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Welcome to the Kids with Big Emotions Podcast! This is our 100th episode—a huge milestone! Thank you for being part of this journey. Today, we’re diving into a crucial topic: Why anxiety in kids is skyrocketing like never before.

If you’re a parent, teacher, or caregiver, you’ve probably noticed that children today seem more anxious than ever. Even compared to past generations who lived through wars and economic crises, today’s kids are struggling at an unprecedented level.

But why is this happening? In this episode, Andi explores the hidden drivers of anxiety, how they impact brain development, and practical strategies to help kids navigate this complex digital age.

• Anxiety is not just a mindset issue—it has deep physiological and neurological roots.
• Social media and screens are rewiring kids’ brains, making it harder for them to self-regulate and focus.
• The gut and nervous system play a critical role in anxiety—imbalances in gut health can directly impact mood.
• Environmental toxins in everyday products are disrupting kids’ hormones, further exacerbating stress and anxiety.
• It’s not about banning screens altogether, but about teaching kids healthy tech habits.
• Supporting kids with anxiety requires a holistic approach, not just telling them to “calm down.”

[00:00] - Celebrating 100 episodes! The importance of understanding childhood anxiety today.

[02:00] - Addressing common myths: It’s not just about “kids being soft” or “social media being the problem.”

[04:00] - The science behind anxiety: How screens, stress, and environment impact the nervous system.

[05:00] - Insights from The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt—how smartphones are rewiring kids’ brains.

[07:00] - A personal story: How unchecked screen time led to depression and anxiety in my own child.

[10:00] - Screens and addiction: Why kids struggle to stop gaming or scrolling.

[15:00] - The “whiteboard effect” in the brain: How screen overload reduces focus and executive function.

[20:00] - Executive functioning and screens: Why kids struggle with transitioning between tasks.

[27:00] - The nervous system in overdrive: How constant stress rewires kids’ ability to self-regulate.

[32:00] - Gut health and anxiety: Why digestion and serotonin production matter.

[35:00] - Environmental toxins: How synthetic fragrances, plastics, and household products affect anxiety.

[42:00] - Comparing today’s anxiety crisis to past generations—why modern stressors are different.

[44:00] - How to help kids develop digital resilience instead of banning screens completely.

[47:00] - Introducing the Support Circle—a community to help parents navigate anxiety, screens, and stress management.

Resources Mentioned

📖 The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt – Explores the impact of screens on brain development -

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Parenting kids with big emotions is no easy task, especially when explosive outbursts, school struggles, and executive functioning challenges are part of daily life.

In this episode, Andi is joined by Shauna B, a life reinvention and motivation coach for single and divorced moms, who shares her powerful journey of raising children with intense emotions.

Together, they discuss the long game of emotional regulation, how to navigate school challenges, and the importance of self-care for parents.

Shauna shares her personal experience of parenting through meltdowns, school battles, and behavioral struggles, and how she found effective strategies to help her kids develop emotional resilience.

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed or searching for practical tools, this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and empowered in your parenting journey.

✔️ Big emotions aren’t just behavior problems – They often stem from executive functioning struggles, ADHD, sensory processing challenges, or emotional regulation difficulties.

✔️ The school system often doesn’t understand emotional regulation struggles – IEPs can be helpful, but they often serve as band-aids rather than addressing the root of the challenges.

✔️ Homeschooling and alternative education can be game-changers – Finding a learning environment that meets your child’s needs may require thinking outside the traditional school system.

✔️ Self-care for parents isn’t optional—it’s essential – The more you recharge, the more you can help your child through their emotional struggles.

✔️ Every child needs different strategies – What works for one child may not work for another, so flexibility and patience are key.

✔️ Success is in the long game – Helping kids regulate emotions takes time, persistence, and a strong support system.

📍 [00:02:00] Meet Shauna B – Single mom of three, life reinvention coach, and advocate for parents navigating big emotions.

📍 [00:04:00] Recognizing the signs – Shauna shares how she noticed the first signs of emotional struggles in her kids, including volcanic outbursts, impulsivity, and challenges with self-regulation.

📍 [00:07:00] The long game of emotional regulation – Why parenting kids with big emotions requires patience, persistence, and a mindset shift.

📍 [00:10:00] The challenges of parenting different kids with different needs – How Shauna had to adjust her parenting approach between her two sons, one with explosive outbursts and another with aggressive behaviors.

📍 [00:15:00] Schools don’t always get it – How executive functioning struggles impact emotional regulation, and why IEPs and traditional school interventions often fall short.

📍 [00:20:00] The decision to homeschool – Shauna’s journey to pulling her son from school, homeschooling, and eventually finding an online program that worked for him.

📍 [00:27:00] The power of reducing overwhelm – How breaking tasks into smaller steps helped Shauna’s son regain confidence and manage his schoolwork.

📍 [00:38:00] Modeling emotional regulation...

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Have you ever watched your child and wondered why they see the world so differently? Maybe they ask deep questions, feel emotions intensely, or struggle to fit into the traditional mold. Or perhaps you’ve felt misunderstood yourself. In this episode, Andi dives into what it means to think differently, why it’s often misinterpreted, and how to embrace these differences as strengths.

By the end of this episode, you'll have a new perspective on deep thinkers, big feelers, and outside-the-box kids—and maybe even a deeper understanding of yourself. Instead of trying to "fix" these children, we can support them in stepping into their superpowers.

• Different doesn’t mean wrong – Children who think deeply, feel intensely, or question everything aren’t broken. They see the world uniquely, and that’s a gift.
• Society often misunderstands neurodiverse kids – Many kids are expected to fit into a one-size-fits-all mold, but movement, deep thinking, and curiosity shouldn’t be seen as problems.
• Your child’s challenges may be their superpowers – Struggles with focus, overthinking, or heightened sensitivity can turn into strengths when supported correctly.
• Reframing parenting approaches – Instead of asking, How do I get my child to stop doing this?, ask, How do I support my child’s strengths?
• Healing your own childhood experiences – Many parents grew up feeling misunderstood. Recognizing and healing from that can help in supporting your child more effectively.

• [00:00:00] Introduction: Why this topic is deeply personal for Andi and how it shaped her parenting journey.
• [00:02:00] The struggles of thinking differently: Why some kids don’t fit in and how that can make them feel isolated.
• [00:05:00] Movement and focus: Why some children need physical activity to think clearly.
• [00:08:00] The "silent but deadly" child: How quiet, deep thinkers process information in ways adults might miss.
• [00:11:00] Kids who anticipate everything: How children who overanalyze are often future planners and strategists.
• [00:14:00] Misinterpretations: When kids' natural tendencies are seen as problematic instead of valuable.
• [00:16:00] The discomfort of being different: How society reacts to kids who don’t fit into the norm.
• [00:22:00] Breaking generational cycles: Recognizing how your own experiences impact how you parent.
• [00:28:00] Suppressing vs. supporting: How kids lose confidence when they’re told to "tone it down."
• [00:31:00] Andi’s experience with neurodiverse entrepreneurs: A real-world example of thinking differently as a strength.
• [00:36:00] Actionable parenting strategies: How to support your child’s deep thinking, big emotions, and curiosity.
• [00:39:00] Final thoughts: Changing the narrative from fixing to understanding and embracing.

• The Highly Sensitive Child by Dr. Elaine Aron – A must-read for parents of deeply feeling children. (

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Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, and even the best-prepared parents find themselves learning, adapting, and sometimes messing up along the way. In this episode, I sit down with Reesa Morala, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to talk about what it really means to navigate parenting challenges, embrace the learning process, and give yourself grace along the way.

We dive into the reality of parenting differences, handling guilt and shame, and why self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, struggling with your child’s emotions, or just wondering if you’re getting it “right,” this episode will remind you: Parenting is a work in progress, and that’s okay.

✅ It’s normal for parents to have different parenting styles—what matters is how you communicate and find common ground.

✅ Guilt and shame are common, but they don’t make you a bad parent—learning and growing do.

✅ Even therapists and parenting experts mess up! The key is how you repair and move forward.

✅ Self-care makes you a better parent, not a selfish one.

✅ Curiosity (instead of assumptions) can improve communication with both your partner and your child.

✅ Kids mirror what we model—showing them how to manage stress and emotions helps them learn to do the same.

• [00:00] – Welcome
• [02:00] – Reesa introduces herself and shares her background as a therapist and parent
• [05:00] – The challenge of different parenting styles and why communication is key
• [10:00] – Even parenting experts mess up! Why it’s about progress, not perfection
• [12:00] – The importance of self-awareness: Noticing when you’ve fallen off track
• [17:00] – Dealing with guilt and shame as a parent (and why it’s never too late to grow)
• [20:00] – Why prioritizing your needs actually benefits your kids
• [25:00] – When one child feels easier to parent than another (and how to handle it)
• [30:00] – The power of tagging in your partner and asking for help
• [35:00] – What self-care really looks like (hint: it’s different for everyone)
• [38:00] – How dance parties, coloring, or playing in the mud can be self-care
• [42:00] – Making small shifts: Adding instead of taking away
• [45:00] – Teaching kids emotional regulation through curiosity and collaboration

🔗 Reesa’s Website & Group: https://www.embracerenewaltherapy.com

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In this episode of Kids With Big Emotions, Andi dives into the delicate balance of knowing when to push your child and when to pull back. Parenting neurodiverse kids or those with big emotions can feel overwhelming, especially when societal pressures push for uniform benchmarks and comparisons.

Andi introduces the concept of the "Learning Ladder," a step-by-step approach to helping kids develop skills and confidence at their own pace. Whether you're grappling with homework meltdowns, morning routines, or big life transitions, this episode will help you meet your child where they are and celebrate their unique journey.

If you're ready to reframe expectations and discover actionable tools, this is an episode you won't want to miss!

Key Takeaways

1. The Learning Ladder Approach: Understanding that each child's development is unique and helping them climb one step at a time can reduce overwhelm and big emotions.
2. Meeting Kids Where They Are: Adjusting expectations isn’t lowering standards—it’s about aligning with a child’s abilities to foster confidence and success.
3. Challenging Societal Norms: Reject the pressure of benchmarks and comparisons that assume all kids should develop at the same pace.
4. Trial and Observation: Parents must experiment, observe, and adapt to figure out the right steps for their child’s growth.

Episode Highlights

[00:00:00] Introduction: Learning when to push and when to pull back as a parent.

[00:02:00] The Learning Ladder Concept: Shifting from a rigid “bar of expectations” to a ladder kids can climb step by step.

[00:06:00] Challenges of Comparisons and Expectations

[00:12:00] Knowing When to Push or Pull Back

[00:16:00] Implementing the Learning Ladder in Daily Life

[00:20:00] Reducing Emotional Outbursts

[00:24:00] Grace for Parents and Trial-and-Error Parenting

[00:25:00] Recap and Final Advice

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Parenting is a journey full of highs and lows, and no one escapes without moments of doubt, missteps, and learning. In this episode, Andi Clark delves into the realities of parenting and why perfectionism isn’t the goal. Instead, it’s about recognizing your own growth, embracing imperfections, and giving your children the tools to thrive in their unique way.

Join Andi as she explores how to navigate the ups and downs of parenting with compassion for yourself and your child.

Key Takeaways:

1. Perfectionism is not the goal in parenting; embracing imperfections fosters growth for both parents and children.
2. Parenting challenges are universal, but your response to them makes the difference.
3. Every child is unique, and their needs evolve. It's okay to adjust your approach as you learn more.
4. You’re doing the best you can with the tools you have, and that’s enough.
5. Building a supportive environment for yourself and your child creates opportunities for growth and connection.

Episode Highlights with Timestamps:

[00:00:00] Introduction: Parenting is messy but rewarding. Why perfectionism isn’t the answer.

[00:01:30] Parenting doubts and the constant evolution of "the rules."

[00:04:00] Acknowledging your efforts: You’re doing the best with what you have.

[00:08:30] Recognizing every child’s unique reactions and needs.

[00:11:00] Generational trauma: How it shapes us and how we can break the cycle.

[00:13:00] Therapy as a tool for parents and kids to navigate challenges.

[00:14:30] Polyvagal Theory: Understanding your nervous system and its role in emotional regulation.

[00:20:00] Parenting tools: Why going at your own pace is critical.

[00:22:00] Encouraging resilience and independence in kids through measured freedom.

[00:28:00] The importance of grace and kindness for yourself as a parent.

[00:33:00] Final takeaway: You don’t have to be perfect to raise amazing kids.

Resources Mentioned:

• Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges: Understanding the three levels of the nervous system and its role in stress and regulation.
• The Support Circle Membership: A supportive space for parents to connect and learn tools at their own pace. Learn more at https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/
• Let Grow Project: Insights into fostering resilience in children.

Join the Support Circle: Looking for tools and strategies to navigate parenting with confidence? Join Andi’s Support Circle, a space designed to help you learn, grow, and connect with other parents. Visit https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ to learn more and book a call.

Remember, parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up, learning, and growing together. 💛

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Does your child struggle with changes in routine, perfectionism, or adapting to new perspectives? In this episode, Andi dives into cognitive flexibility—what it is, why it matters, and how it impacts your child’s emotional growth and executive functioning. Learn practical strategies to support your child in developing this crucial skill and gain insights into how cognitive inflexibility manifests in everyday situations.

Join Andi as she shares relatable examples, personal stories, and actionable tips to help your child adapt, manage transitions, and thrive.

1. Understanding Cognitive Flexibility: The ability to adapt to new information, changes, or unexpected challenges is essential for navigating social dynamics, managing transitions, and solving problems.
2. The Role of Perception, Attention, and Inhibition: Foundational skills like working memory and attention play a significant role in cognitive flexibility.
3. Perfectionism and Inflexibility: Fear of mistakes often stems from trauma or learned behaviors, impacting children’s willingness to try new things or accept feedback.
4. Modeling Mistakes: Parents can help children by verbalizing their own mistakes and demonstrating adaptive responses.
5. Cognitive Flexibility Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All: Every child’s challenges are unique, and solutions should be tailored to their specific needs.

• [00:00] Introduction: What is cognitive flexibility, and why does it matter?
• [00:02] Everyday Examples: How rigidity shows up in transitions, routines, and social interactions.
• [00:06] Social Media and Polarized Thinking: The impact of algorithms on cognitive inflexibility.
• [00:08] Perfectionism in Kids: Stories of how fear of mistakes affects learning and play.
• [00:13] Foundational Skills: The role of perception, attention, and inhibition in building flexibility.
• [00:18] Practical Strategies: Using modeling to normalize mistakes and build adaptability.
• [00:31] Intake Form Questions: Identifying where your child struggles with cognitive flexibility.
• [00:38] A Simple Strategy: How parents can model resilience and adaptability for their children.
• [00:41] Closing and Resources: How to explore more resources in the Support Circle.

Book Recommendation: Switch by Chip Heath and Dan Heath—an exploration of problem-solving and adaptive thinking. https://heathbrothers.com/books/switch/

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Show Notes

Does your child hesitate to begin tasks, even when they know what to do? In this episode, we explore why getting started can be so challenging for kids and how parents can support them effectively. We’ll uncover the connections between initiation, executive functioning, and emotional regulation, offering practical strategies to help your child take that all-important first step.

Key Takeaways

1. What Is Initiation? The ability to begin tasks independently is a core executive functioning skill that many kids struggle to develop.
2. Why Some Kids Get Stuck: Foundational skills like perception, attention, and working memory play a critical role in initiating tasks. Weaknesses in these areas can make getting started feel overwhelming.
3. Stress and Executive Functioning: A child’s nervous system can become taxed by emotional, sensory, or physical stress, further reducing their ability to start tasks.
4. Practical Steps for Parents: Breaking tasks into manageable chunks, creating routines, and building on small successes can help kids develop initiation skills over time.
5. Patience and Compassion: Every child’s journey is different. A supportive approach that celebrates small wins can make a significant difference.

Episode Highlights

• [00:00:00] Introduction: Why initiation matters and the focus of today’s episode.
• [00:03:00] What Is Initiation? Understanding why starting tasks independently is a challenge for many kids.
• [00:07:00] The Role of Foundational Skills: How perception, attention, and working memory are linked to initiation.
• [00:12:00] Personal Example: Andi shares a story of her son’s challenges with initiation and how stress impacts his progress.
• [00:17:00] Stress and Its Impact: The connection between stressors, executive functioning, and task initiation.
• [00:20:00] Strategies for Success: Practical ways to help kids break through hesitation and start with confidence.
• [00:28:00] Building Momentum: Celebrating small victories to reinforce positive patterns.
• [00:30:00] Recap and Closing: A compassionate reminder to approach initiation struggles with patience.