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Struggling to let go? Whether you're anxiously attached to a person, an outcome, or the way you thought life should be by now - this episode is for you.

When you're constantly waiting for reassurance, obsessing over what might happen, or clinging to control, it only fuels more anxiety. Feeling secure and peaceful comes from learning to detach.. as you will hear in this episode... that doesn't mean caring less from caring less in fact it's something else entirely.

In this episode, Carly Ann explore's:
✨ The Law of Detachment
✨ Radical Acceptance
✨ Retraining Your Attention (a practice to break free from obsessive thinking)

This isn’t even just about relationships today, it’s about how you show up in every part of life. Let’s talk about how to stop gripping so hard and start trusting that what’s meant for you will find you.

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This podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this!

Join Carly Ann for practical steps, mindset shifts, and real-talk on how to start choosing secure, healthy love. No overanalyzing - just how you can change your type for good.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? Are you doing the work to heal attachment wounds but keep repeating patterns?

In this episode, Carly Ann dives into key psychological techniques that can help break free from the anxious attachment drama cycle and create real, lasting change.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in overthinking, emotional highs and lows, or unhealthy relationship patterns, this episode is for you. Carly Ann shares how these tools can help you regain control, build secure attachment, and experience love in a way that feels safe.

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Is your inner critic running your mood? Be honest, has it been running the show for too long? Usually the inner critic is loud, especially if you have an anxious attachment style.

In this episode, Carly Ann explores how this harsh inner voice keeps you stuck, settling for less than you deserve, and holding back from true happiness.

She shares a simple but powerful two-step process to start shifting the way you speak to yourself this week, so you can begin reparenting yourself and building a healthier, more loving relationship with you.

It really is the time to break free from self-criticism and discover your most compassionate self. You’ve always deserved this and it is important if your serious about becoming secure.

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• Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025)
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Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style?

So, you know that moment when your stomach drops because they took too long to text back? Or when you convince yourself they’re losing interest, even if nothing has actually happened? And then, before you know it, you’re overthinking, checking their socials, or panicking about being left?

That’s the anxious attachment drama cycle...and it’s exhausting.

In this episode, Carly Ann walks you through 7 key steps of this attachment cycleso you can see exactly where you recognise yourself and where real change can happen. Because if you want to heal anxious attachment and become securely attached, you have to recognise this pattern first.

It’s not about blaming yourself (ever) it’s about finally understanding your attachment triggers, breaking free from relationship anxiety, and learning how to feel safe in love.

🎧 Listen now & take another step towards secure attachment

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In this episode, I’m joined by Frankie Olivia (@Frankiestherapy), a trauma-responsive creative psychotherapist and EMDR psychotherapist, to discuss living with and healing anxious attachment.

We explore:
✨ Understanding needs & unmet needs
✨ Separation anxiety and why it feels so intense
✨ The first thing to do when you notice you’re triggered
✨ Techniques to regulate your nervous system
✨ How progress and healing can feel slow
✨ Navigating guilt in the healing process

Discussed in this episode:

- 54321 Technique

- Podcast epsiode on Polyvagal Theory is dated 20th March 2022

If you’re on a journey to becoming more secure, this episode is packed with insights and tools to support you

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If you always lose yourself in love, put everyone else first, and feel like your happiness depends on someone else...this one is definitely for you today.

Carly Ann gives you a key principle from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that will help you stop abandoning yourself in relationships, dating, and even situationships with unavailable partners.

This goes beyond just love...because when you keep sacrificing yourself to make others stay, it affects your confidence, mental health, and ability to feel secure in your own skin. It’s time to break free from the cycle of overthinking, people-pleasing, and making someone else your entire world.

No matter your relationship status, this is about you. Your self-worth doesn’t come from how much someone loves you or whether they choose you, it comes from within. Carly Ann is here to help you reconnect with who you really are, so you can build relationships without losing yourself. You deserve to feel whole, confident, and free - whether you’re single, dating, or deep in love.

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Have an anxious attachment?

If you’re stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-doubt, and craving reassurance in love, relationships & dating... your inner critic might be running the show. That harsh voice keeping you small, making you question your worth, and pushing you into relationships where you give more than you get...it’s exhausting and you've probably had enough!

In this episode, Carly Ann is bringing you a favourite idea that helped her on her own journey to becoming secure. Hopefully this will also help you recognise how your inner critic is holding you back and, more importantly, how to take a simple step towards self-compassion and secure attachment. She’ll walk you through the three stages of self-love so you can start to break free from toxic patterns and finally believe you are enough.

If you’re tired of being mean to yourself and ready to change the way you see yourself, this episode is for you. Tune in now

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025)
• FREE RESOURCES
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram