You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise?

In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powerful difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing. Because while kindness comes from empathy and choice, people-pleasing is often driven by fear, guilt, or a need for approval — and over time, it can quietly lead to burnout, resentment, and losing touch with who you really are.

I’ll walk you through the five types of people-pleasers — from the burnout pleaser to the chameleon — and share practical, down-to-earth strategies to help you tune into why you're saying yes, and what it’s costing you.

If this hits home and you're ready to get clear on what’s really behind your people-pleasing, head to my website and book in for a 90-minute Unlock Clarity session. Let’s make sense of it together.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

If you’re an Overcommitter, you probably find yourself automatically saying “yes”, often without even thinking. You’re seen as the 'dependable one', the 'strong one' always available to help. But you end up juggling far too much — running around, squeezing everything in, and quietly carrying the pressure because you don’t want to let anyone down.

The difficult part is, even with the best intentions, this pattern can lead you straight into overwhelm. You might feel frazzled, stretched too thin, double-booked, or so burnt out that you end up having to cancel at the last minute — leaving you feeling guilty, frustrated, and stuck in the same cycle again.

In this episode, I’ll share how to recognise if you're People-Pleaser personality is The Overcommiter and how you can begin to break out of this pattern. I hope this encourages you to consider the powerful shift of including yourself in the equation —thinking not just ‘How can I help you?’, but also ‘What about me too?’ when you’re deciding how much you can realistically commit to.

p.s. yes, if you listen carefully that is Max snoring in the background!

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

Do you get' what you need to do - you've read the self-help books and listened to the podcasts but you just don't feel able to implement the advice?

In today’s episode, I’m sharing my view of Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” - the idea that we aren’t responsible for managing other people’s emotions or choices. While this sounds liberating, for those with trauma histories, ADHD, rejection sensitivity, or deeply ingrained people-pleasing patterns, it’s rarely as simple as “just let them.”

I talk about why letting go of responsibility can feel unsafe and cover practical steps to begin gently shifting this pattern. If you've ever struggled to step back without guilt or anxiety - this one’s for you

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/