's my biggest fear? 😱 What are three reasons I continue to act despite this fear? 🤔 If I weren't afraid of losing my partner or feeling like I'm not good enough, how would this change the way I show up in my relationship? ❤️‍🔥 Where am I putting too much focus on things I can't control? 🌪 What do I need to give myself in order to feel more secure? 🔐 What do I need to release or let go of to move forward? 🕊️ If I knew for sure that I would be happy and loved, how would I show up differently in my relationship and life? 🌟 START HERE (ON SALE🔥) 🖤 Check out my Attachment 101 Master Guide https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101 📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐 Get on the waitlist (link below) for exclusive early-bird pricing! https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint 🎁 FREE STUFF: ⭑ Attachment Library: 25 plus resources https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach ⭑Youtube (@theanxioustosecurecoach): Say hi and watch the episodes as videos https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5wSeO1Nhjo&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=4 ⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz ⭑ Relationship Anxiety "he doesn't reply" Flowchart https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow 🎓 MINI COURSES 🖤 TEXT ANXIETY Mini-Course: Stop Obsessing Over Text in 27 days or less https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety 🖤 Stop Overthinking Your Relationship With Your Avoidant Partner in 4 Steps https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse ✨ 1:1 SUPPORT ✨ 🖤 Ready to become more SECURE? https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching 🖤 Text and Talk Your Secure Attachment Coach—Right in Your Pocket! https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk 📖 CHAPTERS: 00:00 Relationship Red Flags Intro 01:37 Why this is NOT about Shaming or Blaming Yourself 02:51 10 Red Flag Relationship Lessons 02:56 Lesson 1: Believing Relationships Should Be 50:50 05:21 Lesson 2: Pushing "Healing" onto my partner and others 07:24 Lesson 3: The Endless Chase: A Trauma Response 09:51 Lesson 4: Reacting to Conflict Like It's a Crisis 12:42 Lesson 5: Not Trusting Myself (or the Relationship) 13:30 Lesson 6: Letting Fear and Anxiety Control My Actions 16:19 Lesson 7: Mistaking Intensity for Intimacy 17:55 Lesson 8: Ignoring My Core Wound Patterns 19:13 Lesson 9: Failing to Set Loving Boundaries 20:04 Lesson 10: Creating an Atmosphere of Criticism Instead of Appreciation 21:38 The Ripple Effect of Healing 23:28 7 Journaling Prompts to STOP being a Red Flag in Your Relationship #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipRedFlags #AttachmentTheory #AnxiousPartner #AnxiousAvoidantRelationship Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action. DISCLAIMER: I’m not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It’s not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental ...
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    24 min
  • 29: WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's VALIDATION: 7 Powerful Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships

    29: WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's VALIDATION: 7 Powerful Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships
    Mar 6 2025

    Are you a CHASER and your partner is ESCAPING (= pulling away and withdrawing)?

    Then...

    WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's validation: 7 POWERFUL Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships 🔥

    Because if you need a lot of approval, validation or reassurance... then we need to talk. THIS will trigger your (Avoidant) Partner's Core wounds of "help I'm losing independence"

    Do you worry you're not good enough? This video reveals the exact process to break free from relationship insecurity once and for all.

    I share my personal journey from constant validation-seeking to genuine confidence, including how gaining 20 kilos unexpectedly transformed my relationship with myself. Learn why your attachment patterns are sabotaging your connections and pushing partners away.

    The 7-Step Insecurity Neutralizer that actually works:

    1. Identify your specific triggers 🔍
    2. Recognize your attachment patterns 🏷️
    3. Connect to your past wounds 🔗
    4. Challenge your limiting beliefs 🤔
    5. Reframe your self-worth narrative 📝
    6. Anchor yourself with positive emotions 🌬️
    7. Take aligned action instead of seeking approval 👣

    Discover why avoidant partners pull away when you chase validation and how to create a healthy dynamic instead. This isn't about temporary confidence fixes—it's about permanent transformation from insecurity to genuine self-worth.

    LIBRARY

    Attachment ✎ᝰ.Self-Study Vault 🫶🏻❤️‍🩹 (worksheets, guides, downloads, etc)

    📢 ON SALE 📢

    • 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
    • TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less (it's never about the text..)Mini Course:
    • STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner in 4 STEPS Mini Course:

    FREE STUFF

    • 🎧💌📖 FREE COURSE: How to stop overthinking in Your relationships
    • 21 WAYS to download the 🙋🏼‍♀️21 WAYS to STOP Abandoning yourself
    • The Worry-Free Flow-Chart for Relationship Anxiety
    • Self Esteem KIT to learn to be GOOD ENOUGH, lovable and worthy from within
    • Stop Chasing Reassurance in 4 Steps

    #howtoStopbeinginsecure #StopChasingValidation #AttachmentTheory #SelfWorth
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    24 min

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